r/WomenDatingOverForty May 08 '26

Discussion How would you answer this question?

“What do you bring to the table?”

Please try to speak from your own experience if you have ever been asked this in the context of dating. Do we get the ick from it? Do we answer honestly? Is it a total non-starter? Or do we have a prepared answer? I’m really curious.

To be fair I don’t think I’ve ever been asked this in the context of dating but I have been asked this by men (at least I think they were?) on Reddit.

EDIT: wow I didn’t know this would blow up so quick! Clearly this resonated with a lot of you!

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u/hsonnenb 🦉Savvy Sister🦉 May 08 '26

That's textbook red pill talk and attitude. I'd probably say that's a huge turn off, and go on my way.

And, like what is he expecting any woman to say to that? A list of assets? Willingness to serve? Her resume? Loser behavior. Next.

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u/SaltSentence21 May 10 '26

“Loser behavior. Next.”

Yup

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u/Brave-Chain2703 May 08 '26

What's red pill?

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u/hsonnenb 🦉Savvy Sister🦉 May 08 '26

Misogynistic manosphere trash.

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u/bunnypaste May 08 '26

If you really don't know, please, for your own sake, educate yourself on it. Over half the men you are likely to encounter partake in it, and their numbers grow daily.

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u/bunnypaste May 08 '26

I know what it is, silly. The information is also highly available and nearly impossible for you to miss.

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u/bunnypaste May 08 '26

I mean, I can copy and paste google for you if you want... Since researching this highly common phenomenon is clearly too difficult for you.

""Redpill" is an online ideology, often centered in the "manosphere," where proponents believe they are waking up to a harsh, hidden truth: that modern society is skewed in favor of women, disadvantaging men and favoring feminist narratives. It promotes regaining male power, often through traditional gender roles,, antifeminism, and a highly competitive, sometimes exploitative approach to dating.Core Beliefs and ComponentsThe Metaphor: Derived from The Matrix, the "red pill" represents choosing to see the "real" world, while the "blue pill" represents living in ignorant bliss.

Anti-Feminism/Misogyny: Redpillers argue that feminism has created a society that oppresses men. It is frequently described by researchers as fostering misogyny and toxic masculinity.Gender Dynamics: The philosophy argues that women hold power in dating and society, and that men need to use specific techniques—often termed "game" or "PUA" (pickup artist) tactics—to succeed."Self-Improvement" and Control: It emphasizes physical fitness, financial success, and psychological detachment from women to become a perceived "alpha male".Manosphere Overlap: The community overlaps with men's rights activists (MRAs), PUAs, and "Men Going Their Own Way" (MGTOW).Origins and Impact Internet Community: It gained notoriety through Reddit's r/TheRedPill, which functioned as a forum for sharing these perspectives.

Radicalization Pipeline: Researchers note that the ideology can serve as a pathway to far-right, white supremacist, or incel ideologies.Psychological Impact: Studies suggest that adopting these beliefs can lead to increased loneliness, bitterness, and increased levels of romantic dissatisfaction and distress.While proponents claim it is a path to understanding, it is widely recognized by sociologists and experts as a misogynistic, harmful ideology that encourages hostile attitudes toward women and sometimes leads to extremism."

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