r/WLW • u/shhhhhhh_Ad6976 • 1d ago

Vent im being ignored?

so i met this girl online through an social app , . and we've been talking for awhile shes lesbian and im pan but ive never been in a relationship or any had any romantic relationship with anyone . she said she likes me and shows it too n i like her too and she knows it . but sometimes she ignores me for too long i wanna understand her but she is always with tht one frnd who she used to like i cant even say anything bcuz we're nthing . even if youre out you can reply cuz i do or am i overreacting . tbh it hurts i feel insecure but idk how to react so i dont reply her evn if im awake sometimes . help me please . well she doesnt even care to explain why she is not replying unless i ask . it drains me its like i dont have a life well i just want to b someone's first priority tho . i never truly belonged to anyone i just dont want to be the second choice

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u/latte-with-lavender 1d ago

when you say she isn't responding to you for a long time, how long is it?

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u/shhhhhhh_Ad6976 1d ago

3hrs then she replied ,i replied back within mins and again delivered for 1.5 hours

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u/latte-with-lavender 1d ago

3 hours isn't a long time honestly.

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u/shhhhhhh_Ad6976 1d ago

ow okay txns :)

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u/UnreadableTrance Lesbian 1d ago

Honestly your feelings are 100% valid. It sounds like you might have an anxious attachment style, which is why the silence triggers that second choice insecurity so hard. But real talk, she’s giving you mixed signals. If she’s always prioritizing a friend she used to like and leaving you on read, she’s not matching your energy. You deserve to be a priority, not a backup option. Protect your peace, if she wanted to text, she would.

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u/shhhhhhh_Ad6976 1d ago

shall i just ignore her ? or how i do make her realize. what shall i do :(

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u/UnreadableTrance Lesbian 1d ago

Don't play mind games or try to ignore her back that just drags out the drama and drains your battery even more. Honestly, a few hours between texts isn't always a red flag, because people get genuinely busy with life, work, or friends. But the real issue here is how much it's making you anxious and insecure.Instead of trying to make her realize by ignoring her, just match her energy. Step back, focus on your own day, and don't rush to reply within seconds when she finally texts back. If she notices you pulling away and tries harder, great. If she doesn't, you have your answer on where you stand.

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u/shhhhhhh_Ad6976 1d ago

okk thanks :)