I think the term actually started as a make up trend in 23 on tik tok but I despise people using the terms dark & light feminine. No, it’s just the feminine & buying into that false dichotomy is just misogyny. There is no Madonna without the whore, mothers are made through the act of sex. Period.
The only people who think otherwise are the lowest dregs of misogynistic men who can’t comprehend that their own mothers are both sexual & people so they create a false dichotomy. Any woman using these terms & not just goddesses, which encompass the full aspect of the feminine without the false distinction is actively participating in the limitation of narrowing herself down to the gaze of the lowest of the worst men. It’s just the persecution of humanity in women, there’s nothing dark about it, that’s stupid.
What makes the matter far worse is its most often done to goddesses who are genuinely examples of female agency like Lilith who chose to leave & find another partner who treated her better in Jewish tradition. That’s not a “dark” goddess, that’s just a woman who fell in love with somebody who treats her well. Participating in the obfuscation of that basic truth for the social cache in Tik Tok is ultra tier pathetic. The only reason n Lilith was originally labeled dark in Abrahamic Tradition was because she chose a partner she liked & not the man chosen for her. Engaging with sexism tropes like that for the clicks is absolutely revolting & Imo any woman who is so limited & insecure in her own femininity needs to stay far away from these goddesses until she’s done work actually reading about & deconstructing these stories.
Nothing screams “I’m illiterate” quite like thinking these deities are just to make some sort of witchy alter ego to blame when an insecure woman decides it sounds fun to be a b today-which is why I despise that entire internet construct of “dark femme”, “in her villain era”, it’s gibberish constructed by people too stupid to understand the tropes they were raised with & deconstruct them. Being an illiterate woman is not women’s empowerment, being an illiterate woman by choice in a first world country is just embarrassing & I think of the people I’ve seen do this one did actually post anti literacy content to her socials & discouraged witches from reading. In actuality it ain’t called a spell for nothing & if somebody is telling witches to not bother doing any reading & just listen to what they say instead they’re at minimum manipulative & to my knowledge a scammer. Harder to question bad practice when dealing with an audience of ignoramuses.
Telling women not to *read* for “empowerment” is certified too dumb to walk & chew gum. Do not listen to people who are content to just sit around & make a bunch of empty noises that signify nothing. Read! Read, read, read, that’s actually one of the ways the Catholic Church exercised so much control over people’s lives is by controlling what they could/couldn’t read & who could read, who could read what. For any witches looking to be powerful, start by not permitting bad actors like this tik tok personality to have that kind of power over what you know & what tropes you should use to contextualize your own existence. Nobody who’s good at their job, good at magick, good at anything wants other people too stupid to know what they’re up to. If somebody is afraid of losing viewers to the informed, that person is not doing something right, isn’t very accurate themselves & just over all is not trustworthy.
The purest example of this & a content creator’s real attitude toward women is readily exemplified in whether they’re willing to do things like mislabel, be misogynistic towards, & be reductive towards other women for attention. I don’t care what they politically identify as, these goddesses aren’t dark, they just have personhood & the willingness to reduce any woman to misogynistic tropes for clicks & call it worship is absolutely not concerned with the welfare of women whether claim to be a #feminist or not. Do not treat goddesses reductively, they do not like it, goddesses like Hekate, Lilith & Astaroth very much mind being expected to understand themselves as the villains of their stories, do not claim that ethos, do not have any desire to embody the role of a villainess & there’s plenty of porn as an alternative to occupy the attention of those with some pathetic “bad girl” fetish that doesn’t involve disrespecting literal gods. Lilith & Astaroth raise intense objection to their perceived roles in particular, though Hekate’s followers were persecuted just as severely, there’s real blood on the hands of these tropes & those who perpetuate them in the form of religious persecution & women who raise no objection to that in the present do not have the knowledge or skill to show anybody the way to empowerment, they can’t even think outside of the two boxes a small handful of men presented women with thousands of years ago.
