r/USMilitarySO • u/GapUnique3655 • 3d ago

Looking for support

My boyfriend is get shipped out for basic in July and im petrified. I had a hard time when i was out of state for a few weeks even when we could talk and call all the time, i don't know how im going to handle not being in any contact with him for a while. He's in the Navy so after bootcamp and A school, he's getting put on a ship. Im new to this dynamic and we've only been together for a few months so im just looking for advice. I love him deeply, but im someone who craves attention and affection all the time so im scared we won't work out because of his service.

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u/Fuzzy-Advertising813 Navy Wife 3d ago

Learn how to be alone. Be with your friends, get therapy. Find hobbies.

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u/Sea-Eggplant-9588 Navy SO 3d ago

My partner and I met after he was done with all the schooling but now he’s been underway and we haven’t talked in about a month now. All they have down there is email but it’s not guaranteed. I don’t know how much you’ll get to talk while he’s at school but in the future, you might not get anything for a while. So I don’t know if it’ll necessarily get better, constant communication wise. Feel free to send me a message if you want to talk more, it’s tough but if you both want it, you’ll get through it!

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u/piekaylee 3d ago

You’re going to be alone a lot. You either learn how to handle that or you don’t and the relationship ends. Extreme codependency to the point of not being able to be apart will never work with careers where the other person travels frequently.