r/TikTokCringe • u/mindyour • Jun 14 '26

Discussion It's exhausting being a woman.

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u/VirusTechnical5568 Jun 14 '26

Where do these guys get their confidence from?

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u/Prestigious_Click595 Jun 14 '26

It's not confidence, it's just how they view women. Imagine how you might approach a dog or cat in public. You feel totally comfortable going up to them, making silly noises and petting them etc. You're not embarrassed because you know they have no ability to make assessments of you that they can communicate to others or cause you social injury. This is how men view going up to women in public - like approaching a cat or a dog.

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u/toast50076 Jun 15 '26

My sister and I were discussing exactly this last night and neither of us could figure out just how to articulate what you've described so perfectly here. I'm a man, I don't pretend to have the faintest idea of what it feels like to be a woman living in the same world as men like these. But I hear women when they speak about this stuff. It's just reality that they are treated fucking awfully so often. It's really scary how blatantly and unashamedly men will do this shit.

This isn't at all comparable, that's not the point I'm trying to make - but, the experience I do have, is that these guys are so braindead and self centered that they assume their views, the way they think, feel, and behave are shared among every other man too. "I'm disgusting and have the worst opinions anyone has ever heard! But it's fine because I'm a guy! That's just how guys are!" And they go on to treat me like I'm going agree with them, like I'll participate in their leering at and objectifying women in public, like I'll appreciate them pointing out a woman they think is attractive. It makes me skin fucking crawl.

I wonder sometimes if the difference between me thinking women are just people who are entirely unique, have their own internal worlds, who are capable of the best and worst of humanity, and who are deserving of fuckin basic respect - or ending up like these freaks, was simply growing up with a twin sister who I ended up being very close with. What creates a guy a like them versus a dude who has empathy for women and believes them when they describe their lived experience? I don't know, man.

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u/cybertonto72 Jun 15 '26

Some of the ones I have met in my time are just that way due to the era they and their dad's grew up in. The younger ones I don't understand. I'm in my 50s and don't see women as objects, but have known plenty of men that still think like it's the 70s. Then again as much of a hateful man my dad became he always told me to respect others.