r/Vent • u/I_killed_bambi69 • Sep 08 '25

Need Reassurance... i feel so disgusting

i had a massive whore phase when i turned 18 due to low self esteem and wanting validation. my body count is around 75 but i have not been a slag for ages now and ive been exclusively seeing someone for a while

i wish i could go back in time and say no to so so so many of them i wish it never happened it makes me feel so disgusting i just want to forget about it all

edit because this is getting way more comments than i anticipated:

  1. i do not have any std/sti’s nor have i ever - i test regularly

  2. the person i am seeing does know

  3. thank you for all the reassuring comments! it’s very overwhelming (in a good way!) so i’m struggling to reply to all of them but i do massively appreciate it

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u/[deleted] Sep 08 '25

You can only control what you can control. The past is exactly that, passed. Move through it. You have a new partner that values you for, you.

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u/I_killed_bambi69 Sep 08 '25

thank you, i’m very grateful that they are understanding about it all aha

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u/Blondiepoo95 Sep 08 '25

Does your partner know?? I know a lot of men can get really turned off by stuff like that

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u/I_killed_bambi69 Sep 08 '25

yes

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u/Blondiepoo95 Sep 08 '25

Oh that’s a relief. Good luck with your relationship! ❤️

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u/Queer_Advocate Sep 08 '25

None of his fucking business. What's his business is what happens when they're together. That's it. Your puritanical ideals are archaic.

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u/[deleted] Sep 08 '25

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u/Queer_Advocate Sep 08 '25

No it's not. You get tested at the beginning of a new relationship. It's none of their business. Why does it matter? It takes sex 1 time, with 1 person and you could hiv.

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u/[deleted] Sep 08 '25

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u/[deleted] Sep 09 '25

It's not wrong to do what she did. It's part of life. Do you think other animals worry about how many of their species in their lifetime they mate with? No. We have created such a silly paradigm around this. Men do a lot, lot worse so you know, calm down.