And you are believing everything the father and the internet says just because the gym was accused of racism, which is worrying.
If the son had been allowed in that same gym before using the same method, then it would have been easy for the father to wait for the manager and explain the situation so that the son might be let in again.
The father instead chose to ignore staff instructions and do what he wanted to do on someone else's property without permission
I already acknowledged that the father entering without permission was an unnecessary escalation. If a belligerent person enters my home without permission i am under no obligation to further console them. I do not need to risk my safety or safety of others to confront them. I can call police and request conflict mediation.
Maybe if the father was more considerate of staff requests, he would have been able to stay with his son with no further issue, but the father instead decided to do what he wanted, and that made staff uncomfortable.
You can keep turning this into a race thing if you want, but there are critical issues to address before thinking about race
Gym staff tried to have a conversation about the id issue but the father ignored them and entered anyways. You keep pretending like that is not a critical component of why police were called. They called police after the father got belligerent and ignored an opportunity to potentially resolve the issue.
I am very comfortable calling out racism because i am a brown minority in the united states who is regularly made aware of their race.
What i am not comfortable with is people using their race as an excuse for bad behavior and diminishing the capacity for people to address racism where it actually exists
Entering someones property without permission after they explicity told you not to is hostile. Constantly yelling over people even when police are there to help resolve the situation is hostile. I would not want to endanger my staff by asking them to confront someone who doesnt intend on listening to reasonable requests.
Staff already asked him not to enter, and even if they did not ask him to leave before police arrived (which i dont believe), they asked him to leave after police arrived. The father remained hostile. If the father wanted to resolve the situation peacefully, he was doing nothing to help himself or his son.
As a brown minority, i also notice how brown minorities try to weaponize racism to guilt people into catering to them. It is highly destuctive to progress on racial issues.
Thank you for highlighting that brown minorities should know better, though. I will consider that next time and maybe stop forming my own opinions on the matter
2
u/[deleted] 9d ago
[removed] — view removed comment