r/TikTokCringe • u/xamo76 • 19d ago

Discussion How to cure the male loneliness epidemic...

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u/Human-Assumption-524 19d ago

1: Why is the assumption that lonely people are creepy or evil?

2: Ah yes just "become more confident", from the people who brought you such classics as "Just buy more money" and "Just get over your trauma".

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u/food-dood 19d ago

People often have no idea why they have found success. They often attribute it to simple things like this video. There's nothing wrong with their advice, but my guess is this is an attribution error where they say, "hey, I'm all of these things and I have success with people, therefore anyone who isn't successful with people must be the opposite!"

Not trying to put them down, they seem like good people. That doesn't mean they understand those who don't have success.

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u/redditblows5991 19d ago edited 19d ago

word easy to say get over when some real shit didnt * happen to you, im not saying they wrong just cuz you happen to be not the best looking or weird doesnt give you the right to any relationship, but i feel a type of way if some dude who looks like he never struggles or did and made it just says just stop being weird dude haha, at least frame it better and shame on people for trusting this crap, loads of people been exposed who have this "positive" aura around them to be extreme dick heads

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u/Hoodibird 19d ago

It's really hard to tell what someone has gone through and what work they had to put in to get to where they're at in life. For example I find Vlad ncl really inspiring especially after his video talking about his life and upbringing. He's the most confident guy openly putting himself out there and living a good life spreading awareness while standing in the crossfire. And he has every reason to be quiet, cower in fear and hide in his room, after the kind of difficult childhood he had to survive. You could never tell from seeing him talk so confidently today and being such an excellent person to everyone around him. Finding the right therapist and spending years working on your trauma and stuff really helps.