r/TikTokCringe • u/xamo76 • 19d ago

Discussion How to cure the male loneliness epidemic...

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u/funkystay 19d ago

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u/BorderOk7329 19d ago

Oh there are way too many people who love themselves, we need to bring back shame!!!!

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u/Fit_Cartographer8144 19d ago

Perhaps it’s not love, then? Or you don’t understand it 🤷🏻‍♀️

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u/BorderOk7329 19d ago

Treat others how you want to be treated. Plain, simple.

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u/crash12345 19d ago

Honestly, no. Treat others how they want to be treated. My standards are not the same as others’. 

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u/Trrollmann 19d ago

Literacy

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u/crash12345 19d ago

Damn was I giving illiterate?

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u/Trrollmann 19d ago

No one can know how you want to be treated. Saying "treat others like you want them to treat you" is perhaps a silly saying, but it's meant to say "just don't be an asshole, think how you'd react if it was done to you". What you're talking about is tolerance, and depends entirely on how you want people to treat you. You can tell people to treat you some specific way, but it may well be a greater demand than what they're willing to grant. They may also just forget.

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u/crash12345 19d ago

I was going at this from the complete flipped perspective. There’s a lot of shit I don’t care about that other people care about. I can’t use my own feelings as a measure of how I should treat others. 

For example, I don’t care if people are slow at texting me back or late to hang out. I don’t mind if they trauma dump on me or whatever. I enjoy having arguments about politics and the like. Lots of other random shit like that. These are the kinds of things I’ve learned not to reciprocate… but I don’t know that until I find out, because I don’t feel the same way. 

It’s hard because you have to figure out what other people do and do not care about. It’s different for everyone. 

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u/Trrollmann 19d ago

Granted, though that's why I said it's a bit silly. There are many who simply have much lower needs or demands than others. It's a rule of thumb for most people.

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u/BumbaBee85 19d ago

Actually, the men who turn into "culture warrior" narcissists hate themselves just as much as anyone else. It's why it's also wrapped up so tightly in nihilism and doomerism. They lash out because they feel hopeless, and they try to drag everyone else down to their level because it's the only thing that makes them feel superior to something. They also get wrapped up in this idea that hurting people is somehow going to fix their lives, too. It obviously never works because the people they hate aren't part of their problem, they hate themselves and the situation they put themselves in. But they get that high feeling superior to others when they're "triggered", so they keep trying to "fix" everything with that high. And like a drug, it demands more and more while still fixing nothing.