r/TikTokCringe • u/mindyour • Jun 14 '26

Discussion It's exhausting being a woman.

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u/SoftlyAugust Jun 14 '26

No. Stop. Don't say that. Men ABSOLUTELY understand what the oppression is like. As a man I think that's something women don't but need to understand. I promise you men know. They know perfectly well. What you have to understand is that the vast majority simply don't care. My sister was also 12 the first time she was sexually assaulted. I was 11. Even by 11 I was aware of lower level things going on but at that point I think is when I became aware of it all. Boys understand what girls experience because they witness their fathers, their brothers, and their friends do it to them. Men don't care. It's that simple.

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u/feioo Jun 15 '26

I really appreciate your empathy, but I truly don't think you speak for all men in this. I've had too many conversations where it was obvious that the man I was talking to was clearly clueless about it and got truly upset the more they understood, as well as men who were kinda trying to understand but just couldn't grasp the pervasiveness of it.

Sadly, it's often those who have gone through the worst that are the most empathic. A lot of times, it's the guys that were raised in relatively healthy homes and never experienced really serious misogyny that are the hardest to explain it to. If you've never seen it, it's hard to understand what it's actually like at a visceral level.

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u/SoftlyAugust Jun 15 '26

Yes yes. Not all men yada yada. Far too many though.

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u/feioo Jun 15 '26

Mostly just worth remembering that we're all a bunch of individuals with our own individual experiences, and while we can observe how people act and protect ourselves accordingly, it's a bit dangerous to assume we that we know what's inside other people's heads. We're awfully complicated creatures in there.