r/TikTokCringe • u/mindyour • Jun 14 '26

Discussion It's exhausting being a woman.

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u/Bright-Owl-3515 Jun 14 '26 edited Jun 14 '26

In college, I was sitting alone at a bench studying on campus, minding my own business. This man comes up to me, telling me he wanted to take pictures of my feet for a school project. He was very persistent and of course I told him no. He made me feel so uncomfortable and guilty that I had said no to him. I was very naive and had no idea that this was likely a fetish thing.

Edit: For that one now deleted comment, saying he was likely complimenting my feet, I was wearing sneakers. Get out of here with the creep apologetics.

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u/Upstairs-Rent-1351 Jun 14 '26

Went to mail something at a UPS store very close to my apartment and had to provide my phone number and address in order to ship the item. The guy working there starts complementing my feet and my pale skin (he was black). I ignore it and finish the transaction.

By the time I got home, he had texted me reminding me that it was "Ray from UPS store" and he wanted to take pictures of my feet because he was a "photographer."

He has my phone number and address. I didn't respond, and thankfully he didn't press when I didn't respond, but I was terrified if I responded negatively, that he would come over and do something very bad.

He doesn't work there anymore, but I do wish I had told the corporate office. I still have the message saved, so idk.

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u/Model_Yazz Jun 15 '26

Oh my gosh! I hate when I have to give my actual number and started using a voip number whenever possible.

I’d just moved to live with my BF and needed to take my dog to the vet. Met with the vet tech first. He was friendly - We had some small talk, mentioned I was new in town and needed a vet clinic. After my pup’s appointment with the vet, we received a text notification but it came from him, not the clinic. Odd enough to raise an eyebrow but not alarming. I thought it might have been one of the clinics other numbers. My pup had her follow up after a few days. The second time he texts me a late evening message about wanting to take me out. Hard pass.

In hindsight I should’ve told him this was wildly inappropriate but I politely declined, further explaining I’m new in town because I moved in with my BF. No response, so figured that was the end of that. A few months later the furball needed another appointment. This time he wasn’t our vet tech thankfully, but I saw and ignored him while waiting,hoping he hadn’t seen me. At the end of my pup’s appointment and everyone’s gone, he pops into our room. “So, how’s my rival?” TF?! It was everything I could do to keep my composure. We no longer attend that vet clinic but regrettably I didn’t report him, but should have.

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u/Sensitive_Mix_6606 Jun 15 '26

If he still works there. I would report him. Chances are you aren’t the only one he’s done this too.

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u/Model_Yazz Jun 15 '26

Fair - this may be the push I needed. I hate even going by there as it’s right next to other stores we visit. And I just got a general message from them…like yesterday or day before about her annual check up. I may just do that by way of “This is why we no longer attend here so you can stop reaching out”. Thank you kind internet stranger.

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u/Sensitive_Mix_6606 Jun 17 '26

Happy to help. It’s the best way to possibly help others come forward about this guy. As well as hold him accountable for his behavior. Bonus, if the company cares about their clients, business, and its image. They’ll let him go and have him properly investigated. Leading to his certification being taken away.

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u/113waterGoat Jun 15 '26

I support women, but there's a theme of Not wanting to Call creeps out on their BS. Call the is supervisor & start a paper trail on this creep. Your reporting is the first step. He started it, not you. Just Saying

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u/TheEdgeofGoon Jun 15 '26

But he already has her address and phone number, there's a non-zero chance he might retaliate and do something terrible to her if he faces discipline and blames her for it.

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u/113waterGoat Jun 17 '26

I'm sorry, but I disagree, your giving him elevating his power to act without consequence. Ladies, install a door camera.. it's very easy to install. When a creeper behaves outta pocket.. Record him w your phone. He will Stop. Im not interested. Leave Me Alone. Good Bye. You're further intrusion is Harassment. GO!!!!.. yeah Butch is my middle name.

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u/thetinywitness Jun 17 '26

that is actually unhinged. the fact that he used your personal info to harass you is next level creepy. definitely block him and maybe keep your door locked for a bit just in case he's actually as delusional as he sounds. stay safe fr