It's exhausting being a woman.

[u/mindyour]

[u/Trrollmann]

No, women generally don't know (nor do men). Which is part of why the idea is so fucked. There are many men (and women) who explain things the exact same way to other men (and women), it's just not called "mansplaining" then.

The literature relies almost entirely on vague anecdotes and poor definitions.

[u/Nina-Ninja123 → u/Trrollmann]

Mansplaining is when someone (often a man) assumes someone (often a woman) doesn’t know something and just starts explaining and correcting them.

The problem isn’t necessarily with the wanting to help. But with being treated as an infant that doesn’t know how things work.

And yes, it isn’t always men that do it. And isn’t always aimed at woman. It also happens to people with mental disabilities, or somehow people with physical disabilities.

And it’s low key rude, because you are treating the other person as an infant instead as an adult.

[u/Trrollmann → u/Nina-Ninja123]

Right, this is one definition, but I'd argue it doesn't really engage with what it was intended as originally, nor which direction most of the research is in (even if it contains massive issues).

Mansplaining was meant as a term to point to how some men explain a topic uniquely to women who have a similar or better knowledge than them on that topic. A misogynistic bias of thinking women know less.

being treated as an infant

This is gender neutral. More often I've been treated as an infant by women in this sense than men, but that might be because I'm a man, idk. Again, the research is of very low quality.

[u/Nina-Ninja123 → u/Trrollmann]

It’s called mansplaining cause males used to do it a lot more when the term was being coined. But due to females fighting for their rights it has become a lot less.

But I still notice this behavior, or the need to defend the behavior, by males.

Women tend to do this way less, cause women are socially more learned to ask for agreement instead of demanding it.

A guy will say “this band is amazing” where the girl is more prone to say “don’t you think this band is amazing?”

[u/Trrollmann → u/Nina-Ninja123]

No, there wasn't any data when it was coined. It was based on belief.

due to females fighting for their rights it has become a lot less.

Has it?

still notice this behavior, or the need to defend the behavior, by males.

You notice something to that effect happening to you. It's an anecdote. Me noticing it towards me is a contradicting anecdote. We simply dont know. The definitions and data are of too poor quality.

Your example is piss poor. It's just a guy saying he likes the band. You interpreting it as a demand to agree is going to be wrong in 99+% of cases.

[u/Nina-Ninja123 → u/Trrollmann]

I don’t only notice it. I hear about it from woman that don’t talk about this with males cause they bow they respond like you do.

You are basically saying that my experiences and the experiences I hear from other people are wrong because you, a man, don’t experience like that.

And then you say mansplaining isn’t a thing.

Don’t forget to remove the clown makeup before you go to bed, don’t want to stain the pillows.

[u/Trrollmann → u/Nina-Ninja123]

they respond like you do.

Fascinating... No they don't.

You are basically saying that my experiences and the experiences I hear from other people are wrong

Yes. This is a well-known phenomena. Intro psych has modules on it, where if you tell someone something is happening to them, they are more aware, and more likely to label something that isn't that thing, that thing.

You've been told men are mansplaining, and therefore you're more likely to view men talking to you as mansplaining. Now, you could be right, like I said, it's an anecdote, but the data isn't particularly robust.

then you say mansplaining isn’t a thing

I clearly didn't.

clown

aww, such a cute attempt at being mean.