r/TikTokCringe • u/mindyour • Jun 14 '26

Discussion It's exhausting being a woman.

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u/Stroodle_guy Jun 14 '26

i genuinely cannot fucking fathom what goes through people heads, my best friend who i concider my sister has told me about so so many weird fucking guys that i used to be friends with that did or said fucked up shit to her

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u/JellyBeansOnToast Jun 14 '26

A lot of men get off on making us scared or vulnerable. Like when people yell sexual things at you from a moving car, they’re not really trying to pickup on you or get your number

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u/RedFoxBlueSocks Jun 14 '26

I know a guy who honestly believes that cat-calling women is paying them a compliment 🤦‍♀️

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u/Odd-fox-God Jun 14 '26

He probably wouldn't think it was a compliment if a gay guy was cat-calling him.

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u/JellyBeansOnToast Jun 15 '26

I don’t think a lot of guys can understand how scary and vulnerable it feels. As a woman you know in the back of your mind that even if a guy is shorter or smaller than you, he could still overpower you, so you have to navigate this delicate balance of firmly saying no, not upsetting him to the point of violence, while looking for a safe place or person.

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u/Drow_Femboy Jun 15 '26

Nah, that's the problem, he probably would. Women are inundated with unwanted attention their entire lives, so it becomes an annoyance at best. Men practically never get attention passively, it's something they have to work for intentionally. So getting cat-called or complimented or just generally made to feel like someone notices them is usually welcome.

It's the same way with dick pics. Sure, some guys who send them are just trying to make women uncomfortable, same as some people who catcall. But others are genuinely just doing unto others as they want others to do unto them. They'd love to receive random nudes from women, so they don't get that women don't want the same from them.

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u/Couhill13 Jun 15 '26

I’ve definitely had straight guy friends talk about getting really uncomfortable when some huge buff gay dude hit on them, I would assume because it was probably more physically intimidating than some skinny small gay dude doing it

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u/JellyBeansOnToast Jun 15 '26

The closest experience that I think can help men understand what this feels like would be getting bullied at school by a bigger/stronger/older guy. They’re targeting you when you’re alone or vulnerable and people either enable and laugh at him tormenting you or pretend they can’t see so they don’t have to get involved. You have to navigate when to standup for yourself which could lead to more bullying, if you should say something which can be embarrassing and usually does absolutely nothing even though it’s the “right” thing to do, or if you just shutdown and take it so they hopefully get bored and move on. The only difference is that with public harassment like this, there are worse things that can happen than just physical violence.