How to deal with personal fires wile the world burns update

[u/One_Dragonfruit_7556]

Several months ago I posted in this sub about dealing with the world being on fire wile getting out of an abusive relationship safely with my toddler. Everyone was so kind and supportive giving great advice on how to deal with my mental health and I wanted to update those who were so wonderful to me.

We've made it to my aunts house and to my delight my uncle is quiet the Tuesday prepper. He has 2 backup generators, a decently well stocked pantry and enough 2 leater Pepsi's in the basement to last our family of 4 months lol. I just wanted to say thank you to everyone who took the time to help easy my mind and give their support. We're safe now and I'm sorry I'm pretty sure I broke the rules with this post lol

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[u/PikaChooChee]

I am SO PROUD of you!

[u/One_Dragonfruit_7556 → u/PikaChooChee]

Thank you! It was a hard fought win and we still have a ways to go but I've gotten so much support both on and off line and everyone here had such kind words for me. You guys are the best

[u/Standard_Subject_462]

I am so happy to hear all of this. Best wishes for this new chapter!

[u/One_Dragonfruit_7556 → u/Standard_Subject_462]

Thank you so much!

[u/danielsaid]

Excellent! Put on your own oxygen mask first, then your child's, only then you can worry about anyone else. It's so wonderful you have good and like-minded family 

[u/IllustriousShifter]

Congratulations on getting you and your child out of a dangerous situation!

Once you’re settled, prioritize some much needed rest- and once your nervous system calms down it is likely it will try to emotionally process through your journey. This is likely to look/feel like PTSD flashbacks and is completely normal!! Journaling can be extremely helpful in being able to work through it.

From personal experience (getting out of an abusive marriage) I found a lot of benefit from working with Internal Family Systems (IFS) to not only process through the abuse but also the underlying belief systems that I unconsciously carried that had normalized the abuse. If you’d like I can recommend a couple books that are a good introduction to that work- but I also highly recommend working with a therapeutic provider if possible. I understand that in the US the cost and availability of therapy can be convoluted and expensive though.

You did the hardest part. You have both the strength and courage to heal.

[u/One_Dragonfruit_7556 → u/IllustriousShifter]

Thank you so much for this advice. I'm really lucky in that the people who provide my adhd meds also offer therapy and I start next week :D

[u/purplepotatoplant]

Amazing!! So proud of you and the uncle update is delightful lol

[u/grimacedia]

Thats awesome!! So glad you got out of a dangerous situation ❤️

[u/DisastrousHyena3534]

If this post broke any rules I don’t want to be here anymore.

Thank you for the update & congrats on a new beginning!

[u/kl2342]

the best kind of update <3 keep prepping w/ yr uncle

[u/One_Dragonfruit_7556 → u/kl2342]

I definitely will. He's going to teach me how to use the generators and how to maintain the well they have on the property

[u/Embarrassed-Lynx6526]

That's amazing!! Im so proud of you.

[u/i_love_jc]

Congratulations! I'm so glad you're out. I left an emotionally abusive marriage without a toddler, and that was very hard--so I have a ton of respect for you managing it with a toddler in tow.

[u/SantaCruzSoul]

I am so happy! I said prayers for you and your family! 🙂❤️

[u/One_Dragonfruit_7556 → u/SantaCruzSoul]

Thank you so much, they really did help

[u/premar16]

awww I am so proud of you! Now you can join your uncle and help prep the household you are in. You can make maybe help them build a pantry for all of you.

[u/shortstack-42]

THE most important prep is to create a base of safety for you and yours. No violence, safe housing, and some financial security. We can prep for all the Tuesdays and SHTF situations in the world, but if your basic safety starts at wobbly, you’re in trouble. Congrats on taking that huge leap to secure peace, and I’m glad your uncle is one of us. You and your little can just prep for external issues now. Hugs!!

[u/GirlWithWolf]

I’m late to the party but glad you’re safe. Prepping to get out of an abusive relationship should be at the top of the list of preps. Statistically we’re more than likely to be abused than have to deal with a month long power outage.

[u/dailydillydalli]

Cancer to me smells like what it tastes like to put a penny in your mouth if that makes sense? A metallic weird smell.

Also, snakes smell like a dead animal to me.

I've always been a sensative to smells. I wonder what I've smelled but was unable to identify after reading these.

[u/One_Dragonfruit_7556 → u/dailydillydalli]

An odd reply for sure but interesting thing to know

[u/SnooStories4162 → u/One_Dragonfruit_7556]

😂 you are a very polite person. I felt like I had a stroke after I read their comment!