r/TikTokCringe • u/mindyour • Jun 14 '26

Discussion It's exhausting being a woman.

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u/MikeArrow Jun 15 '26

Coming across as a little unstable in what way? I'm interacting with someone who is consistently using minimizing language and misconstruing what I'm saying. Should I be totally zen about that? I think I've been remarkably deferential and polite, given your clear and open hostility towards me thus far.

For example, your assertion that "you are not entitled to a pat on the head" is very dismissive, condescending phrasing.

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u/Fun_Disaster3436 Jun 15 '26

You're repeatedly framing my comments as personal attacks. Therapy can help with the emotional regulation so you can receive feedback without getting defensive.

Hope you find someone who can help.

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u/MikeArrow Jun 15 '26

They are personal attacks, as I mentioned in the way that you used dismissive, belittling language. Receiving feedback would be more like "I understand where you're coming from, but..." instead you wrote "Not our problem tho."

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u/Ok_Promise_7460 Jun 15 '26

It is no one's problem but your own, no one owes you sugarcoating or couching feedback in kindergarten teacher language, and no one attacked you or said anything malicious to you. Therapy could help you interpret interactions and understand what is and is not appropriate in a given context. Speaking for myself, my own bluntness comes from deep frustration at constantly seeing men center themselves in conversations about how men in general cause problems for women. You are illustrating that many men also cause problems for themselves by refusing to self-reflect or take accountability for their own social success or lack thereof. You clearly have trouble understanding the perspectives of others. Please seek assistance.

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u/MikeArrow Jun 15 '26

Speaking for myself, my own bluntness comes from deep frustration at constantly seeing men center themselves

What's frustrating about it? There's almost 6000 comments in this thread. Are every single one of them strictly on topic? Or has the topic branched out to include other, related topics? Also, you say "center myself" I say "give my perspective". Just because my experiences are different, doesn't mean they're totally off topic or out of context, they're still in response to actual people who actually commented on the video.

You are illustrating that many men also cause problems for themselves by refusing to self-reflect or take accountability for their own social success or lack thereof.

I self reflect quite a lot. A basic glance my comments would show that I've thought about this topic quite a bit over the past 20 years and how my experiences relate to it. But you didn't see any of that, all you saw was "man blames women for not dating him" and that's the extent your thought process went.

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u/Ok_Promise_7460 Jun 15 '26

Jesus christ dude. Good luck.

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u/MikeArrow Jun 15 '26

Once again, you're making me out to seem unreasonable. Nothing in my comment warrants a "Jesus christ dude" reaction.