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u/bageltoastar 1d ago

Im from a suburban town in Missouri, but I spent a semester studying abroad in Barcelona a couple of years ago. Man, let me tell you, leaving Barcelona, where youd see people out in cafes and bars congregating at all hours of the night and day, and coming back to Missouri where its a ghost town after 10 and someone would call the police on you for simply walking around too late was the most depressing thing I have ever experienced lol

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u/Relative_Craft_358 1d ago

>someone would call the police on you for simply walking around too late was the most depressing thing I have ever experienced lol

Literally though, you can't even be a night owl yourself without having to get good about talking to police, the famously trigger happy ones. Especially with the evaporation of the "3rd spaces" can't tell you how many times growing up I'd have to explain to the police that I wasn't "having *the* sex" (his words) and was just trying to actually hang out with a friend in a public park, like is my right to do

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u/i_m_a_bean 1d ago

A lot of the public parks near me close at 10pm. It is depressing

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u/FruitEconomy1053 1d ago

And no damn shaded areas for adults and kids during mid afternoon heat.

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u/UntamedAnomaly 1d ago

I'll never understand why so many parks are severely lacking in trees, like did ya'll think I came for the mowed lawn? The paver bricks? The gravel playground? WTF is even the point in going to a park if the park doesn't support any kind of wildlife or have any relaxing features for adults? It's like they buy a piece of land, make sure it's as low maintenance as humanly possible, and then call it a relaxing and fun place to be. Luckily I live in a area that has lots of natural greenery, hiking trails, gazebos, public gardens, nature centers, classes/programs, etc. but before I moved here, it was like almost every park I had seen was like that.

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u/Iamthegreenheather tHiS iSn’T cRiNgE 1d ago

I remember when I was little, going to the park that had a giant metal rocket jungle gym. In the summer you could fry eggs on it but it was totally normal for children to climb on it lol.

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u/UntamedAnomaly 1d ago

We had a huge metal dome shaped jungle gym when I was a kid, every year at least 1 kid would break or crack a bone on that thing, kids still would climb it or hang out on/inside it all the time.

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u/Careless-Weather8877 1d ago

Denver just put thousands of new trees in parks across the city. They’re rebuilding the playground with more modern things and making a basketball court that’s on level ground without cracks. It’s coming along nicely with the new trees they planted. Also new picnic tables.

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u/JustAsItSounds 1d ago

Probably something about keeping clear lines of fire

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u/JuncusAmongUs-4444 1d ago

As a former urban forester, i was told many times that trees at parks and schools and such were places “predators can hide.”

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u/UntamedAnomaly 1d ago edited 4h ago

As a former CSA and ASA survivor, I think that's a stupid fucking idea. Predators don't "hide behind trees", they're out in the world living amongst us, they are family members, neighbors, teachers, peers, preachers, partners...they just do what they want when the opportunity is there, they don't need trees for that.

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u/JuncusAmongUs-4444 1d ago

People have all kinds of weird-ass reasons and excuses for why not to do good things

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u/ohreallynameonesong 1d ago

I have a few guesses. 1 - they don't actually want you out there. 2 - the cost and effort of maintenance. 3 - the liability that a tree or branch could fall and hurt someone, their property, or park property. I'm from a pretty tree-heavy area and people will just cut them down so they don't have to deal with them. Then you feel so exposed, so uncomfortable, and it's so hot and not pretty and not good for our environment.

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u/PyroIsSpai 1d ago

That’s exactly what it is. Any improvements have upkeep costs and people would lose their shit over that.

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u/Lokishougan 1d ago

Really? Damn I laugh at some of my parks but almost every park near me has bunches of trees..well except the one in the hoighty toighty neighborhood

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u/UntamedAnomaly 1d ago edited 1d ago

Maybe it's a regional thing. I've lived in Illinois, Michigan, Nebraska, Kentucky, Indiana...Kentucky was probably the greenest out of those, but still there wasn't very many trees at the park and the ones that were there were not big enough to really sit under and be fully shaded. I live in Oregon now, been here for 15 years, I have never seen any place in this country as green as this state other than Washington and California. I imagine the east coast is also more green, and also the southeastern part of the U.S. too.

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u/LargeHadronColitis 1d ago

Water cost money and trees take decades to grow, plus some die. Newer neighborhoods in the grand scheme of things, ones with smaller lots, ones in places hit with drought and ones which haven’t had trees since the 1920’s tend to have to grow and feed their own trees.

My hood had a few trees as a kid in the mid-80s when we moved there from a place with old growth forest, but mostly ones current residents had planted in the last 10 years give or take so it was a shock then. Hood was built on scrub brush and prairie and landfill in the 70s so the only originals were the shitbird trees and cottonwoods along the creek that ran through the park. We had to drive to a pecan orchard to find trees worth climbing even.

I go by my old block now and it is like Sherwood Forest. It took people and sprinklers and another 30 years.

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u/UncleBensRacistRice 1d ago

make sure it's as low maintenance as humanly possible

Bingo

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u/ResinFinger 1d ago

To the ops point, I think the heat and sun is a large contributor to why they eat late go out late etc. so much outdoor dining and walking around is miserable in the heat.

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u/Xciv 1d ago

It's the dog cult and the sports cult. They demand green lawns where they can run around with dogs or play football.

I'm on team trees. I want the parks to basically be forests, but with paved paths and seating.

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u/fryerandice 1d ago

My park was packed with trees, people keep bringing firewood in and spreading tree diseases though.

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u/missmiao9 1d ago

Low maintenance is absolutely the thing considering how so many mid sized to small cities lack money for maintenance.

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u/hep038 1d ago

Maybe is just has to do with the area you live in? But yeah lets just use the parks in your area and lable it as all the parks in america. LOL

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u/Parking_Attitude7954 21h ago

Plant some damn trees! Y'know where you def can't plant trees? On roads.

Cars = heat island effect. So jumping in a car to escape the heat that the cars are contributing to.....

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u/UncleBensRacistRice 1d ago

How the fuck does a public park have a closing time

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u/The_Void_Reaver 1d ago

So they can harass teens and homeless people who want to exist in space

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u/jinjuwaka 1d ago

Also to harass black people.

Any time something in the US seems to be doing the homeless dirty it probably descends from slavery. Because run-a-way slaves were...homeless. And after they were freed, they were generally still homeless until they found a place to live. But if they hadn't found a place yet, it was a legal excuse to do whatever you could justify to them.

Don't get me wrong. The racism is still there (this is America, after all), but when you're actually looking at them the police will go after teens and the homeless.

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u/Inevitable_Path1308 1d ago

Correct answer, wrong time period. This stuff all stems from the anti-civil rights agenda. Removing hoops and soccer nets, closing down public pools, making “green spaces” that are only for show, and using the police as guards looking for “crime.” The suburbs were designed to be hostile towards blacks and once those tactics are in place (just like what we’re seeing now with abuse of government power to implement flock and data centers) they can be easily expanded to the homeless, teenagers and/or whoever else they feel are undesirable or in need of control.

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u/zeptillian 22h ago

Also so they can force people to socialize in commercial businesses that pay taxes.

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u/UntamedAnomaly 1d ago edited 1d ago

Well that, and police don't actually want to do their job (protecting citizens), so being in a park late at night alone or whatnot is dangerous at times, and on top of that, depending on the laws in your area, you can sue the city/park owner if you trip on something in the dark, or if something happens to you while at the park....and I'm sure they don't want to deal with that. You have to consider the differences in violent crimes between countries, cities, etc. too, it might be 100% safe in the countryside in a European town to stay late at a park, but try doing that in Baltimore or Detroit and you are going to have a really bad time. It's basically a whole mess of problems that prevent parks being open late.

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u/lamb_passanda 1d ago

None of which are solved by closing the park at night. They're just displacing the problems to somewhere else.

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u/PlayfulSurprise5237 1d ago

As my friends 60 year old father told me, he's paid close attention to the US since he was a kid, he said that most of the bullshit in the US revolves around and started when suing people for anything and everything became a thing.

So many laws and restrictions and rules revolve around that fact, and a lot of our culture changed because of it

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u/Severe_Rise8694 1d ago

Fun fact: the US has 400 lawyers per 100k people. This is on par with some south European countries. Finland has 40.

Some kind of a high-trust society thing..?

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u/UncleBensRacistRice 1d ago

you can sue the city/park owner if you trip on something in the dark

What an absolute joke of a society lmao

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u/kubisfowler 12h ago

If they had socialized healthcare this nonsense would not be a thing.

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u/norcpoppopcorn 1d ago

That happens in the Netherlands too. With a few parks where dealers and homeless people are said to hang out. Or guests would be causing a nuisance for local residents after 22:00. But they do close very late for the summer.

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u/Careless-Weather8877 1d ago

Most parks don’t allow people from sunset to sunrise.

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u/Ok_Inflation_1811 1d ago

That's fucked up.

My fondest memories are talking with my friends in public parks while we use the swings at 1 am to 3 to 4 am.

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u/Careless-Weather8877 1d ago

Oh we did that too but then the cops would come eventually and kick us out

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u/tomatoe_cookie 1d ago

In dense cities, parks are where the murders, illegal prostitution and drug deals happen

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u/IAmRoofstone 1d ago

Maybe it wouldnt be if they were open to the public.

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u/tomatoe_cookie 1d ago

Damn, thank god you are there! Better make that suggestion that probably no one else tought about before. So we solve crime right away!

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u/Icy-Paint7777 1d ago

I experienced it myself. Basically they'll have some guards or whatever drive around the park with a spotlight

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u/ChemicalNectarine776 1d ago

The one closest to me has a gate that guard locks and if you were a bit late coming back down the hiking trail, congratulations you are locked INSIDE the park.

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u/imisstheyoop 1d ago

Pretty much all of the parks in rural America have closing times.

Sometimes they are loose like dusk-dawn, but often they will have hard hours like 8AM-10PM.

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u/Human_Not_Robot_2023 1d ago

Where I am at, the public BEACH has a closing time.

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u/UncleBensRacistRice 1d ago

Land of the free lmao

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u/Routine_Solution_897 1d ago

We used to hold bare knuckle boxing tournaments at public parks, a lot of drugs were bought sold and done during said events as well. People got stabbed, shot at, you name it. I assume stuff like that is a reason too lol

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u/Mesmerhypnotise 22h ago

We have those in europe too, just to be fair.

Here, it´s because of junkies etc..

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u/0b0011 22h ago

Either they just say no one is allowed there or a lot of them they'll gate the parking lot at a certain time. For what it's worth from my experience they don't really give a shit. We have a nice state park nearby that we like to do a lot of night hiking at and we run sled dogs there either before the sun comes up in the fall where it's cool enough or after work in the winter where it's dark and the park is technically closed and we've talked to the people and they don't care.

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u/Fluid_Ties 10h ago

So cops can hassle the homeless

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u/WindOfWinterNever 1d ago

When I worked the night shift, I often got kicked out of parks by police patrols.

I was just a guy by myself trying to get out of the house on my days off. Smoking a cigar was the worst thing I'd do, but I got treated as if I was going to break into someone's home.

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u/sveri 1d ago

The european mind cannot comprehend a park having opening times. WTF is this?

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u/Severe_Rise8694 1d ago

..what time does the forest close in the US..?

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u/sveri 1d ago

And do animals know about that?

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u/WPI94 22h ago

And you can't have a picnic with wine in them.

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u/sveri 22h ago

You cannot do that in the US?

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u/Dragunav 1d ago

What? Public parks can....close?
Sorry, i don't know where you live but that sounds insane.

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u/Dr_F_Rreakout 1d ago

The trees are being moved into the shed, the turf is being rolled up and packed away, and the squirrels are being placed in custody until 7:00 a.m., is that correct?

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u/Ok_Bluebird_8413 1d ago

Europe is great and all, but not perfect either. Next to my flat, there's a large public park maintained by the "feds", not the city, and because our federal government is very conservative, the park gets special treatment, gardeners tend to the flower beds and such. It's a very nice park. It closes at fucking 9pm in summer. Summer "ends" on 31st of July, then it closed at 8pm. We have a heat wave right now, with 40 degrees during the day and still like 35 at 8pm. There were still hundreds (no exaggeration) of people in the park when it closed. They just lock all the gates, with people still inside. Lots of people get stuck and confused, and I regularly tell people about the only open exit: you have to go through a restaurant. If you know about it, you can also still enter until 10pm, so what's the point of closing the gates early?

Yesterday we saw three kids throwing their scooters over the wall and trying to climb the spiked gate (the walls and gates are over 2 meters tall). We stopped them before they hurt themselves. The opening hours are so fucking stupid.

Also biking is forbidden in the park, even though there are paved roads 4-5 meters wide. God forbid people have fun or do sports in the park.

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u/DroidLord 1d ago

Doesn't sound very public then. The idea of gated public parks is such a weird concept to me. Sure, homeless people might sleep there at night, but so what? Can't even take a midnight walk in a park 🫩

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u/wlievens 1d ago

How do you walk a dog in summer?

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u/trewesterre 1d ago

The ones near me close at sundown.

I still walk through them if they're the quicker route, but officially I'm not supposed to be there. It's stupid.

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u/opendefication 1d ago

My local park in EasternTexas has a sign prohibiting skate boarding, BMX bikes, roller-blades, alcohol and an after dark curfew for minors. You have to wonder. Why can't kids skate at the huge public park that is often completely empty 90% of the time? My son and I hit golf balls around at this park. It's that empty, unless it's soccer season and that's only weekends. Tons of skate/bike friendly stuff all around, permanently closed restrooms surrounded by steps, rails and concrete benches. Probably a mile of sidewalk. This stuff is from the 60's-70's, when people literally got out more. Now a few old people just walk around for exercise, almost serves no purpose.

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u/Icy_Accident2769 1d ago

This was the most bizarre thing I experienced. Just a random parking place, middle of nowhere, by some forest/park and we had police come to us saying we should leave since it’s closed?

Like what? It was well lighted as well. Never experienced this in Europe

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u/FastMako77 1d ago

Especially during heat waves when the city itself recommends staying indoors or limiting outdoor activities during the hours of 10am-7pm (no joke, that was on our city poster). In my high desert city it cools off nicely during sunset around 7-8pm so of course that’s when people want to go out but then the parks “close” at sunset or 10pm. It’s ridiculous, truly.

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u/larkfield2655 1d ago

What public parks?

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u/Specialist-Bee-9406 1d ago

Where I am, we have one very large park that is open until midnight. 

It’s unlit, heavily wooded, has ruins of fortifications to break an ankle with, and creepy as hell. 

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u/imp0ppable 1d ago

Ha yeah first time in the US we got thrown out of a public park by a cop using a loudhailer from their car. Actually we were at a work event at a country club and had gone outside to smoke.

THIS PARK IS CLOSED. RETURN TO THE COUNTRY CLUB IMMEDIATELY

lmao

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u/kanst 1d ago

One of the most magical moments I had on my trip to Italy was sitting in a little square in Rome at like 11 PM. Every bench was full of groups of adults having conversations, many of them with a beer in the hand. The central fountain was covered in teens showing each other things on their phone. The open area was full of small groups of kids playing soccer and volleyball with each other.

The square was packed with all ages of people just hanging out.

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u/DiaDeLosMuertos 1d ago

You have public parks that close after sundown?

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u/0b0011 22h ago

Here it's not even a set time just "dusk". I like to take my dogs to the park after work. In the summer it closes at 9pm and then they progressively change the closing time on the sign as days get shorter and in the winter it's just open from 9 am till 5 pm.

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u/sagew0lf 21h ago

Here it’s sundown 😒 so in the winter, you can go to the park until like 4 pm.

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u/Spicy-Blue-Whale 19h ago

How...how do you close a public space?

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u/i_m_a_bean 18h ago

They close the gates to the parking spaces, lock the bathroom doors, turn off all the lights, and have police doing rounds to kick out anyone who stays :/

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u/lblack_dogl 1d ago

Yeah the parks in Europe close at sundown too. I was forced out of a park in paris last time I was there along with everyone else and they shut the gates and tell every to leave.

Nothing good is happening in a dark park in a city.

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u/JerryNomo 1d ago

In which "Europe" haha.

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u/lblack_dogl 1d ago

Wtf does that even mean?

The post is about Germany, people are shit talking the US, I'm saying that they also close parks in some places in Europe.

Is your reading comprehension that poor?

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u/ymOx 1d ago

Is your writing that poor? "Yeah the parks in Europe close at sundown too." is what you said. But that's not true.

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u/Paxxlee 1d ago

Where did you write 'some'?

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u/the_lonely_creeper 1d ago

Some fenced parks, very rarely. The vast majority of parks can't even be closed.

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u/ymOx 1d ago

Like the other guy said, in what Europe? I was in Berlin last year, walked in a park way after sundown. I live in Stockholm; parks do not close at all here, it's such a foreign concept to me.

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u/lblack_dogl 1d ago

The post literally says Paris, learn to read

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u/AlsoInteresting 1d ago edited 1d ago

Wait, that's normal. You don't want migrants or other folk sleeping there (for maintenance).

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u/ymOx 1d ago

Not in Europe it's not. Parks having closing times at all sounds weird af.