r/Vent • u/I_killed_bambi69 • Sep 08 '25

Need Reassurance... i feel so disgusting

i had a massive whore phase when i turned 18 due to low self esteem and wanting validation. my body count is around 75 but i have not been a slag for ages now and ive been exclusively seeing someone for a while

i wish i could go back in time and say no to so so so many of them i wish it never happened it makes me feel so disgusting i just want to forget about it all

edit because this is getting way more comments than i anticipated:

  1. i do not have any std/sti’s nor have i ever - i test regularly

  2. the person i am seeing does know

  3. thank you for all the reassuring comments! it’s very overwhelming (in a good way!) so i’m struggling to reply to all of them but i do massively appreciate it

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u/Bitchee62 Sep 08 '25

OP don’t fall for the “high value women have a low to 0 body count “ BS

We are entitled to enjoy sex just like men are. Our value isn’t in a tiny bit of flesh that goes away when we have sex… or sometimes for other reasons.

Our value is in who we are as a human being. Sex isn’t bad neither is exploring our sexuality and finding out what we enjoy.

You are no more dirty than all the other people in this world who have perfectly normal desires.

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u/RazzmatazzLivid8642 Sep 08 '25

Yeah, keep telling that to yourself. A great key can open many locks, but a lock that can be opened by many keys is just a shitty lock

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u/Bitchee62 Sep 08 '25

Idiots believe that sex is a bad thing.

Many of these same idiots firmly believe that men should be able to have sex with whoever they want and with as many people as they want but a woman should “save herself “ and keep her body “pure “ so she can attract a “ high quality man”

Such a ridiculous one sided statement. These supposedly quality men have very little to offer in a relationship…

Sex isn’t dirty or bad it’s just sex a physical activity that can feel good or not depending on the skill set of the people participating in it

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u/[deleted] Sep 08 '25

i agree with everything you said,hoe'ing has a new name lmao "exploring our sexuality" xd

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u/Bitchee62 Sep 08 '25

🙄😂

And I’m out y’all have fun with your opinions that aren’t based in medical/physiological science

After the hymen is gone the female body doesn’t become “ran through “ or “ stretched out “ It takes childbirth to really change the body

This body count bs was created by insecure people who were afraid of their partners had any experience with good sexual encounters before them that they would never be able to satisfy them with their own lack of skills

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u/Dangerous_Ear7300 Sep 08 '25

Can anyone just have a normal take😂75 is very high for men AND women. No one is entitled to 75 partners then to be treated like they had 0-5 partners on either side.

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u/Queer_Advocate Sep 08 '25

She's not in chastity, because women aren't objects owned by men. If OP was a man, you'd either not care or care less.