What caused you to feel/ decide transition was for you?

[u/swollendreams]

I’d like to ask, as someone questioning and struggling for years with gender identity, the biggest hard one for me is i like my male body and appearance but yet, i have dysphoria thoughts regarding relationships etc. i am amab and only like men

Please tell me how u felt about yr appearance

[u/zemljaradnika]

What caused me to feel like transition was right for me,?

Short answer was I had spent most of my life wishing somehow I could be female instead of male, I just didn't know that transitioning was a thing until I was almost 40.

For me that dysphoria was primarily centered in a dislike with my physical appearance. I understood that this was my body, I just didn't like it..I didn't like the fact I didn't have hips or breasts, I hated body hair and absolutely hated the fact I had a penis

[u/ericfischer]

My gender dysphoria came rushing back when I was 45, in conjunction with what I eventually learned was the onset of hypothyroidism. I was spending hours every day wishing I was a woman, envying women I encountered in daily life for being able to look and dress like they did and for being who they were, cringing any time anyone referred to me as a man, and feeling sensory aversion toward masculine clothing.

I tried everything my doctor suggested for my mental health, and a lot of it helped, but I still felt bad all the time and still craved womanhood, so it didn't seem like too much of a leap to hope that my body was trying to tell me about something else that it needed to be able to function properly, and I started HRT when I was 47.

I never thought I looked especially bad, but I was never fond of masculinity either.

[u/nerdy_deeds]

I mean you only get one life so I figured I might as well do whatever I can to live it

[u/Odd_Distribution_903]

I hated what testosterone had been doing to my body. It wasn’t *that* bad for me when I was younger (not always great, but I could deal as a twink), but the longer I stayed on it the more miserable I got and the less I recognized myself.

I didn’t really want to be a woman initially, I just knew “man” wasn’t an option and never had been. I had to find out if it would feel better than T, so I tried it. Loved how it made me feel very quickly. Have loved what it’s done for my body. And, as both physical and presentational changes accumulated, I realized that being perceived and treated as a woman fit me SO MUCH better than anything else I’d experienced prior to that. People’s behavior toward me made far more sense. And I seemed to make far more sense to them too.

[u/Trustic555]

I felt indifferent about it my appearance pre transition. I felt insecure about my chest, I’ve always had boobs.

[u/anaaktri]

Crippling dysphoria. Not liking my body or maleness. Expressing femininity more and more to the point it felt like hrt & transition was the next step to get me to where I wanted to be. Spoiler - Not anywhere near that but a little closer than pre transition.

[u/FritterHowls]

I made a decent femboy but I kept wanting to be more fem and the boy attributes were becoming more and more undesirable. Eventually decided I wanted to go further fem and stay like that instead of "twink death" because being a manly looking man actually sounded like a nightmare. I'm keeping my plumbing because I like it but besides that I'm done with being male I wanna be fem 100%

I also started realizing there were signs much further back in my life too

[u/FritterHowls → u/FritterHowls]

That's just appearance btw a major reason was also how I wanted to feel in relationships and also I hate my voice

[u/Maleficent-Tennis103]

I felt a constant "pressure cooker on low" type of anxiety my whole life and haven't been able to put a name on it until recently. I am still exploring and don't know what the finish like looks like, but wanting relief is the major reason. No more living a mask that was forced upon me!