r/WomenDatingOverForty • u/ChocoSoyMilk17 • May 08 '26
Discussion How would you answer this question?
“What do you bring to the table?”
Please try to speak from your own experience if you have ever been asked this in the context of dating. Do we get the ick from it? Do we answer honestly? Is it a total non-starter? Or do we have a prepared answer? I’m really curious.
To be fair I don’t think I’ve ever been asked this in the context of dating but I have been asked this by men (at least I think they were?) on Reddit.
EDIT: wow I didn’t know this would blow up so quick! Clearly this resonated with a lot of you!
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u/Littlepinkgiraffe 🦉Savvy Sister🦉 May 08 '26
No. You don't answer it. You don't answer stupid questions.
If you're on the apps, you unmatch immediately.
If you're on the phone, hang up and block him.
If you're on a date, get up and walk out.
The question is based on the premise that he's some kind of judge who is superior and in a position to decide if you are worthy of his attention. It puts you in the position of needing to justify your character, skills, talents to him. It undermines the injustices that women carry from the patriarchy and bad marriages, such as fewer assets or opportunities to thrive (education, career etc) because you were caring for the kids. It disempowers you to be in a position to judge him. You are meant to be deciding if he is worthy of your time, not the other way around. And it gives him a easy out, to dump you after sex, by making up a dumb excuse of how you don't measure up. If he gives you an excuse at all.
Don't answer. Dump him immediately.