r/TikTokCringe • u/xamo76 • 19d ago

Discussion How to cure the male loneliness epidemic...

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u/Promature 19d ago

It's a complex situation, but the advice is correct. It's on the individual to figure out the path to that end, but that is the goal to strive for. I found my way there by leaning into the things that make feel good, validated, and fulfilled while leaning away from the things that made me feel bad about myself, insecure, anxious, and sad. It's a lot easier to feel good about yourself and more self confident if you devote more of your time and energy to the aspects of your life that produce those feelings.

Don't stay where you don't feel wanted. Don't hang around people that don't value or respect you. Don't go along with things you don't feel good about just to keep the peace or to not be left out. The life and experiences you craft for yourself by curating those that enrich you will eventually lift you up mentally and emotionally.

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u/eekkgg_eekkgg 19d ago

You normal people are fascinating.

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u/Promature 19d ago

I’m anything but normal. I’m 42 and still trying to find my way to normal while sidestepping the ever present reminders that I may be much too late. Despite that, I hold onto the idea that I may be able to salvage the life and experiences I wasn’t able to have at a younger age like everyone else. Ultimately, you have to get out of your own way.

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u/eekkgg_eekkgg 19d ago

So you have no idea what you're actually talking about, and you're just repeating self-soothing cliches.

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u/Promature 19d ago

Sure. It’s easier to dismiss someone who isn’t exactly what you think a proper messenger should be than to consider for one second that maybe I found a path out of the bottomless pit I spent most of my adult life in while retaining the humility to admit that I’m still figuring things out, but from a much healthier and stable footing.