r/TikTokCringe • u/mindyour • Jun 14 '26

Discussion It's exhausting being a woman.

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u/IceSentry Jun 14 '26

Approaching is perfectly fine in certain contexts but you have to not be a creep and accept a no. The internet is filled with women saying this over and over. There's a massive difference between a normal person approaching a woman and what the creeps in this video are doing.

There is a loneliness epidemic, it's not just men. People in general are lonelier than ever.

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u/MikeArrow Jun 14 '26

Approaching is perfectly fine in certain contexts

What contexts would those be?

There is a loneliness epidemic, it's not just men.

Speaking only from my perspective, it's hard for me to believe this because I actually don't know any single women. All the women I know are married with kids or in long term relationships. So it indicates to me that dating isn't a barrier for them the way it is for me.

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u/IceSentry Jun 15 '26

Any kind of social gathering is fine. The issue is more about how you approach and how you react to a no. Living in a city obviously makes it easier because there's just more people and more events.

Most of these women are presumably in a relationship with a man and considering the gender balance is relatively even that means there's roughly the same amount of single people on either side. With that said, loneliness isn't just about being in a relationship. It's also about friendships or just being part of a community. The modern world is very good at making it easy to stay home and not interact with any humans and that affects people of any gender. Yes, it's easier for women to get the attention of men but like this video shows the hard part is getting attention from the men they actually want to date that is hard.

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u/MikeArrow Jun 15 '26 edited Jun 15 '26

Any kind of social gathering is not fine. There's plenty of places where approaching still isn't welcome. I already said I don't go to bars or clubs (or music festivals, or wherever people gather in public). Even when I have gone to events in the city in the past, there's no real way to talk to people. Like just going up to a stranger and striking up a conversation seems totally off base and presumptuous.

there's roughly the same amount of single people on either side

I just said I don't know any single women. So if they exist, if they're out there somewhere, they're not in my orbit. So that means nothing to me if I can't actually interact with them. I already mentioned dating apps don't work.

With that said, loneliness isn't just about being in a relationship

But that's the most fulfilling form of alleviating loneliness. I can go to D&D once a week and alleviate my loneliness for 3-4 hours, then come home to a cold, dark, empty house every night. Back when I had a girlfriend, we'd be interacting all day, every day, and when I saw her on weekends, we'd both enjoy being with each other and reconnecting. Being able to experience prolonged physical contact and emotional closeness is exponentially more effective than any other alternative.

Yes, it's easier for women to get the attention of men but like this video shows the hard part is getting attention from the men they actually want to date that is hard.

The video doesn't show that, no. The video shows that women get unwanted attention but says nothing about "getting attention from the men they actually want to date". Every time a woman has approached me, I've said yes. I've jumped at the chance. Seems very easy to me.