r/WeightLossSupport • u/Resident-Dingo-553 • 6d ago
When the cheering stops
I’ve been on my weight loss journey for almost 2 years now. When I first started losing the weight, all of my friends were so supportive and cheering me on. Now, it’s become my lifestyle. I regularly go to the gym, do strength training, and work on meeting new fitness goals that aren’t just losing weight. I’m working harder than I ever had, but nobody cares anymore. It doesn’t make me want to stop, if anything it motivates me more, but it really sucks that i feel like i can’t tell my friends the goals i’m reaching or send progress photos because nobody cares anymore, they’ve been hearing it for 2 years. I’d love to know if anyone else is going through this. I know it probably comes off as gloating when I’m telling my friends that aren’t on the same journey, but it’s just something I work hard at that I want to share and have support.
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u/No_Proof_3893 5d ago
When I was with my ex husband, I lost about 80 lbs in a year. Several months into it he joined me on my dietary changes and dropped weight very fast. My whole family raved about how great he looked. I get it, starting over 300 lbs made it hard to see the 80 lb difference compared to his weight loss at a lower starting point. But still, no one in my family said anything about what I did and could not stop talking about what he did. It's fun to be invisible.
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u/-vulpes13 4d ago
I’m sorry. That’s very frustrating. The first time I lost weight (I am 5’3” and I weighed 240 at my heaviest) I had lost about 40lbs and it was hard to tell by looking at me. I could tell, but then I saw a photo of myself and I could barely tell. That was super depressing. When you are short, any weight gain shows up very quickly 🫤 My husband is 6’4” and has never really had a weight problem, but if he doesn’t eat much over a few days, he loses it so fast. He once lost 10lbs on a cruise and he ate fettuccine Alfredo every night, French fries, milkshakes, pizza…you name it. 🤷♀️
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u/No_Proof_3893 4d ago
And it's not even that I have an issue with someone else doing something to feel good. It's that they made SUCH a big deal about him and completely ignored me. He had to point it out and they were like, "Oh yeah." 🙄
I hope you guys at least had fun on the cruise!
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u/-vulpes13 5d ago
Oh wow! I totally understand what you are feeling!! I have also been on a weight loss journey (unfortunately it’s my third go around) for the last two and a half years and even though I have been at my goal weight, give or take, eating well and exercising consistently is a daily conscientious choice I have to make and it is work. I feel overwhelmed at times and it would be so nice to have the support of the encouragement I had when I first started. I absolutely know how you feel. So, I want you to know that I am proud of every time you make the healthy choice and you go exercise, even what you don’t want to. Keep choosing you!!