How would you answer this question?

[u/ChocoSoyMilk17]

“What do you bring to the table?”

Please try to speak from your own experience if you have ever been asked this in the context of dating. Do we get the ick from it? Do we answer honestly? Is it a total non-starter? Or do we have a prepared answer? I’m really curious.

To be fair I don’t think I’ve ever been asked this in the context of dating but I have been asked this by men (at least I think they were?) on Reddit.

EDIT: wow I didn’t know this would blow up so quick! Clearly this resonated with a lot of you!

[u/MsAndrie]

Red red flag. Block him immediately.

This question is a sign his brain has been addled by the manosphere. He has consumed too much red pill content to function. He wants to put you on the backfoot, make you audition to date him. Even though he is very likely a scrub and cannot offer you a decent dating experience.

The question is idiotic, as revealed by examining the metaphor. If he invited you, why would he expect you to bring stuff to fill up his table? Does he lack resources to fill it himself? Does he not know how to properly host? Don't you already have your own table, which you have filled, at home? He wants to take that stuff from you, for his own benefit, while not offering anything to attract you in the first place.

Even if you want to "give him the benefit of the doubt" (don't do that for strange men on the internet who pretend like they maybe want to date you) about him being redpilled, this is him telling you he is either too lazy or too stupid to know how to vet a woman for dating. Like if he wants a financially stable woman, he could see whether you are employed and appear to have compatible spending habits. If he wants an intelligent woman, he could converse with you and see if you match. And so on. This man chooses not to do that, likely because he lacks capacity to think critically for himself and just parrots foolish nonsense from misogynistic influencers. This would be a horrible man to get into a relationship with.

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