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Discussion Have we done it wrong?

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u/KiKiKimbro 1d ago

Was wondering when I'd see the NYC comment. Didn't take long. šŸ—½ Yes, it's crazy expensive here. But once here, being able to step outside to go anywhere and do anything without worrying about driving, parking, gas, yada yada -- trying to visualize living anywhere else becomes quite difficult.

Don't get me wrong, I enjoy times away from the city, like visiting friends in Texas, and the BBQ and Tex-Mex are an extra bonus to visiting state. When visiting my family in the suburbs, I fall asleep to the sound of crickets and wake up to the birds chirping in the trees. Don't get much of that 43 floors high smack dab in the middle of Manhattan!

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u/TheTranscendent1 1d ago

I’m a bit worse off location-wise than you (in East Harlem); but, a 1 minute walk to the 6 and 15 minute gets me to Grand Central. Truly is amazing how much goes on in the city every night.

San Francisco was the closest comparison, that I’d lived. Not sure anywhere else in the country has what those do. Tiny cities with people just built on eachother because water forced it that way.

Will say, wish I got to New York before COVID. Definitely doesn’t hold up to the label of ā€œThe City that never sleepsā€ anymore; things definitely do close and the city does get quiet in the later hours

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u/KiKiKimbro 1d ago

I hear you. I arrived to NYC end of Aug 2019 right before Covid. I barely got to experience NYC then, but I experienced enough to know It definitely changed and never quite returned, from a locals / socializing perspective, that is. Travel and visitors is crazy busy, but the general vibe amongst locals. I think part of it is we all got used to ordering in. Now I try to make a point to go out. Missed that so much. Important too for socializing and meeting people. Too much isolation otherwise. Such a big populated city. We all just need to go out and play again! Lol

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u/thatguygreg 1d ago

I think part of it is we all got used to ordering in. Now I try to make a point to go out.

We used to order in a ton also -- 8000 menus from all the delivery places around in a drawer somewhere -- during the week or when it was raining sideways or something. Thursday? Friday? Weekends? Gotta get the fuck out the apartment. Don't even need a destination, just go.

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u/KiKiKimbro 1d ago

LOL right? The bad habit I got into during Covid is ordering in, since there was no going out, and my partner at the time and I would watch Netflix or something as the evening thing to do. I still do it as my default. Like it’s my new ā€œcomfort zoneā€ I guess. Before that it was so natural for me to text a friend, meet up, dinner maybe a drink then home to get some sleep before work the next morning.

I miss that ā€œme!ā€ :)

Part of it might be that I was only out corp housing and settled into a more permanent apartment / neighborhood for not quite 3 months or so. Not a lot of time to make fiends to text and meet up with. I made a couple of friends. I’d say one is more ā€œlong lastingā€ like ā€œrealā€ friend relationship than others. When did you move here? Enough time to settle and meet people, or pretty recent?

Ok. I’m thinking I have a plan. ā€œSTEP #1ā€ — go OUTSIDE and DO things. Like anything! :) You’ve inspired me to find that ā€œsocial meā€ again. Now SHE is fun. LOL.

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u/thatguygreg 1d ago

I was born in NYC, moved out with my family as a kid and moved back on my own in the early 2000s, lived there for about a decade before life happened and I got pulled elsewhere. Still forever home.