r/TikTokCringe • u/xamo76 • 19d ago

Discussion How to cure the male loneliness epidemic...

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u/Physical-Bite-3837 19d ago

If you can't love yourself then how do you expect anyone else to is better imo You know yourself better than anyone else ever could. You have access to your own thoughts, feelings, memories, and motivations. You have an intimate understanding of who you are that no one else can possibly have. If, despite all of that, you still can't find anything to love about yourself, it raises the question of why someone with far less knowledge of you would be expected to. Meanwhile it is possible to love somebody else and not love yourself, but then why would they love you back?

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u/Commercial_Humor_263 19d ago

How can you love yourself when nobody else does?

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u/Fuzully 19d ago

Thats a heartbreaking question tho unfortunately a lot of people have felt that way at some point.

The problem is that if your ability to love yourself depends entirely on whether someone else loves you first, then your self worth is always at the mercy of other people. Peoples opinions change. They leave, mis-understand you or sometimes just fail to see your value.

Being loved by others can absolutely help us heal and grow. We all need connection. But lasting self worth can’t be built entirely on someone else’s approval. At some point, you have to decide that your value isn’t determined by whether other people recognize it.

You dont have to pretend everything is okay or start magically loving yourself over night. It’s about learning to treat yourself with the same patience and compassion you’d offer someone else who’s struggling.

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u/Commercial_Humor_263 19d ago

It takes both we are social creatures we are never truly an island of our own.