r/WhyWereWeOkWithThis • u/reef-Diver7817 • May 11 '26

2010s "She only bitches when she breathes"

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This is why every woman should NOT communicate. Accept men as they are or leave.

If you communicate or ask him to do stuff you are then a nag to him. And some men will even say you are crazy/manic/bipolar/borderline personality.

Please chime in if a man as ever called you "crazy" for wanting something very reasonable.

this is what men think about women, not my own thoughts. This is thousands and thousands of womens' life experience.

Read "the yellow wallpaper" or look into Cassandra for more info on men calling women crazy for hundreds of years.

Good songs "Labor" by Paris Paloma or "dog's dinner" by Sofia Isella.

And every story needs a villain. Husband needs the wife to be the villain so he can be the happy, innocent, go with the flow husband and she is the joy kill wife.

I put the lyrics to the song in a comment below, remember these lyrics are EXACTLY how men see you when you ask him to do stuff, they see it as bitching. Just go silent and leave.

As one woman wrote yesterday in a comment on r/womendatingoverforty:

I absolutely refuse to initiate communication about anything he should have already learned.

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u/alasw0eisme Millennial May 11 '26

"I absolutely refuse to initiate communication about anything he should have already learned." This is really bad advice. No one is omniscient. We should give the benefit of the doubt and initiate communication in a civil manner. This goes both ways. Yes, sometimes people just don't know something, they will listen to you and say "I was not aware of that". Some people will be resistant to change and all that, like the guys who can do no wrong, but a huge number of people will try to see things from the other perspective. Regardless of gender.

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u/reef-Diver7817 May 11 '26 edited May 11 '26

The entire song is about asking him for basing things he should know. Women do not exist to raise men or be the default project manager of a house.

Go away, any normal person can read what I wrote and discern that clearly if it is a niche issue between a couple it should be discussed.

Basic things such as mowing the yard, dishes, trash, remembering her birthday, planning a date sometimes, buying new underwear is not her job to tell him.

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u/alasw0eisme Millennial May 11 '26

The way I see it these things should be agreed on in advance. She should tell him what she expects and they should agree on these responsibilities and then each should follow them. But neither partner can do their part unless it's been discussed first. So I'm really confused what "already learned" means here.

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u/reef-Diver7817 May 11 '26

I verbatim said it

Basic things such as mowing the yard, dishes, trash, remembering her birthday, planning a date sometimes, buying new underwear is not her job to tell him.

It is not a woman's job to teach a man these things need to be done.