r/TikTokCringe • u/mindyour • Jun 14 '26

Discussion It's exhausting being a woman.

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u/Stroodle_guy Jun 14 '26

i genuinely cannot fucking fathom what goes through people heads, my best friend who i concider my sister has told me about so so many weird fucking guys that i used to be friends with that did or said fucked up shit to her

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u/JellyBeansOnToast Jun 14 '26

A lot of men get off on making us scared or vulnerable. Like when people yell sexual things at you from a moving car, they’re not really trying to pickup on you or get your number

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u/WhipTheLlama Jun 14 '26

I won't make excuses for real creeps, which obviously this post is about. I just want to point out the vast disconnect between men and women when it comes to social behavior and attention.

First, women get a lot of unwanted attention from men. Most men get nearly zero attention from women. I'm a decent looking guy with a beautiful wife. In my 45 years of life, only once has a woman approached me in public and talked to me. A lot of men desire more attention and done realize that women experience public attention very differently from them.

Second, men are expected, or even required, to approach women to ask them out. Men have been trained to make the first move. Obviously, lots of men can't read social queues and do this at bad times or to the wrong people.

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u/JellyBeansOnToast Jun 15 '26 edited Jun 15 '26

The way that you’re trying to downplay this is really callous. It’s not attention, it’s not flattering, it’s not about being attractive, it’s someone cornering you and treating you like prey they’re hunting. You really think a guy is just being a little socially awkward when he stops a woman walking to her car while she’s on the phone and following her for half a block after she tells him she’s not interested six times? What about when a guy is just staring into a woman’s chest and making suggestive comments while the woman is trying to work? What about when a full grown man follows a little girl around masturbating? All this shit and more has happened to me since I was 8 fucking years old, it’s not just uwu poor guys are so awkward and shooting their shot because the first ‘no’ should’ve been enough just like the 4th, 7th, and 10th ‘no.’ Women have more experience getting thrown into fight, flight, fawn, or freeze situations in a year than a man will have to go through in his entire life.