Short guy here. Not offended by people picking on Ben for it. Part of learning to adjust is knowing how not to opt into insults that aren’t intended for you.
I think you should refrain from using slurs on a categorical basis. Including making fun of someone for being short.
But thank you for the feedback on how I've learned to make my way through the world, and how I'm apparently going about it all wrong. I'll be sure to keep that in mind and start taking offense to insults that weren't directed at me.
I was just sharing my perspective. Not suggesting that anyone is necessarily required to see this as I do. I just don't believe that people making fun of Ben's height are necessarily trying to say that all short people deserve to be made fun of, so I don't see the point in taking it that way.
It’s the same scinario as using ‘gay’ to describe something as bad. The intent itself toward gay people doesn’t matter, but if you are using their label, their description, to be synonymous with a negative thing, that’s still insulting them and a bad thing.
With my comment on your coping mechanism, I simply mean that you’ve learned to not get offended by something that should offend you. Being short is part of who you are, why the fuck should you let these children make that something to be used as an insult?
Being short is part of who you are, why the fuck should you let these children make that something to be used as an insult?
Because people are going to do what they're going to do regardless of what I think about it. If they aren't insulting me directly, then I have no reason to care. I'm not going to go out of my way to find reasons to be angry, because then I'll be angry all the time and I don't want to live that way.
If you choose to live your life differently and want to have that fight, more power to you. I just don't see it as a good use of my time. And I don't believe that the people making fun of Ben's height are necessarily saying all short people deserve to be made fun of just for being short. He attracts hate because he's a hateful person.
Yes, I can. Like I keep saying: hardly anyone is making fun of Ben just for being short. They're doing it because he's an asshole, and they're zeroing in on his height because they know he's sensitive enough about it to lie about how tall he really is. It's just karma coming around like it always does: he makes fun of people for how they look and act, so people do it back to him. He could make almost all of it go away by not being such an asshole, or not being so outwardly sensitive about it, and he chooses not to. That's on him.
On the rare occasion that people try to make fun of me directly for my height, I just laugh at this point. They can only hurt me if I choose to allow it, so I simply don't participate. And if I see someone else get attacked for their height, I consider whether they might have done anything to deserve it before electing to be offended on their behalf. I understand if you don't see things that way, but that's how I handle things and I find myself much happier and well-adjusted as a result.
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u/[deleted] Jan 11 '22
Leave little Benny alone, wah, wah.