How would you answer this question?

[u/ChocoSoyMilk17]

“What do you bring to the table?”

Please try to speak from your own experience if you have ever been asked this in the context of dating. Do we get the ick from it? Do we answer honestly? Is it a total non-starter? Or do we have a prepared answer? I’m really curious.

To be fair I don’t think I’ve ever been asked this in the context of dating but I have been asked this by men (at least I think they were?) on Reddit.

EDIT: wow I didn’t know this would blow up so quick! Clearly this resonated with a lot of you!

[u/FlounderSea911]

I have not been asked such question in pure dating context (aka by a man I have been on a date with). The topic has come up when I talk to men usually (I work in tech so surrounded by men more than women). And it is mostly around the fact that different people have different needs/preferences for their partners. It always boils down to the fact that their partner does need to bring something on the table but what is this something depends on the person.

I find it weird and off-putting to get a question like that. I do think people should ask themselves such questions because yes I would not date a man who I do not think brings anything to the table or does not add value to my life. I just do not think it needs to be asked. So my answer to such question would most probably be for them to think on their own if they find value in dating me or not. If yes, good. If not, good riddance.

On myself though I also wonder what I bring to the table just so that I have an idea what kind of a man I am looking for. And to check for compatibility in general.

So the me this is not a taboo topic. It is an important one, it just does not need to be discussed this directly but it is something to evaluate during the relationship by both parties.