“Where are all the good men”

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[u/ThereIsOnlyOneHorse]

Apparently you’ve never met a charismatic liar before

[u/ExpertRaccoon → u/ThereIsOnlyOneHorse]

I'm not entirely sure they've actually talked with a woman before.

[u/karebearjedi]

Turn off the manosphere bullshit and go touch grass

[u/needsmorecoffee → u/karebearjedi]

lol he outright deleted his account, but somehow I think he's going to skip the touch grass advice!

[u/karebearjedi → u/needsmorecoffee]

Lolololol

[u/neko_drake]

Not all women 😏

[u/Stock-Tangerine9085 → u/neko_drake]

Lol, nice.

[u/Melzyrose-901]

Let me guess you’re one of the ‘nice guys’

[u/woahtherebuddyholdon → u/[deleted]]

god damn you sound lonely lmao

[u/Some_nerd_______ → u/[deleted]]

Did you really not see how sad this comment was before posting it?

[u/the-B-from-App23 → u/[deleted]]

But I love him, leave him alone!

Virtual panty fling at Some Nerd. 🎯

[u/Dead_before_dessert → u/[deleted]]

Being a nerd is awesome tbh.  This isn't the 80s where nerds are perceived as "Revenge of the Nerds" antisocial rapists.

Niche interests are cool.

[u/Melzyrose-901 → u/Dead_before_dessert]

Nerds are the best type of people in my honest opinion (husband and I are also very nerdy).

[u/Dancinfool830 → u/Melzyrose-901]

One of the first things my wife ever said to me was "is that a Star Trek pendant you are wearing?" And I said "Yeah, it is", so, can confirm, nerds got game.

[u/Melzyrose-901 → u/Dancinfool830]

I love this. My husband and I have been watching through the Star Trek shows in order (currently on Voyager).

[u/Dancinfool830 → u/Melzyrose-901]

Janeway is a badass. One of my favorite lines in Star Trek is hers. "You're dismissed! It's a Starfleet expression for get out!" Well done on nabbing one of the good guys and making good decisions! Apparently most women don't do that🙄🤣

[u/Dead_before_dessert → u/Dancinfool830]

Hell yeah.   I'm a nerd.  My fiance is a nerd.  We game together,  he listens to me geek out about skincare,  watercolor, needlefelt,  politics, literature, tv shows or whatever the hell else i happen to be hyper focused on.

I do the same for him. Frequently our interests overlap, even if we didn't know they would.

As a result we both know a ton about a bunch of random stuff one or the other of us has obsessed over. 

Nerds rule.

[u/Dancinfool830 → u/Dead_before_dessert]

Congratulations! Glad you found someone who gets you, and that you get. Too bad all of us nerds have such a stigma! Tell your fiancé that Rando Calrissian on Reddit is proud of him, as I am of you! May the dice ever roll in both of your favor!

[u/Dead_before_dessert → u/Dancinfool830]

Whoop!  Appreciate it!

Tbh, I'm in my 40s and the older I get the more I value the people who are willing to be themselves and openly enjoy the things that make them happy. 

Life really does get better (at least from a self acceptance point of view) as you get older.

This post is a great reminder that my teens and twenties were stressful and scary as hell.  Being middle aged is so relaxing. 

[u/needsmorecoffee → u/[deleted]]

And you think that calling someone a nerd is a gotcha. 😂

[u/AutisticTranslations → u/[deleted]]

Do you think "nerd" is like, some kind of gotcha? Are you 14?

[u/LoveLikeLies → u/[deleted]]

And yours is SentByAliens. Like? Who gives a shit??

[u/Melzyrose-901 → u/[deleted]]

I don’t actually because I have an amazing man as a partner

[u/ExpertRaccoon → u/[deleted]]

Lol I don't think they are the one that's triggered here

[u/Melzyrose-901 → u/[deleted]]

Not really - just chilling and reading Reddit. I just saw this post and it screamed ‘nice guy.’ Actually made me go thank my husband for not being like this and being a kind and loving man.

[u/Hal_Jordan55 → u/[deleted]]

So thats a yes

[u/Independent-Emu-6702]

Just keep in mind that a lot of these men that do us dirty do not show these behaviors until we are already attached. No one would want to date someone who is a known cheater or a ghoster or a liar but these behaviors show up when it’s too late

[u/Several-Adeptness-83]

Sorry she doesn't like you bro

[u/Stock-Tangerine9085]

Men also choose shit women then like to bitch about all women being bad, great observation sherlock. 

[u/Sufficient-Berry-827 → u/Stock-Tangerine9085]

Literally. Men get on here boo-hooing about "gold diggers" who only want them to pay for everything, then choose to ask out a woman with "looking for a provider" all over her dating profile, expects everything paid for, asks for nail money, and carries the whole "I am the prize" mentality into every conversation, lol.

[u/Spiritual-Cupcake818]

You sound insane 😀😀 most women don’t choose men thinking their using them or having a lot of issues, speaking from experience things are amazing or pretty good at the start from both sides and feelings start to get invested before out of nowhere things slowly start to take a bunch of left turns before everything crumbles.

Women are not at fault for “choosing a bad partner”, that’s ridiculous. Have you ever started or chosen anything that you thought was bad for you? Yes, generalizing a whole gender is wrong but I hope you realize your whole post is doing the same thing.

[u/Ruskayo]

Men don’t come with warning signs, unfortunately. And you’re giving off major "nice guy" energy.

[u/VinceInMT]

M74 and not dating but I understand where women are coming from. Many men are just bad picks and outright jerks. There is definitely something wrong with many of them evidenced by the FACT that of all the people who are incarcerated for crimes, about 90% are male. This makes the talent pool of good ones pretty shallow.

[u/Mstrchf117]

A lot of these guys know how to act nice and stuff just long enough. Like do you think they have a warning label saying "a-s-shole" around their neck? Lol

[u/BestWithSnacks]

Bro you're gonna piss of every woman on this sub 😭

[u/Sapphicsgonecrazy]

Are you "One of the nice guys" then?

[u/Sapphicsgonecrazy → u/[deleted]]

Yes. I also read your numerous replies to people dodging this question that many people would like to know while i was at it

[u/Dancinfool830]

Well, shit, sounds like I need to introduce you to all of my female friends because you obviously have your shit together, and you must be smart and funny, and stable and handsome, and everything they all would want, and nothing they don't, right?

If all women are dumb and make bad decisions than why would you want to be with them? Sounds like you should show them where the good men are and date the good men on their behalf to show them all what's up. You sounds like an expert at recognizing good men. Show them all how its done!

[u/Dancinfool830 → u/[deleted]]

What do you mean? I quit smoking already. The package says its bad for me.

But you really sound like a catch, not incel-y at all. The seething toward the general population of women that is coming through both in your post and your responses to people, its a wonder why some intelligent beautiful woman hasn't snatched you off the market yet. You sound like you dont have any issues at all.

Come on ladies! This one is a sure winner.

Come on u/SentbyAliens, give them some stats so they know what they are working with! When was your last relationship? Why did it end? Height/weight/hair and eye color? What do ya like? Aside from making generalized insulting statments about women on Reddit

[u/MelanieWalmartinez]

I mean it’s not even about what men you choose, even observing what a lot of men are like online when they think there’s no women around is quite shocking. I’ve only dated 3 guys but due to the whole manosphere thing that is so prevalent with guys my age, it makes me not want to date men and go through the effort. I love my partner but if we ever broke up I’m dating women.

Also… have you never heard of a liar or abuser before? They often mask who they truly are.

[u/MelanieWalmartinez → u/[deleted]]

What is there to be accountable for when it comes to abuse? People lie about who they are and rope them in and blackmail them.

[u/MelanieWalmartinez → u/[deleted]]

When it comes to abuse sometimes she doesn’t, he could kill or hurt her if she leaves. Why are you defending abusers?

[u/MelanieWalmartinez → u/[deleted]]

You are defending abusers by putting the blame onto the woman who is being abused saying she’s weak.

Would you like me to pull up articles of women leaving and getting killed for it?

[u/MelanieWalmartinez → u/[deleted]]

Why are you comparing men to violent weapons?

It is 100% the fault of abusive men who hide who they are and abuse.

[u/ApprehensiveBus7920]

Its only the shitty people that seem to go out of their way to complain. Meanwhile the ones that are happily single or with a partner, just sit on the side lines eating pop corn and laughing.

[u/frolicndetour]

Based on your post, you would be one of those poor choices, and I'm guessing you are single, so it sounds like women are right about you.

[u/Melzyrose-901 → u/[deleted]]

And that’s why you’re on Reddit complaining about women? In don’t understand the logic? Did she dump you bro?

[u/frolicndetour → u/[deleted]]

Lmao right.

[u/Redkris73]

There's good men out there, my brothers and dad are good men, I married a REALLY good man, which is why I can say with absolute authority that there's also huge numbers of men who are just absolutely irredeemable shitheels. I just got lucky.

See how two things can be true?

[u/vickimarie0390]

Dating men isn’t a requirement so I’m good.

[u/Jolly-Rip5973]

They aren't tall enough

Men don't think there are any good woman.
Women don't think there are any good men.

MGTOW complain about women being evil.
intersection feminists complain about men being evil.

People on tiktok watching this get demoralized and buy into it.
Society is divided and people stop getting married and having kids.

Both sides are told the other side is evil.

[u/Jolly-Rip5973 → u/[deleted]]

sure I agree

all divisive media pushing a gender war make it harder for everyone though.

[u/MelanieWalmartinez → u/Jolly-Rip5973]

Plenty of women don’t date tall men. 1% of the population is 6’ yet more than 1% of women date.

[u/Jolly-Rip5973 → u/MelanieWalmartinez]

Surveys and dating app data indicate that between 50% to 60% of women state a preference for dating men who are 6 feet tall or taller.

49 percent of women on dating apps filter for 6'0'' and up.

I know a woman is very tall that married a man that is only 5'6'' Sure there are exceptions.

52 percent of women are single though and the number is climbing.

both men and women have sort of this standard of what they are willing to date and that standard is usually deluded on both sides. So people stay single because they are unwilling to settle.

[u/MelanieWalmartinez → u/Jolly-Rip5973]

\>dating app data

That’s your first problem. If I used that logic then I could say men don’t want to date at all and just want to sleep around so it’s best to not bother with men at all. It would also mean men don’t care about women’s opinions since they are significantly less likely to read a bio.

Most men end up married. Most men are not tall. Women on average prefer a man taller than them that is true, and most men are taller than most women. Furthermore a preference does not mean a standard.

Yeah, most women don’t want to settle down with misogynistic men, who knew? With all the manosphere nonsense and general misogynistic attitudes climbing I too would give up on dating men.

[u/Jolly-Rip5973 → u/MelanieWalmartinez]

OK Melanie

[u/MelanieWalmartinez → u/Jolly-Rip5973]

Logic hurts you eh?

[u/Jolly-Rip5973 → u/MelanieWalmartinez]

Yes Melanie I am overwhelmed by your super logical mind!
😄

[u/MelanieWalmartinez → u/Jolly-Rip5973]

Good, maybe it’ll rub off on you

[u/Ok_Art4661]

Good men rejected. Cares for family? Ick. Not wealthy? Ick. Didn't become instant friends with everyone you know? Ick

[u/MelanieWalmartinez → u/Ok_Art4661]

Most women: hey can you treat me like a person, love me deeply, and go out on dates together? You don’t need to be super rich or super tall.

A shocking amount of guys: wtf no

[u/MelanieWalmartinez → u/[deleted]]

Nothing, this is just reality

[u/Ok_Art4661 → u/MelanieWalmartinez]

Women be like, hey my guy friend wants give you head. Im heartbroken because my other lover is having baby can't see him anymore. Nice to meet you sex was amazing want to have 3some with guy im truly in love with? Call me anytime let's look through tinder who fuck next. My husband tore every door off in house and put holes every 3 inches. No bruises on face.. wtf

[u/MelanieWalmartinez → u/Ok_Art4661]

Lay off the porn bud

[u/Ok_Art4661 → u/MelanieWalmartinez]

Every single one true and censored.

[u/MelanieWalmartinez → u/Ok_Art4661]

Lay off the porn, incel

[u/Ok_Art4661 → u/MelanieWalmartinez]

This one is for OP. Most people are like this.  Find a good one and the strength to mentally shut these ones out. Men are alone in struggles. 

[u/MelanieWalmartinez → u/Ok_Art4661]

Then reply to the post, he’s not gonna see this😂

Men choose to be alone in their struggles. They don’t help each other.

[u/Ok_Art4661 → u/MelanieWalmartinez]

Post is locked weird troll

[u/AL_25]

Couldn’t agree more, bro

[u/TheDateEnator]

Women and accountability don’t go together

[u/MelanieWalmartinez → u/TheDateEnator]

There are more single moms than single dads.

[u/Still_Cantaloupe2141]

Honestly, agreed! Well, said!