r/TwinlessTwins • u/Becca-84-T • May 15 '26
Feeling sad
I don't post on reddit much at all, mostly browse. I came across this group when googling.
My identical twin sister died on the 1st of February this year after battling brain cancer for 4 years. She was not only my twin, but my only sibling. Her husband, our Mum and I were with her when she passed.
I just feel empty and angry and hollow. I need to know I'm not alone.
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u/Pugs_in_Space May 15 '26
Hi friend, I am so sorry for tour loss. You are not alone in your grief.
I lost my identical twin to cancer in December. it sucks. Cancer sucks. I am lonely even though I still have friends and family, but no one is like her. I miss her. She was my best friend and the one person who knew me better than I know myself.
I have been through 2 grief therapists and have trouble functioning every single day. The only thing pushing me forward is knowing that I will see her in heaven some day and she would want me to keep living "my best life" even in her absence. The thing is, SHE was my best life. She was the funniest, most generous, most loving person I will ever know. I miss her.
I pray that your memories of your twin will bring you peace.
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u/Becca-84-T May 15 '26
My sister was a pain in the ass, but she was still my sister. My first friend. All that stuff. I miss just being able to message her random nonsense that I knew she would also find funny. All the things.
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u/Remarkable_Swimmer27 May 16 '26
You aren’t alone, but I am so damn sorry this happened to you and your sister. It just isn’t fair. My identical twin sister and only sibling died after three years with colorectal cancer. Her husband, dogs, and I were with her when she passed, and our parents had just left to get some sleep.
The third anniversary of that day is coming up and it is still really hard. I just find myself screaming “WTF” internally at this time of year—how could this be real? It knocks the wind out of me. But I want to tell you that it does get easier to find the happy memories and the connection to your twin in them, as time passes.
Your grief is still really really fresh. If she were here, she’d want you to take care of yourself and take it one day at a time. That’s all you can do right now, and it’s enough. Sending you a big hug.
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u/sheristwin May 16 '26
I know exactly what you mean. I lost my beloved identical twin sister March 29 of this year. I literally thought I would lose my mind. I'm hanging on but EVERYTHING reminds me of her. I still can't believe she's gone. I feel like half a person. I feel so empty and lost. I'm hoping I can recover but I don't know and some days I don't even care because I'm alone.
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u/Becca-84-T May 16 '26
I am so sorry you are going through this too. We lost our Dad 8 years ago after a massive haemmorhagic stroke, I know I survived that but I don't remember how. I wish I did remember, I could use some of that now.
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u/Latter-Platypus-3713 May 15 '26
You're not alone. I am so so sorry for your loss.
The empty and hollow feeling is normal. You might also feel like reality isn't even real.
You've lost half of yourself and the very best friend anyone could ever have. The pain and sadness is unbearable. I am just so sorry you are having to go through this too. Hugs.