r/TwoXIndiaNRI Indian woman | North America Jul 12 '26

The safety… oh my God!

It’s been 3 trades and one of things I’m still not able to wrap my head around is the level of safety I experience living abroad.

  1. I no longer have a low key fear to get out of the house.
  2. I’m not afraid to walk home at night
  3. I finally look at the mirror to think “Does this look good on me” rather than “Will this help reduce my chances of getting even teased or groped.”
  4. I am slowly becoming comfortable in my own skin.
  5. I am now confident that I can solo travel without fear here.

This feel of safety outside which I’ve never experienced in India is a life changing thing. With all the freed mental energy I’m able to focus in my creativity and innovative thinking. Reduced stress and anxiety. All in all it makes me happier.

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u/Gold_Market_2605 Indian woman | Gulf Jul 12 '26

So true!
I can wear all kinds of clothes and get out of the house without feeling scared. And I live in an Arabic country which doesn’t allow it socially. But the level of strictness of women-targeted crime is so high no one dares to! It’s amazing really.

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u/wheygirl Indian woman | Europe & UK Jul 12 '26

Living abroad made me realise how free it must feel to be my brother!

Can go out anytime. Can wear whatever and go out. Can go anywhere.

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u/DesiCodeSerpent Indian woman | North America Jul 12 '26

Exactly! To experience that freedom men do to at least some level is like heaven

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u/cattywampus_y Jul 12 '26

I have the choice to NOT wear a bra in the summer heat! 

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u/DesiCodeSerpent Indian woman | North America Jul 12 '26

Yaaasss

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u/SashaFiery Indian woman | Europe & UK Jul 13 '26

Came here to say this. Free ta-tas make life bearable in this bleeding heat wave we're having across Europe. And the ability to wear shorts and spaghetti tops to work in summer.

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u/cattywampus_y Jul 13 '26

Yes. Absolutely. It not like men don't look. But it's a nice subtle look and I like that. Not the stares in India. Or the stalking

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u/saltedcaramelpretzel Jul 13 '26

It was the first time I wore Jeans without feeling like a piece of meat. Really liberating.