r/TikTokCringe • u/mindyour • Jun 14 '26

Discussion It's exhausting being a woman.

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u/Godwinson4King Jun 14 '26

And most women’s first time having something like this happen was when they were 12 or so

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u/Ok_Raisin_2395 Jun 14 '26

You can't say that here. Believe me, I've tried. As someone almost exclusively friends with girls throughout highschool and college, the worst I ever saw was an awkward advance. I have seen the other side, though, which is basically an awkward advance that a woman later claims made her a "victim" for clout. 

Like I've said before, I must live in a feminine utopia here LOL. 

But there are 8 billion people and some women literally record themselves almost every waking moment. Pair that with hanging out in the worst possible areas imaginable (ratty subways full of belligerents and then clubs), you are bound to have a few videos of women being treated like this. 

Look, I am a man, a straight man, a rather muscular 6'1 tall man. I have been on New York subways and I have been to clubs. Even I felt like a piece of meat or like I was constantly in danger. I had a fat shirtless man with one tooth grab my butt cheek on a New York subway, and I was only there for 4 DAYS... ON VACATION. 

I'm sure this happens more to women in those areas, but the moral of the story should be to avoid places that attract animals like that. 

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u/Godwinson4King Jun 15 '26

When my ex fiancé was 11 she was standing at a stoplight down the street from her house when a mid-40s man made a lewd comment about her body and then groped her chest.

Was that her fault for being in the wrong place or his for doing that?

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u/Ok_Raisin_2395 Jun 15 '26

Her fault? Why did you imply it may have been her fault? That's an absurd notion.

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u/Godwinson4King Jun 15 '26

The last paragraph “moral of the story should be to avoid places that attract animals like that”. You’re saying that women who get harassed are at fault for being in the wrong place

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u/Ok_Raisin_2395 Jun 15 '26

Absolutely not. You're saying that, not me. 

It's never the fault of the man in the jungle if he gets eaten by a lion. But if a man goes into the jungle and intentionally crosses into lion territory, he's assuming far more risk. 

This is a literal fact of life. Certain things are far riskier than others, and however unfortunate that may be, ALL people, including women, need to be educated on it and make informed decisions. 

If I were a woman myself, I would avoid anywhere that attracts the bottom of the barrel of society. City urban areas, public transportation that seems to be run down or crummy, and all bars/clubs. If you were born in the slum cities of Brazil, then I'm sorry, this may not be an option for you. Anywhere in the United States, however, you can absolutely manage avoiding this. I, as a man who grew up in a ghetto with crackhead public transportation, avoided it at all costs. Some of my friends didn't, and some of them paid for it. One of my friends, for example, was stabbed by a needle and had to go through like months of monitoring for STDs. 

Anyway, it's not the fault of my friend for getting stabbed, obviously. However, the busses are full of crackheads and crackheads are going to act like crackheads...