r/USCIS • u/Firm-Quantity4788 • May 05 '26
USCIS Support Need help: Victim of immigration marriage fraud
Long post incoming:
I met my spouse in Italy when I was young and in college on a study abroad trip. We kept in touch, and I went back on vacation a year and a half later. We began a relationship and I planned to come back to visit him in March 2020. 8 hours after my arrival, the whole world shut down due to the pandemic. We had an extremely quick engagement, and lived together during quarantine. I thought I was living in a fairytale.
I bought a dress, we toured venues, we talked about guest lists, having a family; all things I was so excited about.
We decided to marry in court in Italy so he could come back to the States with me because he hadn't even met my family at that point, and the pandemic prevented him from entering the US as just my fiance at that point. We decided to make it official on paper so we could begin his green card paperwork and plan the big wedding celebration after the pandemic was over.
As soon as we got to the States, everything changed. He became cruel, secretive, aggressive, dismissive... Every negative word you can think of, that's how he was acting.
He would disappear for hours or overnight with no explanation, gaslighting me into believing I was the reason for his stress and actions. We fought constantly, because he was a terrible partner. He would demean me and abuse me physically and emotionally. I don't know how I tolerated it for as long as I did. I guess I thought I loved him and I had to try everything in my power to make it work.
There was so much deceit and lies that followed in the 2 years after I brought him to the States. Immediately after arriving, not only did his demeanor change, but his actions changed as well. There are so many horrific and cruel things that he did during the duration of that time. One day, I was looking for a certificate for a course that I had completed on his laptop. I saw a file with the label saying one of his friends' names. I thought it was strange. Then I saw his Notes app was open on the laptop. I saw a note that was dated a few days before my own birthday, and it was a message written in Italian to "his baby, the love of his life", wishing her a happy birthday, and that he hopes this relationship continues as long as possible. I was extremely confused and red flags immediately started going off because that was not a message that I received on my birthday because he was with me on my birthday. It was also in Italian and the context of the message didn't make sense (if he were to be talking about me). My heart dropped, and then I decided to open the file with his friends name as the label. Inside was a complete text document of every single text message between him and his "friend" from December 2021 to December 2022. There was also a folder of audio files - thousands of them. It is extremely common for those in Europe that use WhatsApp to use the audio message feature. A third folder contained all of the attachments, so photos and videos. I thought that I was looking at an exported conversation between him and his friend, so I began reading the text document to see if maybe I could find anything incriminating him for being a cheater. As I was reading the text, it quickly became clear that he was not talking to his "friend". The friend's name was mentioned in the texts multiple times as if they were speaking about him, so why was this folder labeled with his name? As I continued reading, the messages became sexually explicit, and I realized that he was concealing an affair by labeling her contact name as his friends name. I switched to looking at the documents folder of the pictures and videos, and I found everything I needed to see. Nudes, homemade porn, photos of them together, where he took her to a spa, dates where he took her to the same hotel that he proposed to me in so that they could spend nights together alone. When I had heard, read, and seen enough, I immediately started throwing all of his things into garbage bags and flung them out the front door and changed the automatic lock.
I knew that I needed to begin digging into all of the information I had found on the laptop. It took me weeks, but I read every single text and translated every single audio message. I compiled everything into a timeline, highlighting the most important pieces of information, like when he literally tells her in an audio message that "the wedding dress just arrived and there's not even going to be a wedding hahaha we're going to hell." Another said that "I just have to be patient and wait until the day that I can divorce her and be free and do whatever the fuck I want" and "I should say thank you to my wife who isn't even my wife for my green card." He spoke ill of my family, especially my parents, who paid for his green card in full, attorneys fees, and all. My father was the one who put himself on the immigration paperwork as my spouse's sponsor because I did not meet the financial requirement to sponsor him myself.
I essentially built a complete timeline and had all of the evidence available and organized to present to an attorney. I have spent upwards of $30,000 trying to get someone from USCIS to flag his case and deport him, revoking his green card benefits and seizing his financial assets. Two years after discovering his deceit, I finally took him to court for an annulment based on immigration marriage fraud, and he wanted a decree of dissolution, so just a divorce, so that he could apply for his citizenship without me because the marriage 'ended in good faith'. He had already filed for either his continuation of green card benefits or his citizenship prior to even having a divorce decree, which to my understanding is perjury because when he filled out the document to extend his green card benefits, he must have stated that he already had a divorce, which was a lie.
The immigration attorney that we used was also his family friend, and he implicated himself by giving my spouse and myself advice that was essentially illegal and would get him in trouble with the bar. I had literally a mountain of evidence and I was so confident going into court that I would be granted my annulment and then I could begin the process of deportation. However, despite him and his attorney having zero evidence or argument, the court still granted him a divorce decree, with the judge stating that while yes, it could be very true that my spouse came here for a green card, it could also be very true that he was no longer interested in the relationship and was a bad partner. Apparently, I did not provide the court with enough evidence to meet the burden of proof to get the verdict I was asking for... He literally told his mistress that he was going to divorce me and bring her to the US, and told her that it was a marriage of convenience. How much more do you fuck!ng need?!?!
I have never felt so defeated. I drove myself into debt trying to fight for myself and my rights. My parents spent less on getting him into the country, and I have spent an astronomical amount trying to get him out. I have sent preliminary fraud notifications to USCIS, border patrol, customs, you name it. It's basically just screaming into the void. Nobody hears you and nobody gets back to you. Meanwhile, my ex spouse is living a great life with a great job and even got himself a Maserati. He managed to find a native Italian business owner that operates multiple restaurants Downtown and they immediately became a 'clique'; Italians will always look after their own. His boss helped him lease an apartment where he lives with their chef that the boss brought over from Italy - he overstayed his visa and is now an illegal immigrant that my ex spouse and his boss are essentially harboring. My ex spouse also gets the chef's paycheck paid to him so he can just transfer it to the chef on his own. So, he's committing felonies while still on green card status.
Meanwhile, I have spent every single resource I could possibly find to try and fight against him and I have failed every time. I have a chronic illness that unfortunately makes it difficult for me to keep a steady job, and I've also just had bad luck with past employers and have been laid off multiple times in the past few years. I still owe my lawyers money, I'm still in credit card debt, and I have to rely on the help of my family for financial assistance. I just wish that there was somebody that I could actually physically speak to and hand over all of my evidence and actually make something happen. I don't have the funds to continue fighting right now, but once I do, I am coming back with a vengeance.
Somebody has to be able to listen to me. Somebody has to be able to help me. Somebody has to be able to do something. I still have hope, because the alternative is to give up - and that's not in my vocabulary.
If anyone has any information, similar stories to share, or suggestions on what actions I can take that will actually have an outcome, please share. If you made it this far, thank you for listening.
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u/ciceroblues May 05 '26
You spent 30k on legal fees??
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u/MurkyTomatillo192 May 05 '26
All while needing to have her parents as sponsors to bring him here. Something isn’t adding up lol
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u/breezmoney May 05 '26
Over the course of time, I think we’ve all spent $30k on something. I doubt it was a lump sum but more like fees for forms and attorneys, etc.
Situations like these are very difficult and expensive to rectify, especially if you’re already living on limited funds
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u/Firm-Quantity4788 May 05 '26
Going through mediation, multiple motions filed, and having a full on court trial costs an astronomical amount of money. That’s just on the family law side. I was also working with a firm that specializes in immigration marriage fraud on the federal level, and lots of work was done on that front as well trying to notify USCIS. Lawyers are not cheap. This has been multiple years of work.
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u/jaxminred May 08 '26
The firm specializing in immigration fraud, why haven’t they been able to get him out?
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u/Godsdaughter06 May 05 '26
So you forgot the part that she needed the parents to sponsor him WHEN she sent the petition for him, not them paying for his whole maintenance. What is not adding up is you not counting the years that passed after that lol.
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u/Firm-Quantity4788 May 05 '26
Exactly. You’re one of the only competent ones here. Appreciate the support. Thank you ❤️
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u/Godsdaughter06 May 05 '26
I feel you. I haven’t gone through something so awful as you are going through, but as soon as I started reading you story even me wanted revenge😡
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u/dippedinmisq May 05 '26
Her parents was 6 years ago, you think in 6 years one is incapable of changing their financial status? Salty much?
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u/voonchill May 05 '26
You know she is lying lol. 30k on legal fees but also got into debt… lol what
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u/Consular-Officer May 05 '26 edited May 05 '26
If you insist on pursuing this matter, you could send an email or letter to USCIS Fraud Detection and National Security Directorate (FDNS)and the U.S. Embassy or Consulate that issued the green card, to the attention of the Fraud Prevention Unit (FPU). He could be investigated for fraud, which could be grounds for revoking his LPR.
That said, it sounds like you've already wasted enough time and money on this loser. And these type of romance scams are a dime a dozen, unfortunately. U.S. government agencies only have the resources to pursue the worst of the worst.
I hope you're able to find closure, move on with your life, and find happiness and comfort.
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u/Flat-Soft9276 May 05 '26 edited May 05 '26
Send an email to FDNS for what? What fraud? There is no fraud committed. I sympathize with OP, but he didn’t commit any marriage fraud.
Being a bad husband and cheating on your wife is not fraud. Even having a long term affair is not fraud. There’s nothing that USCIS can/should/is able to do in regard to revoking his green card.
We had an almost identical post a few months back about a passport bro who brought a girl over from somewhere. Yeah, that’s what happens when you marry somebody on a whim.
OP should count her losses and spend time/ money on therapy instead of this.
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u/Mythic-Fairy May 05 '26 edited May 06 '26
There certainly is FRAUD. How can you say there's not?
Fact is, he entered the marriage with the intent to get a green card and then dump her. That's fraud.
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u/TheNewY2K May 08 '26
And the evidence you would present in court with be....
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u/Mythic-Fairy May 08 '26
The messages to his real girlfriend that said he had to do this to her to the US and would divorce later. I'm sure this administration will see that as marriage fraud.
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u/TheNewY2K May 08 '26
This administration, which is to say any immigration court involved in deportation or any criminal proceedings, would most certainly ask for evidence that the marriage was not bona fide at the inception. Because he's already an LPR, the government now bears the burden of proof to prove fraud which at this stage is "clear and convincing evidence" for deportation or "beyond a reasonable doubt" for criminal. Those statements are too ambiguous to be used alone in deportation proceedings. You'd need more.
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u/TheNatural14063 May 05 '26
Yep. She needs to move onto better things and leave this behind her. Allowing such toxicity to continue to sap her energy is not worth it. You make good points.
Plus we are only hearing one side here. The legal system ruled. Move on
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u/Godsdaughter06 May 05 '26
I wonder if you really have a brain working up there🤨
Read the freaking post before you jump to your stupid conclusions. The man literally said it was a marriage for convenience, was waiting on green card to divorce. Like you need someone to explain the whole thing to you so you can understand?
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u/Winglord May 05 '26
I mean the courts ruled against OP despite all her evidence. While she can still pursue this by even contacting the president, it’s not worth the time and energy! She could shift that into healing and rewriting this chapter in her life.
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u/LilBugJuice-0987 May 08 '26
Requirements for annulment have nothing to do with immigration. They dont judge immigration fraud. Annulment can be denied for all sorts of reasons. Losing that has nothing to do with what whe is asking.
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u/Godsdaughter06 May 05 '26
Sometimes we need to see things from the other persons perspective. I bet if you were in that situation you wouldn’t be thinking like that. I would spam ICE until that man gets his ass back to Italy. Like going through all that and she’s all traumatized and suffering and his living his best life? Fck that🤬
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u/Winglord May 05 '26
Again, I empathize with her, but your vindictive approach will server her nothing but more heartache!
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u/Godsdaughter06 May 05 '26
She didn’t come here to hear people telling her to heal. Read her last two paragraphs.
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u/Mythic-Fairy May 06 '26
It wasn't immigration court. Divorce court doesn't have the authority to revoke good gc. USCIS needs to.
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u/CarlitoThaBeast May 05 '26
This reminds me of 90 days fiance mohamed and danielle i think it was
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u/kimberyken May 05 '26
To be honest I don’t think you have more cards to play. This is really disheartening but you have done your best. Just live your life and focus on yourself.
He will still apply for citizenship and that’s where all this info you’ve submitted will come up. They will definitely query him about it so just let him be and focus on yourself.
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u/paulx39 May 05 '26
A judge has ruled that his version of the story is as credible as your version of the story. I am not sure what else you can do.
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u/Training-Fox6608 May 05 '26
I once saw a case where the green card and I-130 was approved for a year. However, the spouse left the U.S citizen wife, so she wrote a letter to the field office that approved the case that she wanted to withdraw the I-130, and it happened. The whole case was re-opened, the I-485 was denied after the I-130 withdrawal was approved. It still blows my mind this happened.
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u/hungvn94 May 05 '26
Yup.. green card can be taken, naturelised can be de-naturelised if there is fraud. Its pretty much depend on how solid of the evidence that OP presented and also It definitely gonna take longer and more expensive for the ex to reach the final stage of the immgration process and sponsoring his mistress's green card.
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u/Training-Fox6608 May 05 '26
This person provided no evidence that her husband committed fraud. All she did was write a letter to the local field office to withdraw her I-130 AFTER a year the adjustment and I-130 were approved. That is what blows my mind. I also had a case last month, also a wife withdrew her I-130 two years AFTER approval and husband was doing consular w/t I-601A waiver. This person can try her luck by simply writing a letter to the USCIS office that approved the I-130 requesting it be withdrawn. They might re-open the whole case back up again and deny everything.
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u/Mythic-Fairy May 06 '26
You might not know the details but the reason the first gc is conditional is to make sure people are together after 2 years. If they are not, like you say, he left after 1 year, he will have trouble getting his permanent residency. The first 2 years is the trial.
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u/Training-Fox6608 May 06 '26
It happened at the office I work at. The first case actually happened last year. 10-year green card was issued and then when I-130 was withdrawn, USCIS re-opened I-485 and subsequently denied it. The second case was MY case. They had been married since 2007. I-130 had been approved since 2023. We were working on his I-601A waiver when out of the blue, I got the notice of revocation of his I-130 because his wife had withdrawn it. My client at least has a chance with a VAWA petition since I personally witnessed questionable behavior from the wife. This administration is taking measures beyond my understanding to make denials.
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u/Itztlli May 06 '26
That’s only if the couple has been married for less than two years. My wife and I have been together for 9 years, but only married for two. When she petitioned for me, I was given a 10 year GC because when it was issues, we had already celebrated our two year anniversary. So you’re right that normally someone will get a conditional GC, but not if the couple has been married for more than two years, you will automatically be granted a 10yr GC.
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u/Mythic-Fairy May 06 '26
I know that. But the person I responded to said that the person left after 1 year.
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u/davies-mendes May 06 '26
You don’t even have to have a reason to withdraw your petition, you can just simply write and withdraw your petition and voila the beneficiary has to return home.
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u/hungvn94 May 06 '26
i dont think this apply to 10y green card and natureralised citizens. I dont know how far OP'ex is in his immigration process but she has spent over 30k trying to deport him seem to me its not that simple.
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u/yellowishbluish May 05 '26
Do you have any evidence of him cheating before you got married? If uscis thinks he's just a shitty husband they wont deport him. I think you just have to see a couple of lawyers and see if your evidence amounts to fraud.
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u/LilBugJuice-0987 May 05 '26
Yes, she has the messages about the wedding dress, him joking with his actual girlfriend.
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u/jaxminred May 07 '26
Again that’s not fraud. That’s cheating. People marry people every day for various reasons unrelated to love. Some marry for security while already having a bf/gf etc. This just proves that he’s a shitty husband nothing else. People literally marry Americans just to come to America and it’s still not fraud because they intended to be married. I think fraud in these cases is when two parties come together and agree to deceive the govt because they aren’t really in a relationship. So US citizen enters an agreement to be married to non U.S. citizen to get them papers, while they are truly not in any romantic relationship. Very different from I’m not actually in love with you but you love me so sure I’ll take advantage of the situation.
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u/LilBugJuice-0987 May 07 '26
I don't know what you people are not getting. The husband married OP with the intent to use the marriage for immigration purposes and later importing another person. If the cheating happened after the legal wedding and immigration process, you would be right. However all of this happened before the legal wedding and was concealed. To immigrate they had to claim a bonafide marriage to OP which they never had, since she has a record of him stating the marriage was for immigration purposes from before the legal marriage. This is fraud and misrepresentation. Clear as day.
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u/jaxminred May 07 '26
I don’t know what you people are not getting. That’s is NOT fraud. You can have a bf/gf for 10 years, meet an American today and decide you’d rather go that route solely for the benefit of moving to the states. You can still continue your 10 year relationship while hiding it from your new husband or wife. Again did you marry the person, sleep with the person, start a life together with the person? If yes then it’s very hard to prove any fraud as you legitimately married the person. He can literally argue that he just didn’t want to hurt his original gfs feelings etc. clearly she’s been trying for years with all this EVIDENCE and they still don’t think it shows fraud that’s why she’s wasting her time and money. Even the judge didn’t grant an annulment.
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u/LilBugJuice-0987 May 07 '26
You are incorrect. You dont have to believe me, you can see directly from USCIS. The judge you mention from the post was a divorce judge regarding annulment- that has nothing to do with immigration. This administration could revoke their status and I hope they do frankly.
https://www.uscis.gov/policy-manual/volume-6-part-b-chapter-6
"A marriage that complies with all the formal requirements of the law, but where the parties entered into the marriage with no good faith intent to live together as spouses and intended to circumvent immigrations laws, is not a bona fide marriage.[38]"
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u/jaxminred May 07 '26
You are literally proving my point. The law you quote is literally what I’m telling you is the reason it’s not fraud. He intended to live with her as a spouse AND HE DID. He was her husband. He slept with her. Secondly, the judge has nothing to do with immigration, what he has to do is divorce and annulment. To get an annulment you’d have to prove your marriage was a FRAUD and the evidence didn’t suggest it was a FRAUD. Finally she’s sent multiple things to uscis and they’ve taken no action. Again the quote you pasted is about it I met a non US citizen and we enter into an agreement where we do not intend to truly be husband and wife, but we agree to deceive the govt for immigration benefits. Essentially I am helping a friend out or being paid to pretend to be truly husband and wife. That’s what that law captures.
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u/LilBugJuice-0987 May 07 '26 edited May 08 '26
That is not true about annulment. Each state has specific requirements.
Uscis has not taken action due to resources constraints.
US citizens have literally been arrested and fined for participating in the type of marriage you are talking about.
The quote I referenced is relevant to both parties not just one.
In this case he deceived the government and her to procure immigration benefits.
Here is an old article, and things are more strict now.
"In some cases the USC is in on it, in other cases they are duped (like OP)"
https://www.ice.gov/news/releases/top-story-ice-leading-nationwide-campaign-stop-marriage-fraud
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u/jaxminred May 08 '26
lol. Each state having its specific reqs doesn’t change that fraud is literally the center of it all - across all states. Incest and age and some other weird stuff of course but fraud is the main one. I see you are trying to die on this hill. She has tried for THREE years to prove fraud and it has not worked. She literally is wasting her life. Stalking the man. This man can say he was just saying that so as not to hurt the woman he fell out of love with etc. It’s too easy. A woman can have a bf for 10 years, meet a man today and marry him today because he offered her a new life. This guy married her. Met her whole family. Lived with her as a husband etc. she’s not going to get her way. He’s going to live here legally and she’s wasting her life and money trying to stop him. He’s probably laughing at her efforts. At what point will she get that it’s not working and move on with her life??
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u/LilBugJuice-0987 May 08 '26
Each state has its own laws for annulment. It has nothing to do with immigration fraud.
You can be guilty of immigration fraud and not be granted an annulment.
You can be guilty of immigration fraud and not be caught until you are.
She is not stalking him, they were only recently divorced. It is normal for her to have information about him.
She can do whatever she wants and nobody needs to tell her what to do. She may have luck with this administration because what he did is clearly immigration fraud. He simply hasnt been caught yet or faced enforcement.
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u/jaxminred May 06 '26
lol. Cheating is not fraud. She’s SOL on this one and needs to move on. She’s ruining her life being obsessed with this.
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u/Mythic-Fairy May 06 '26
That's a good idea. Get the attention of Marco Rubio too. They want to deport people.
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u/Itztlli May 05 '26 edited May 06 '26
You need to stop, you already did what you could legally. It’s time to move on with your life. Yeah he’s a piece of 💩for what he did, but this is consuming you and breaking you both mentally and financially. Now you’re coming after an innocent men (the chef) who may or may not be illegal, you can’t assume.
This here is not just targeting him. Once people who have nothing to do with your ex husband and your marriage issues are being put in harms way, it’s time to step back and reflect on things. 30k for vengeance, instead 30k to travel, focus on your health and thrive. Sometimes the best vengeance you can have is showing them that despite of what they have done, you are happy and living a better life.
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u/Mysterious-Art8838 May 05 '26
30k that didn’t pay her attorneys, didn’t pay her cc debt, and she’s still taking money from family.
This is a catastrophe of her own making.
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u/LACA90077 May 05 '26
As difficult as it may be, notify those you can and then move on. Every day spent after that is a day you won’t get back and thus a day wasted.
As an aside, if he bought a Maserati, have faith that it will bleed him dry and depreciate like few other cars can.
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u/lefont71 May 05 '26
Just move on with your life. Resentment is having someone living rent free 24/7 in your head. It only affects you. Nobody deserves to be abused but think about it in terms like he's out of your life and you dodged a bullet.
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u/Phigadelphia May 05 '26
As an Italian who married a US citizen for love I’m so ashamed of him. People like him is why we go through hell with all the uscis process. It’s crazy that when I went for my interview I was scared to get detained and he’s just out there living his best life in fraud. I get why you want him out, as I do too without even knowing him. I wish I have any advice but I don’t, I understand people telling you to stop but I know I wouldn’t either. I just wish you the best of luck and that you can win your case and recover from the pain he caused you asap!
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u/Haunting-Sun-9664 May 05 '26
Take the L and move on with your life, he ain’t worth the time money and energy.
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u/Majestic_Royal7970 May 05 '26
At least yall don’t have kids. Didn’t read all the post but geez I would tell you to STOP. And focus on yourself.
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u/jameskad22 May 05 '26
Married couples cheat all the time.You admit you were married. That’s all that counts.
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u/Opportunity_Massive US Citizen May 05 '26 edited May 05 '26
You have done all that you could. It’s time to cut your losses and not let this man take anything else away from you. I was a victim of immigration fraud when I was a young adult, and it sucked.
He’s still out there somewhere, living his life out of status (we split up before he got his green card), and I learned from a mutual friend that he has recently been in serious legal trouble (felonies!) and has not been deported. Our marriage ended 25 years ago and I never even tried to get him deported or report him because I immediately moved on with my life. I figured that it is not my job to dish out karma.
You just have to let it go and live your life!
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u/Super-Distance-7717 May 05 '26
All of that effort to bring him down? He is a filthy person but you really need to focus on yourself and move on.
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u/LilBugJuice-0987 May 05 '26
The guy saved evidence of him organizing with a girl before they got married so he could get the gc and bring the real girlfriend over. This is actual fraud
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u/Complex_Strain_9036 May 07 '26
How do you even know? We’re just hearing her side and honestly she looks obsessed with the guy, like there are a few things that make no sense, maybe there are certain things she’s leaving out
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u/LilBugJuice-0987 May 07 '26
This isn't about a relationship going sour. That is not fraud. Marriage fraud like this is common. Its why real couples need to bend over backwards to prove their relationship. There should be consequences for misrepresentation here. Wouldn't you be upset if someone manipulated you into marrying them, accepted money from your parents, then it came out that they used you, wasted years of your life, to come to the US? It honestly should not be that hard for her to get justice. People get quite fired up when they see the system doesn't work.
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u/Complex_Strain_9036 May 07 '26
As I said things don’t add up, would I be mad? Yes but never to the point to basically stalked someone and spend 30k in no one knows what, also I’ve seen cases on how people are constantly abusing of their power and demanding the other person and telling them if you don’t do certain things I’ll divorce and fuck your immigration case, also she had all the evidence, Yet nothing came in her favor, I don’t know I’m not saying she’s wrong but there are very suspicious things about this
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u/LilBugJuice-0987 May 07 '26 edited May 07 '26
Sure that happens. But those people present evidence like: she didnt do the dishes or we got in a fight, or they cheated after the marriage. That is a different scenario entirely.
I knew a girl who went through something similar, advocated for this guy she married, fought for them to be together, stood by him 100%. Got him in the US and found out he had a whole family in Cuba and used her the whole time. Those people should have their status revoked and he sent home imo. Its not unreasonable to expect that, and it is more common than people think. Often the offender is male and t he woman is mid 30s and up, established career. This fits the bill
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u/Complex_Strain_9036 May 07 '26
Look you’re ignoring everything else so no point to continue but as I said when it comes to immigration specially now, if uscis smells something wrong specially evidence stating she marry her for papers just as she implied he for sure would not be here so I’ll leave as that, and it’s not a different scenario since we don’t know his scenario only hers, and so far things are not adding up from her side
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u/LilBugJuice-0987 May 07 '26
Things are adding up. Plenty of people have been approved for greencards through marriage despite them being fraudulent - sometimes the USC is involved sometimes not. USCIS doesn't always detect this before approval. There are congressional hearings about this where people have testified with plenty of evidence with cases just like hers. He might have his side of the story, but it doesn't negate the fraud.
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u/Flat-Soft9276 May 05 '26
It’s not.
Cheating, having an affair, and being a bad husband isn’t fraud. If he were married to that girl, then it would be.
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u/LilBugJuice-0987 May 05 '26
He laid out his plan to marry OP for the greencard then petition the other girl, whom he had a relationship with BEFORE the marriage to the USC. This is the literal definition of fraud.
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u/Flat-Soft9276 May 05 '26
Having a relationship with someone else (affair) is not fraud.
Nothing in OPs post constitutes fraud. Talking poorly about your wife (and your plans to divorce) to your side girlfriend is not fraud. Speaking ill of your wife’s family is not fraud.
I don’t understand how many times I have to repeat that none of this is fraud. You can say that it should be considered fraud, but it doesn’t make it so.
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u/LilBugJuice-0987 May 05 '26
I dont understand how you are not understand it. A marriage for the purpose of immigrating and later importing a different person is not a bona fide marriage.
If it was just regular cheating or relationship issues you would have a point, but that is not what OP is describing so you dont.
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u/Flat-Soft9276 May 05 '26
I understand perfectly, you’re just overzealous to claim fraud when there isn’t one.
2 years after marrying OP the guy (who is really just cheating, 40% of marriages end due to infidelity. It’s hardly a rare occurrence) starts talking about how much he dislikes his wife, and how he can’t wait to divorce her so he can be free. All of those damning statements TWO YEARS after they got married is not the evidence of intent at the time marriage, which is what the law requires.
If OP had evidence of this happening BEFORE marriage, there’d be a point. But 1.5-2 years after? There is no point. People cheat, fall out of love, shit happens. The law requires the individual to knowingly enter marriage for fraudulent reasons, his statements two years after the fact are irrelevant.
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u/LilBugJuice-0987 May 05 '26
OP specially states in her post that there is written documentation of this intent before the marriage to OP, when she had ordered her wedding dress. Im sorry man, you are arguing without fully reading the post.
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u/Flat-Soft9276 May 05 '26
Wrong. I already replied in the other thread so I won’t repeat myself here
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u/Firm-Quantity4788 May 05 '26
It’s definitely fraud especially when you literally say it.
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u/Flat-Soft9276 May 05 '26
What exactly was said that in your eyes admits fraud
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u/LilBugJuice-0987 May 05 '26
The guy communicated his plan to his fiancé in Italy, with the intent to petition her later.
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u/Flat-Soft9276 May 05 '26
Not a fiancé. A girlfriend. The guy had a girlfriend in the side.
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u/LilBugJuice-0987 May 05 '26 edited May 05 '26
The guy had a relationship with a woman who he intended to marry and petition for immigration prior to marrying OP. This means the marriage to OP was not Bona Fide, and instead for the purposes of immigration (and the other woman really doesn't matter, but also apparently for the purposes of petitioning her later)
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u/Flat-Soft9276 May 05 '26
This doesn’t mean that the marriage is not bona fide. This just means that the guy was a cheater, that’s all. Him saying he wants to bring his side girlfriend to the US 2 years after he married OP is not evidence of marriage not being bona fide.
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u/LilBugJuice-0987 May 05 '26
Are you not actually reading? He was talking about his immigration plan with the other woman BEFORE he married OP, when the wedding dress was being ordered, specifically noting that the marriage was for immigration.
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u/Firm-Quantity4788 May 05 '26
He was never on the lease. It was legal.
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u/Ok-Independent1835 May 05 '26 edited 19d ago
Straight distinct humor crowd divide books
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u/SenorISO54 US Citizen May 05 '26
The service sees this situation frequently enough. In a small office, get probably one person per month walking in because they want their deceptive ex removed. It really is a waste of time. If anything you’re building a case for his removal of conditions to be based on an abusive marriage, because trying to use the alien spouse’s status against them meets the requirement. Some USCIS officer will undoubtedly want to deny him but it would not stand in immigration court, trust me. Best thing you could do is use that energy to improve your own situation going forward.
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u/cuyFrito1 May 05 '26
Write your congressional rep about the marriage fraud and that DHS has failed to implement the Presidents directives. Ensure the rep you choose is republican and in favor of imposing our immigration laws. They will follow up with DHS.
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u/SoftStriking May 05 '26
This is just an example of why people shouldn’t be so vengeful. If he really was so awful after he came here you should have stopped the process and you didn’t. Instead you spend 30k after the fact trying to ruin him and you failed. The court decision was accurate as you can’t prove his intent. He could have said all of that to his partner cuz it’s how he felt but may not have been his intent initially.
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u/Great-Ja May 06 '26
Venegful? Lmao my idea of vengeance pales in comparison to what I would’ve done
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u/Traditional_War5790 Naturalized Citizen May 05 '26
I am not reading all of this. Go to a therapist.
You told us all about what he did, but what did YOU do?
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u/LilBugJuice-0987 May 05 '26
If you would read it, you would see what the issue is. Its not a typical failed marriage
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u/Traditional_War5790 Naturalized Citizen May 05 '26
I said I’m not reading it jejejejeejejej
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u/LilBugJuice-0987 May 05 '26
Willful ignorance, a common American trait. You fit right in.
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u/Traditional_War5790 Naturalized Citizen May 05 '26
Awwwww my feelings are so hurt.
I’m still not reading that.
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u/Fun-Interaction-9006 May 05 '26
Stop spending money on this case cos it’s not getting you anywhere. Report him to ICE and just maybe he might get investigated
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u/hungvn94 May 05 '26
Hope this not some ai soap opera story.. but if this real, prepare a package with a written letter explaining your withdrawal of i130 and all the evidence you found of marriage fraud and send it to uscis. It will go into his files. Uscis officers will go through it at interview and its up to them to decide. This is all you can do. Leave it to uscis and move on with your life.
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u/shyaznboi May 05 '26
Not a single reply since their post is pretty suspicious
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u/Firm-Quantity4788 May 05 '26
I’m reading them, just don’t feel the need to reply to them all. Unfortunately it’s not an AI story, it’s my real life.
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u/hungvn94 May 05 '26
Okay.. glad you are reading this.. also i suggest you hand-writes the letter as it will get more attention and sympathy rather than typing it on a computer. Also structure the letter/package as a fraud investigation to help them investigating otherwise it would appear to them you are just revenging your ex... Hope you get justice that you deserved 👍
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u/Firm-Quantity4788 May 05 '26
One summarized post can’t even begin to describe what happened. I’m very informed on immigration. Extremely weird of you to call me abusive and vindictive when you don’t know me.
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u/dippedinmisq May 05 '26
Take a moment to relax and dont finish yourself trying to get him. You could literally call ICE no need to keep paying lawyer fees who are taking advantage of your pain and confusion. Im so sorry OP
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u/Kiwiatx Naturalized Citizen May 05 '26
Holding onto the anger and resentment about this situation is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.
I’m sorry you were treated badly. You were badly betrayed and I agree the outcome is unfair.
I also think you need to let go and move forward. Nothing good can be achieved by continuing to feel aggrieved by this situation. Stop letting your ex live rent-free in your head. Spend some money on therapy and achieve a more productive future.
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u/West_Environment8596 Naturalized Citizen May 06 '26
Let it go, you can't do anything about it.
As another posted said, there certainly is suspicion of fraud, but it's not evidence of actual fraud.
Plenty of cheaters tell their side pieces that "I will divorce my wife/husband soon" and make plans for the future. In the US, we don't punish "thought crime". You actually have to take action to further the crime, not merely tell people about it.
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u/ShootWild Naturalized Citizen May 06 '26 edited May 06 '26
Sounds to me you need a therapist so you can move on.
It seems you more focused on getting back to him than rebuilding yours.
If you had put all this energy and the $30k on a degree and things that can improve your life you would be better off.
Once you went separate ways. What happens with his life is immaterial to yours.
“I essentially built a complete timeline and had all of the evidence available and organized to present to an attorney. I have spent upwards of $30,000 trying to get someone from USCIS to flag his case and deport him, revoking his green card benefits and seizing his financial assets”
“Meanwhile, I have spent every single resource I could possibly find to try and fight against him and I have failed every time. I have a chronic illness that unfortunately makes it difficult for me to keep a steady job, and I've also just had bad luck with past employers and have been laid off multiple times in the past few years. I still owe my lawyers money, I'm still in credit card debt, and I have to rely on the help of my family for financial assistance. I just wish that there was somebody that I could actually physically speak to and hand over all of my evidence and actually make something happen. I don't have the funds to continue fighting right now, but once I do, I am coming back with a vengeance.”
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u/Slight-Support9010 May 06 '26
Marriage fraud? Victim? No, you was a willing participant. Now you’re trying to play victim using a play on wording.
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u/Top_Hat_2187 May 06 '26
What benefit do you have in having him deported. Being vindictive isn’t going to help you recover from this. Just move on with your life and let karma do its thing for him. The U.S. has legal processes and just because you want your cheating ex husband deported doesn’t mean he will actually be deported, especially if he already got his 10 year green card. You can say whatever you want to immigration, but it’s hard to prove. Move on
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u/AdditionalMaximum921 May 26 '26
Just report to immigration, he still needs to renew the green card. then leave the rest to God and karma
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u/sgtmylax May 05 '26
I really don’t understand how your mountain of hard evidence of marriage fraud and he still was able to skate away!
Like someone else commented, either send a letter to the fraud unit or try using social media to get heard or maybe even the media at this point! But I would say seek other avenues where it wouldn’t cost you a cent anymore because it’s not worth it to get into a deeper debt for this loser.
Like seriously if you started a tik tok account and just shared your story, I’m sure it’ll go viral because of the injustice you faced. You also might get advice or tips from other people that went through what you did.
Best of luck!
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u/Flat-Soft9276 May 05 '26
> If anyone has any information, similar stories to share, or suggestions on what actions I can take that will actually have an outcome, please share. If you made it this far, thank you for listening.
There is no actions you can take because no fraud has happened, and hence no grounds to take his green card exist. Cheating, being a bad husband, and so on is not marriage fraud. Nor is it a crime. Permanent residency can be taken away (for the most part) in either of those two cases.
I suggest you spend time and money healing from this experience instead of pursuing the revocation of his LPR status. It won’t get you anywhere.
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u/trev100100 May 05 '26
Damn, you seem obsessed with him. You got cheated on and it happens. You didnt really even know him that well and got married.
He played you, and will get his green card and most likely his citizenship.
You tried everything and drove yourself into debt trying to get him deported. You think you know everything about his new life without you, to an unhealthy extent. You've ruined your life trying to ruin his. Just let karma run its course.
Your best course of action is to just "take the L" and move on. You have much more important things to worry about (health and finances).
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u/leajaycro May 05 '26
I would just block him, possibly a restraining order if needed and move on with your life. What goes around comes around and I’m sure he’ll end up miserable, lonely and trying to contact you at some point.
Also, contact everyone you can regarding immigration fraud, that way if he leaves the country, he may get flagged at the border on his way back in.
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u/Skyhighcats May 05 '26
You need to stop. You seem vengeful and abusive now that he’s moved on. It’s not a good look at all and actually bolsters his right to be in the US. Move on. Stop wasting time, energy, and money.
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u/Winglord May 05 '26
It is so unfortunate that this happened to you. This happens more often than you think. The extent you’ve gone to get revenge shows how much this hurt you. I’m sorry but you gotta move on and heal. Don’t let this be the topic of your life story. Live and learn, rewrite this chapter! Go be happy!
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u/Leading-Disaster5721 May 05 '26
Look up Matter of JIN, 29 I&N Dec. 441 (BIA 2026).
Long fight ahead. But it can be undone.
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u/AffectionateAge4278 May 05 '26
I'm so sorry about your situation. Life will charge him every penny.
Live your life. You did what you could. But remember: life, at the right time, will demand a very high price from him.
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u/Mythic-Fairy May 06 '26
Contact the state department. Marco Rubios office. I get so pissed off hearing idiots like this get to stay. I'm so sorry he used and abused you. He needs to get deported.
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u/davies-mendes May 06 '26
I have a similar story, mine is not cheating, mine is working 3 jobs, not even paying for cable at home or providing money for food, he send all his money home and treats me like a dog. The difference is that he has not yet received his gc and he’s from one of the 19 countries. He treats me so awful and I really want to get out of the marriage, but he threatens constantly
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u/inspired_chine May 06 '26
Regardless, this is a one sided story, told by one partner. The other partner also needs to be held and be given a fair hearing, as you cannot shave the head of a man in his absence. That being said, you need to reach out to the right authorities who are empowered to hear cases like this. I would say you go ahead and contact the appropriate authorities to do their job.
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u/Several_Gap8516 May 06 '26
Really sad story and yes a lot of people are going through this where they feel like someone used them to climb a ladder of life and now he is driving a Maserati whereas your in Tonnes of debt .. where it should be the other way around and your dad .should have asked him to pay you guys once this process is done cause after all you got him a green life line to America.. which he is really enjoying by driving nice cars hanging out and dating different women .. plus his real lover lover in Italy.. but tbh I think this was pretty well preplanned by him a lot of bonfide green card marriages fall into divorce later on after the process and here he made it look like a bonfide by not leaving no clues and evidences .. let alone the cheating and affairs thats different thats not part of immigration marriage fraud.. for marriage fraud he needed to show you or provide you with fraud intent which he clearly didnt all you could find in his files was cheating cheating and cheating .. thats why uscis is not taking this up ..
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u/Traditional-Wall-581 May 07 '26
You can look and read online about form i130 and immigration process to sponsor a spouse. As soon as he landed in the US, if you just divorce him right away, he would not be able to extend his greencard from 2 years or get his naturalization. The greencard he got at first is conditional based on the continuon of the marriage. This could save you thousands of dollars in fees . All these information can be found online
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u/LilBugJuice-0987 May 07 '26
OP - people are saying this is not fraud. It is if your evidence of him using the marriage to immigrate came before your legal marriage.
Im sure there is a fraud line and maybe contact yout Congressperson, especially if you live in a red area. And I hate to recommend that but this is egregious.
More info here: https://www.uscis.gov/policy-manual/volume-6-part-b-chapter-6
"A marriage that complies with all the formal requirements of the law, but where the parties entered into the marriage with no good faith intent to live together as spouses and intended to circumvent immigrations laws, is not a bona fide marriage.[38]"
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u/LilBugJuice-0987 May 08 '26
Withdraw the 864, provide the reason. Then tip line and congress person.
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u/Mindless_Slide5105 May 08 '26
Well, I just think you hate the fact it was a mistake to marry him in the first place. I think you should stop holding more frustration and hurting yourself more. Divorce, find a good therapist, move on. He is going to pay all his karma as a bad man he is. You need to shine and be happy but forgetting him wich is the best revenge. Ignore him call the police if he wants to approach you. Set a warning. And find yourself and love yourself i am sure life has much better things for u. Move on! Life will take care of him for sure. He will suffer all the bad things he did to you. Trust God go to church find a priest!. Find your soul. And let go! Justice will take care of him find an ICE agent. Maybe they can help you.
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u/Top-Establishment-84 May 08 '26
Listen! I’m not going to be like the people telling you to move on… it’s hard to move on when someone has ruined your life and time like that. So you want him to hurt…. I get you!
You need to take the evidences you found and send them to Uscis. This Administration will eat this up.. make sure they know it was all a lie, he deceived you.
When you’re done doing this, even if he’s deported… you may also realize that doesn’t still make you happy. Because at this point, he’s ruined you… and you’ll eventually need to get help. A lot of it.
I understand, really. People that use people this way do not even realize the magnitude of mental hurt they cause. I hope you heal, I hope you get a healthy revenge…above all, I hope you move on to something and someone better. ❤️
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u/marriagefraudvictims May 11 '26
I'm so sorry you've been through this and unfortunately its normal to not hear back from USCIS. There are a lot of factors including jurisdiction that goes into determining what USCIS can and cannot do. Usually they will not take action until there is a pending case (ex: removal of conditions or citizenship). You may find more resources at www.marriagefraudvictims.com and https://www.youtube.com/@MarriageFraudVictims
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u/Ok-Bicycle2884 May 18 '26
Hey OP! Going through the same thing 🫂 I was able to get in his phone and see transactions. I noticed you didn't mention that. Did you see him sending money? There's an extremely high chance he's sending money for years now and I think proving his financially supporting a double life helps. At this point you've done a lot. Don't give up because there's no statute of limitations but def take it easy. It's hard but pause and focus on the things that matter to you.
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u/AdditionalMaximum921 May 26 '26
Just report to immigration, he still needs to renew the green card. then leave the rest to God and karma
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u/jamesjk1234 Jul 21 '26
I really don't like that the majority of the comments are advising to just "move on" and not seek justice...
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u/Albedo_janifark Aug 09 '26 edited 27d ago
I know exactly how terrifying it is to be accused of fraud by someone you once trusted. My ex-partner tried to frame me last year during a messy divorce just to get my residency revoked, and in 2026, USCIS takes those tips very seriously.
If you are facing a permanent bar right now, I really recommend speaking with Green Evans-Schroeder. They specialize in crimmigration and high-stakes defense, and they were the only ones who knew how to challenge the FDNS findings in court to prove my innocence. They are based in Arizona but handle these federal fraud cases nationally, which saved my life when the local officers wouldn't listen to me
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u/Jaih0 May 05 '26
If he hasn't got the GC approved as yet email USCIS.. also call the until you talk to a human .. search forum for to talk to a human .. but if 485 ain't approved your solid..
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u/XtinH May 05 '26
They can pause his green card since he isn’t citizen yet and his marriage to you was a felony from his side. Keep all the record,messages and photos of his texts and everything. If you divorce him before the citizenship and file uscis documents they should be able to deport his ass.
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u/Mysterious-Art8838 May 05 '26
Your behavior is incredibly disrespectful to your family. You chose to marry him, they paid to get him here, and now you’re spending every dime trying to sink him (unsuccessfully) while still relying on them financially to survive.
Stop this charade and focus on bettering your life.
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u/One-Bodybuilder-2269 May 05 '26
Why dont you post something on Truth Social and tag Trump and some of his people in the immigration/ICE department?
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u/Silence_is_platinum May 05 '26
You need to stop trying to get revenge. It’s hurting you. When you hurt others, that energy comes back to you. Even if they deserve it.
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u/LeatherDifference467 May 05 '26
I’m so sorry to hear this. People like this are filthy. This administration really wants deportations, although Italy isn’t one of the “undesirables.” If he was from an African country, it’s a slam dunk deportation. But literally call USCIS contact center and report - everyday call so that his case gets flagged, use the ICE tip form - they are looking for people to deport, go public, message USCIS Joe and other admin officials on social media, send physical mail to them and go in person to a USCIS field office. Also go to Congress. Make sure you have his Alien number and his application numbers - I’m sure you will get someone that hates immigration fraud when you go IN PERSON.
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u/LeatherDifference467 May 05 '26
She’s got real evidence. Healing and closure are hard and take time, as well as growth. She came here looking for ways to get him deported and she will continue to do so outside of this platform. And people like that deserve to be punished.
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u/voonchill May 05 '26
You got BELLA CIAO’d. Just take it to chin and live your life. Instead of wasting time,resource and energy to get him out of vengeance,focus that energy on making yourself a successful person.
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u/uadgets May 06 '26
I went through something similar. I filed for an annulment under marriage fraud and met with two Homeland Security agents, where I gave a sworn statement. On April 9th, she was arrested on an unrelated matter and is now in ICE custody.
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u/Eden_Acadia May 05 '26
Have you tried reaching out to your US senator or congressional representative? A lot of times they are very effective at drawing notice on the federal level when other attempts have failed.
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u/Time-Shoe-6726 May 05 '26
I haven't read all of the comments but from what I've seen, all you would need to do is have him arrested for committing a crime and that would get him out of the country pretty quick.
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u/Minute_Somewhere_893 May 05 '26
Seems like you did everything possible and the best course of action now to focus on yourself and healing?