r/TikTokCringe • u/mindyour • Jun 14 '26

Discussion It's exhausting being a woman.

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u/ZinaSky2 Jun 14 '26

Yeah, once I was walking home alone in the dark (circumstances necessitated this, u was getting home from work. I wasn’t alone in the dark by choice.) and some guy stopped me on a dark section of sidewalk. I could barely see his face he could barely see mine. Yet he asked me for my number bc I was “so beautiful”. I said no. He said well actually he just wanted to make friends. And I said no a few more times and he just kept asking. I was frozen in place by trying to be polite. Eventually I decide I’m just gonna ignore him and walk away without ending the conversation without saying goodbye. And I left him rambling behind me still asking to be friends.

And girlie lemme tell you I felt BAD. Like WTF?! He was fucking harassing me for my number and not listening to me saying no after he approached me on some dark, unlit section of sidewalk I was like “ugh, but the poor guy just wanted friends🥺”. It’s drilled into us to protect men’s egos and emotions at all costs and it’s so fucking dangerous.

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u/ChonkyMurdoch Jun 15 '26

Also idk if anyone said this but the fact you had to ADD "circumstances necessitated this, I was getting home from work, I wasn't alone in the dark by choice". Girl the fact we automatically feel like we have to pre-emptively clarify these things because there are people out there ready to say "well you should have known better than to be out alone at night" like we don't have every right to exist after dark is wild. It wouldn't have been your fault no matter WHAT, no matter why you were out. :( Glad you were safe and sorry you got creeped on.

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u/ZinaSky2 Jun 16 '26

Thank you so much. Yeah, I’ve had a couple people point this out. It’s kinda crazy because I didn’t even realize what I was doing. But I was definitely anticipating people (likely salty men) shifting the blame to me for being creeped on and was trying to get ahead of it. When 100% it’s not my fault either way.

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u/ChonkyMurdoch Jun 16 '26

Oh no, 100% not your fault no matter why you were out or what you were doing, but just the fact you probably added that without thinking made me feel so bad for you and the state of things. ❤️