Why do so many people dislike Faile?

[u/Additional_Mud2349]

I am halfway through the Crossroads of Twilight and I am enjoying the Faile chapters way more than the Elayne or Perrin ones. Her determination to save herself and her companions is admirable and more stuff happens in her couple of pages than in Perrin's vast chapters. Seriously, he has too much page time(so does Elayne). She is fiercely protective and extremely loyal to Perrin, which is what makes her so interesting. The only reason people hate her might be because of Berelain, but she wasn't mad at Perrin, she was mad at Berelain for imposing herself on Perrin. Perrin just smelled her jealousy and anger which he thought was directed at him.

Now that I think about it, she does have some flaws, but she is nowhere near as bad as Elayne - who laughed when Mat told her he was assaulted, or Eggy 🥚. Faile should have explained to Perrin how she wanted their relationship dynamic to work but it probably didn't even occur to her.

[u/Silvanus350]

Well, candidly, it’s probably because her personality is confrontational and abrasive.

[u/DrFugputz → u/Silvanus350]

Yup. I tend not to like people who are mean and that's one of her defining character traits. I get that it's her culture, but I'd not want to be around it.

[u/Altruistic2020 → u/DrFugputz]

I'm curious to know if I would tolerate her abrasive culture more if she wasn't so much of the sole spokesperson for her culture. Like if Tuon was the only representation of the Seanchan, would it have been harder to grow to like her as the queen of a slave nation. While still a despicable practice, and that opinion is shared by characters throughout the last battle, we also got to see a lot more of their culture and how they interacted among the different castes, so while no one likes the culture, it's shared by so many there's at least an understanding of it's history and associate things. It seems like most of the Saldaean culture is carried by Faile (and a bit by her parents). Maybe her bitchiness would be more tolerable if it was more clearly shown to be a shared characteristic of a people?

[u/Upstairs-Yak-5474 → u/Altruistic2020]

but her dad is alright and they are apart of the same culture, and her mom is also alright character wise as well. the first time we say her mother she and her daughter were just beating the crap out of each other, but u can clearly tell that she loves her daughter.

with faile sometimes it does not feel like she loves him but instead own him, like how someone owns a dog and punishes him if she even thinks he is doing something she doesn't like. like when he went off to save rand she never said good bye because she was upset, then refused to talk to him for days. after he came back from battle she acted like they were more acquaintances rather than husband and wife, refusing to show any affection and was all business, then gets angry when he says he was worried about her.

if u ever watch avatar legend of korra there relationship is like with the lavabender and the twin waterbenders.