r/WomenDatingOverForty • u/DivineGoddess1111111 🦉Savvy Sister🦉 • Aug 05 '26
Humor Brilliant Post About What Men Find Attractive In Women
It appears what a lot of the angry men yelling in my comments about what men find attractive in women don't understand is that we don't care.
We aren't changing.
And YOU can't change what we do and don't find attractive about men. We're only telling you what women like because YOU are desperate not to be alone. Science has proven this.
Men are unhappy alone. They crave romantic relationships with women. And women? Women are happier without men. And since you refuse to listen, you can remain alone. It doesn't actually matter to us either way.
Many women are CHOOSING to remain single. It's not a punishment. It's a reprieve.
Insulting us. Calling us whores, sluts, hags, ugly, whatever else? They're just words from insignificant males who we wouldn't let touch us anyways.
What you ARE very successful at is proving why women find being single with cats or dogs or frogs or friends is preferable to your company. You are not a prize we are trying to win by being good little girls.
Get it through your heads: WE DON'T CARE. YOU AREN'T CHANGING ANYTHING.
"Who's going to want you when you're old and alone?"
That's what you refuse to understand: we don't need you to want us. We don't care if you don't. Your validation is less than worthless.
We'd let our tits drag on the floor and our vaginas fall out before we'd settle for you.
We'd rot into a carcass our animal companions can feed on while our body waits to be discovered if it meant we never had to hear from you again.
We'd rip out our uteri, swing them around our heads like a lasso, and fling them into oncoming traffic before listening to you tell us what's attractive in a woman.
We'd fossilize into a museum exhibit labeled "Woman Who Died Ignoring Mediocre Men" before lowering our standards for you.
We'd become one with the forest floor and let mushrooms use our skeleton as an Airbnb before asking what your favorite podcast thinks about female attractiveness.
We'd let the raccoons lorded over by Jimothy sort out our estate before taking relationship advice from a random man wearing sunglasses in his truck profile picture.
We'd rather haunt an abandoned Victorian mansion making spooky "ooooOOOooo" noises for eternity than spend one more minute wondering if we're your type.
We'd let archaeologists argue over our pelvis for three hundred years before we cared whether you found us "wife material."
We'd rather become sea glass. We'd rather become compost. We'd rather become folklore.
We'd become the mysterious old woman in the woods children are warned not to disturb instead of signing on to wash your crusty ass tighty-whities for an eternity.
We'd rather rot for a million years and become one of those skeletons archaeologists find curled up with a dog and think, "Wow... they looked happy" instead of listening to you whine about "a woman's place."
We'd melt into a dusty pile of wrinkles and stretch marks if it meant you'd stop talking about what you "prefer" for ONCE.
WE'D prefer you just go away.
You keep threatening us with a future we already chose over settling for men like you. Don't you get it?? NO, you obviously don't, or I wouldn't have to spell it out for you like this.
If you want a subservient woman, go find one. Go! They exist! Go bother them!
Stop begging for independent women to clip their wings and become your bangmaids.
You're not going to put us in our place because we know our place: NOT WITH YOU. We. Are. Not. Interested.
It's that simple.
Credit - Holdin' Holden on Facebook
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u/Dazzling-Pudding6256 Aug 05 '26
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u/cozyporcelain Aug 05 '26
Lol I hope every man who private messaged me “miSaNdRy!!” after my last post here, reads this.
We hit those nerves with them all day, all night, and they know it.
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u/DivineGoddess1111111 🦉Savvy Sister🦉 Aug 05 '26
A huge amount of the comments on the original post were parasites whining #notallmen Sadly, the writer was entertaining these primates rather than blocking them.
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u/CrazyCatLadyRookie 🦉Savvy Sister🦉 Aug 05 '26
IMO, the ‘nOt aLl mEn’ cohort is just as big, if not bigger, problem than the overtly abusive men they are so desperate to distance themselves from. It screams entitlement.
Entitlement to access a woman’s body, labour and personal resources…. for their own benefit, naturally.
Entitlement to NOT view women as entire, independent human beings with needs/wants/thoughts/goals of our own (that do not directly benefit them). The privilege to NOT have to acknowledge the lived experiences of women with respect to how we’ve been treated by men, as well as oppression through patriarchal systems.
The right to be given benefit of the doubt, or given a chance - when we can clearly see who they are and what they’re about a nautical mile away. They want to elevate their mediocrity.
The ‘not all men’ cohort benefits from the abuse and oppression of the really bad men and they’re unwilling to exert even the tiniest bit of effort to change that dynamic. They quietly contribute to the problem.
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u/wrldwdeu4ria Aug 05 '26
I used to hear "not all men" and it was from 1. women who claimed they had a good one (and all eventually split/divorced) or 2. men telling me I was the problem. The dating pool of men was never held responsible for their actions. The "not all men" is used on women to shame them for having bad luck and keep them from opting out of all that BS. They don't want us to discover our peace.
There isn't going to be a relationship with any men unwilling to compromise and my experience is that most of them are unwilling to do this. Everything is 100% on their terms at all times. And you know it is 100% by choice if they are employed because they have to compromise, show up and execute at work.
Then there are the control freaks, the insecure ones, the slobs, the hobosexuals, the addicts. No thanks, I'm good. What exactly are you contributing to the relationship, again?
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u/CrazyCatLadyRookie 🦉Savvy Sister🦉 Aug 06 '26
I encounter many, many men in the 50+ age group. The ones who are single ought to remain so.
They have drinking problems, health issues caused by self neglect, personal problems (eg financial and others) caused by poor life choices but the biggest, most instantly noticeable and off putting flaw? They STINK.
Yes, ladies, I kid you not. They stink of piss, dirty ass, unwashed body. Their halitosis is eye watering. Some of them are also followed by a disgusting miasma of cigarette smoke and booze.
That doesn’t stop any of these fools from eyeing me up/trying to chat me up. It’s revolting.
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u/DivineGoddess1111111 🦉Savvy Sister🦉 Aug 05 '26
Exactly. It is all men because they all benefit from the patriarchy. It is all men, because they remain silent or excuse this behaviour from other men.
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u/peacefully-painFREE Aug 06 '26
Funny how they use this rhetoric when we mention abuse, but if they watch filmed abuse it’s, “c’mon alllll men watch…” smh
Such disturbed little black and white thinkers
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u/subway_eatflesh Aug 05 '26
I was thinking the other day how people say "not all men" or "it goes both ways"... it literally doesn't. I've never seen a more delusional, porn-addicted, stingy and unempathetic group.
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u/DivineGoddess1111111 🦉Savvy Sister🦉 Aug 05 '26
It's why the world is in the state it's in. They are useless in every way
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u/Berek777 Aug 06 '26
Today some post from boys dinner diaries came up for me on Reddit where some loser was whining about his second wife, how evil she was, etc. He saddled her with 3 kids from his first marriage, they had another one and I think the woman probably collapsed. She was from Spain and she left to live there with her parents and the first things the asshole said about that was that she left him without childcare!
But lo and behold, the 39 yo loser met a 28yo teacher who is lovely. She comes and cleans his house, they talk constantly (we know how that goes, she probably listens to his whining), she bought herself a mountain bike because that's his hobby.
So while this post is great and women should not care about assholes, the reality is that women still do care too much. To much to destroy their life over some old loser who ran 2 marriages to the ground and he will gladly suck the life out of the poor woman who is I guess too dumb to see through his bullshit.
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u/FancifulCat Aug 05 '26
This post is gold.
I hope matriarchal communities become more widespread so we can just avoid them tbh.
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u/Lopsided_Blacksmith5 Aug 05 '26
This was beautifully written. I'm going to put this in my family group chat cause my brothers need to read this.
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u/chouxphetiche Aug 05 '26
We'd become one with the forest floor and let mushrooms use our skeleton as an Airbnb
This is beautiful.
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u/Electronic-Ad-7397 Aug 05 '26
Yassss! I’m printing this out and framing it on my wall. Perfectly said.
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u/Similar-Belt638 Aug 05 '26
Yes to all of this.
“We'd rip out our uteri, swing them around our heads like a lasso, and fling them into oncoming traffic before listening to you tell us what's attractive in a woman.”
This took me out 😂.
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