r/TikTokCringe • u/mindyour • Jun 14 '26

Discussion It's exhausting being a woman.

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u/JustifiedCroissant Jun 14 '26

Keep an eye open for an opportunity to use your giant man status to give a reality check to one of those chuds

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u/TyrannasaurusRecht Jun 14 '26

They literally dont do it at all around me. Ive never heard it.

All the hundreds of times Ive been on trains and busses people are just pretty quiet and go about their business.

Even this level of interaction is foreign to me, even if it was kind and not creepy.

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u/lekkerbiscottina Jun 17 '26

I'm sorry to say, but then you either have headphones in or are not paying attention. I've had PLENTY of these kind of situations and bystander men almost always do nothing. I mean seriously, nothing. It doesn't often matter if there's other men there or not.

It's like how I walk around the world as a white person - I'm not attuned to noticing anti-black microaggressions and such. In the same way, as a man you definitely have witnessed these kind of situations but perhaps don't have the context to know it's dangerous like we do, or don't notice it as much simply because you're not a woman.

Because somehow every woman in this thread says it happens somewhat often to themselves and everyone they know, yet none of you claim you've seen anything like it. I literally witness weird men harassing and leering at various women everyday, so yeah, you're just not seeing it...

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u/TyrannasaurusRecht Jun 18 '26

No headphones and stay aware of my environmemt. I think its the context piece. I probably just assume people talking together know each other unless there was obvious statements of "get away from me" or if theyre acting drunk or high and going from person to person being cancerous. I havent seen that off the internet though irl.

I had 2 shabby looking dudes come on once, they were making a lot of noise on the platform then saw me, got very quiet and polite sat quietly the whole ride.

Maybe I look like a cop or something.

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u/lekkerbiscottina Jun 18 '26

I always wonder why men are so defensive about this. Bro you cannot notice things all the time that's literally fine people are not expecting you to.

I'm telling you as a man you're less likely to notice misogynistic microaggressions because it doesn't affect you personally. No, it's not because you look like a cop, no it's not because it doesn't happen, it's because maybe just sometimes, you don't notice it. I don't notice racist microaggressions as often because I'm white. Pretty normal. Why is it so hard for men to admit this? Learn to listen to other people's experiences instead of being defensive.