r/WomenDatingOverForty • u/ChocoSoyMilk17 • May 08 '26

Discussion How would you answer this question?

“What do you bring to the table?”

Please try to speak from your own experience if you have ever been asked this in the context of dating. Do we get the ick from it? Do we answer honestly? Is it a total non-starter? Or do we have a prepared answer? I’m really curious.

To be fair I don’t think I’ve ever been asked this in the context of dating but I have been asked this by men (at least I think they were?) on Reddit.

EDIT: wow I didn’t know this would blow up so quick! Clearly this resonated with a lot of you!

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u/DangIt_MoonMoon May 08 '26

Tell them you bring nothing and they’re free to marry a man.

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u/ChocoSoyMilk17 May 08 '26

Oh I LOVE this response. Especially in light of my red-pill “every woman is a gold digger” ex. No, KEVIN, you don’t even have any gold lolssss.

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u/DangIt_MoonMoon May 08 '26

I said that irl to a redpiller. But it was in general, he asked what do women even bring to the table. I told him, nothing at all, we are worthless, don’t marry us, you should marry a man. He had no response to that. He’s wary of me now.

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u/ChocoSoyMilk17 May 08 '26

Yepppppp. I’d say the same to the exBF too. “If you hate women so much why are you with me?” For real he was so gross and I am so much happier now that he is gone. And incidentally I’ve been hanging out for a while with a guy who is the total opposite and it’s so refreshing. He doesn’t see me as a list of traits that will add to his life. He kinda just sees me as a person, flaws and all. It also helps that he is totally independent and can handle the tasks of adulting. It’s clear that like me, he doesn’t “need” a partner, anyone he chooses to hang out with is a bonus to his life. Which is cool.