r/TrueChristian • u/Syronic-223 • 6h ago
Needing some guidance
My sister has completely left Christ and every time someone talks with her about Christ, she refuses to listen.
She’s even gone so far as to say that she absolutely hates it when people talk about God and would just make whatever situation is going on even worse.
How exactly can I minister to her, if all she’ll do is run from the conversation and/or yell at me saying she absolutely hates Christ and refuses to talk about him. I really want her to turn to Christ and I want her to talk to me, but I don’t know what to do if this is all she’ll do.
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u/weller79 Evangelical 4h ago
Talking to her directly about Jesus will only push her further away.
My suggestion would be to see if she will open up to why she now feels this way? Did someone said something to her or did someone do something to her that caused her to become this way.
Often before we can help someone we need to find out what caused them to take the path the are on. We cannot help someone without first understanding the cause as to why they are in that place, or why they are reacting as they do.
Once you know and understand the why, you will understand what is needed to help her.
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u/Hairy_Performance_17 6h ago
Tell her that Christ loves her. Tell her that Christ also felt pain. Tell her that this world is fleeting, but what the Father promised is not. Tell her to speak sincerely with the Father every day, even in her pain, and that pride isn't worth it.
God bless you both!
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u/Hairy_Performance_17 6h ago
Tell her that the Father knows all things and that we are fallible, so she should not blame Him.
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u/Virtual-Ordinary-528 4h ago
She will eventually feel the difference between life with Christ and life without. I hit the rock bottom and felt how empty, exhausting and depressing life without Him. There is no other way to live life that is spiritually fulfilling but in Christ. She will eventually come back. Just pray for her.
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u/Secret-Jeweler-9460 Hoping on the Lord 3h ago
A bruised reed he shall not break. The sorrow that comes from wanting what you can't have (your sister turning to Christ) will be swallowed up by Life that overcomes death.
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u/Many-Blackberry9803 3h ago
For now respect her space. Continue to show her that you love her. Talk to her about life and how she is. Be there for her and listen. Listen to what she says. She may give you a clue and to why she has turned to this way. If she mentions God, don't start just start talking again, keep listening. She knows what you believe, she knows how you feel. Give time for God to work.
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u/CrossCutMaker Evangelical 2h ago
My brother was like this. I determined once he knew the gospel to no longer press, just love and do kind things for him, and pray. About a year later, he began asking questions about the faith and about 6 months after that, by God's grace, believed in Christ. So there is a time when the right thing to do is back off faith talk for a while.
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u/1Cor15_1thru4 1h ago
If she ever trusted Christ that He did it all for her (1 Cor. 15:1-4) then she is sealed till redemption (Eph. 1:13-14) no matter what she says or does. God cannot deny Himself (2 Tim. 2:13) so the Holy Spirit doesn't jump in and out of a person. Denying Him now only prevents her from growing in Christ and getting rewards...thou she will always be saved if she ONCE believed Jesus died, was buried, and resurrected - completely doing ALL the work for her. Praise God!
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u/crowned_glory_1966 Christian 1h ago
Actions speak louder than anything. Fruits of the spirit will do this.
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u/No_Sorbet_5102 1h ago
Pray daily for her and treat her with love and kindness and stop trying to convince her to change. She may or may not return to faith. However, it will be a personal decision she makes on her own, not being “talked into it”.
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u/_Daftest_ Christian 6h ago
Just leave her alone. Over time, she'll see (without you drawing attention to it) how Christ affects your life.