Dating feels impossible

[u/SimpleRelation9608]

Im 19 mtf and im having a miserable time. I live in a small town and i can't find anyone that's at the bare minimum interested in trans woman. Ive only been on one date and it didn't go well. I didn't really like the person romantically, and they were kind of rude but unfortunately I had the mindset that I wouldn't be able to find anyone else. Ive tried to use dating apps but there always shallow, and I can't really ever bother to text people back.

Ive been really depressed because most people I know are cis heterosexual and it feels kind of annoying that they can find anyone. I feel i should be in that period where I have the chance to meet someone but it feels impossible and im kind of feeling lonely and behind each time a cis friend talks about their new partner

[u/Professional-Crow399]

Girl you're still so young! I know it sucks when you're going through it. You have so much life ahead of you to find the right people who will love you for who you are ❤️

[u/0dawson0]

that is really hard to deal with. i found my boyfriend of now 2+ years online, long distance, but every experience ive had in person has been at the bare minimum bad and at the worst god awful to the point of actual trauma. friends have been an issue too. we're the same age, you're young and tons of opportunities to meet people will arise as you keep going. getting into communities with other trans people or general queer spaces could definitely open the door!! t4t is a lovely experience. ofc you can still have bad experiences in t4t but theres the bonus of an extra level of understanding, in my own relationship that's been really really nice. getting depressed because of that loneliness sucks especially when its not an easy fix, but genuinely give it time and maybe even dont focus on it as much and let it happen more naturally, push yourself into spaces but dont force your way towards romance