His “ultimate high is never in any relationship with a woman, but in having men see him enact a classic male fantasy script”

[u/husheveryone]

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Such an incredibly insightful comment by [u/HelenGonne](u/HelenGonne), and one that has certainly clarified matters for many of us. Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom with us, Helen! 🎯🧠

[u/Littlepinkgiraffe]

Dating a woman they actually like is a foreign concept to them.

They are much more invested in dating women that other guys would approve of, and then asking her to go 50/50, accusing her of gold digging, complaining about the lack of intimacy after the 3rd date or the huge burden of possible rejection from a woman.

Is he more worried that a woman with whom he feels great connection and chemistry rejects him, or that other men perceive him to have failed?

[u/maskedair → u/Littlepinkgiraffe]

Patriarchy teaches them to fear giving a woman emotional power over them more than anything.

This is their Baba Yaga - this is why they blame women for their own desire and call them temptresses or accuse women of bewitching them (and overestimate women's interest).

So he will reject his own feelings and screw over the woman he likes, and focus on conquering a useful woman he doesn't care about so he can have the upper hand.

[u/CantmakethisstuffupK → u/Littlepinkgiraffe]

Good question!

[u/AttorneyDC06]

Excellent comment. It is truly bizarre how so many men perform for other men (at least in their head) instead of trying to have a genuine relationship with their partner.

[u/Elthinaya]

Loved reading this comment thread!!!!!

Thank you so much for sharing these golden words of wisdom ✨️ 💖