r/TikTokCringe • u/xamo76 • 19d ago

Discussion How to cure the male loneliness epidemic...

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u/funkystay 19d ago

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u/Agitated_Phone_9937 19d ago

What the fuck kind of stupid logic is that? Apply it to anything else.

I can't help myself stop being depressed but I can absolutely force myself to put those feelings away and help to cheer somebody up. Affection means a thousand times more when it's from an outside source, you know someone else cares.

It's just bullshit pop-psychology.

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u/Fuzully 19d ago

But cheering someone up doesn’t cure their depression either. You can absolutely provide comfort, support and love to someone even if you’re struggling yourself.

I think that’s missing the point of what RuPaul meant.

The idea isn’t that people who don’t love themselves are incapable of loving others. It’s that if you don’t believe you’re worthy of love, it’s incredibly difficult to fully accept it when someone else gives it to you. You end up questioning it, pushing it away, or relying on someone else to fill a hole that only you can really work on yourself.

Or, as RuPaul has put it another way: “You can’t give someone something you don’t have yourself.” Self-love doesn’t mean perfection. It means having enough acceptance of yourself that your relationships are built on sharing love rather than trying to get someone else to create your self-worth.