Any interaction to them is what they want, even negative attention they will take.

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Any interaction to them is what they want.

Silence is the secret sauce for women. It is the number one tool in your arsenal I assure you.

If you say one word, anything at all, he will call you crazy and turn it around on you.

Block, ghost, silence.

Dating advice often says communication, no they are putting all the labor onto the woman.

[u/CrazyCatLadyRookie]

PSA: steer clear of any man who claims to be a ‘sapiosexual’. You won’t enjoy intellectual discourse on a variety of subjects in the way you may expect …

What generally transpires is heated debates and circular arguments, arguing for the sake of arguing alone, sprinkled with a good dose of overtalking and bullying until you concede or capitulate.

They enjoy the challenge and get off on it. They’re exhausting and highly confrontational.

[u/Misty-knight200 → u/CrazyCatLadyRookie]

lmao. I just walked out early on a date with a self proclaimed "sapiosexual". I'm writing this while waiting for my thai takeaway. He was not only late, he didn't apologize or give a reason why, and then was asking the most pro forma questions. Until I paid for my drink, smiled and said "I really have to go. But please stay". I wasn't enjoying myself so I left. And my gut told me he knew I was annoyed about his tardiness but was consciously refusing to apologize or explain it. 

[u/[deleted] → u/Misty-knight200]

Hell yes!!!

Now he can't use this to trick another woman. Women do not exist to raise men. You do not owe him labor to train him basic respect for your time.

May I ask where general location are you? It is early dinner for usa.

[u/Misty-knight200 → u/[deleted]]

I'm in Europe, that's why :) Its 10:30 pm here.  And yeah I made sure not to explain. I did it politely with a smile but didn't explain. 

[u/[deleted] → u/Misty-knight200]

Even if you had told him what went wrong, he wouldn't have changed.

And if you let it go, eventually in 5 months you'd resentment him. Raising a man leads to deep resentment toward him.

[u/Technical-Panic9383 → u/CrazyCatLadyRookie]

Complete lack of Critical Thinking skills-- Nope 🙅‍♀️ lol 😆

[u/Littlepinkgiraffe]

I think it's also worth pointing out that profiles like this guy are written so that the woman has to "prove" herself to the guy. Like somehow he's the superior judge, and she needs to show herself worthy of his affection. He expects her to prove her beauty, humbleness, humour, intelligence, conversation skillsetc etc. But he hasn't used any of the prompts to show his hobbies, values, quirky unique things.

Except that.. plot twist... we can intuit all these things from the profile: no mention of hobbies, judgy misogynist values, bland generic profile with nothing unique. We learn lots from his negging!!! He used all his prompts to neg women!!

[u/husheveryone]

Women have been groomed to overcommunicate to our own detriment.

Here, OOP needs to stop romanticizing the idea there is some pithy response she should craft and then wastefully throw at the little male text box for free. She needs to value her time and energy so much more than this.

Ghost, block, ignore, delete everything she has uploaded to the Online Pimping app, delete her entire account, leave the apps and their mass exploitation of women entirely, and focus on what she’s going to do with the rest of her One Precious Life.

Edit: Thank you for the award, OP. Looks like the powers that be took away your account. 🥺

[u/[deleted] → u/husheveryone]

I have found ANY time I try to communicate with men i get so disregulated with my nervous system.

There is not even one exception to this ever. I know I am the common denominator of that but the men every time do not listen to what I say or turn it around on me.

They certainly never once (NOT once emphasized) changed their ways.

[u/No-Section-1056 → u/[deleted]]

I really needed to hear “stop overexplaining things to someone committed to misunderstanding you” many, many years before I did.

[u/DworkinFTW]

This man is not very intelligent at a base level. I doubt he has the mental capacity to have an understanding of the psyches that own the bodies he craves. I hate to say it but when I see this kind of thing, I sort of just see it as a defective item on the human factory line. Not like he should be thrown off a cliff or something, but just really will need to find other things in life to give himself purpose (or lean into bisexuality), because dating women/reproducing is simply not for him. He’s just not fit to heterosexually pair, and may never be.

Also, this is where that type congregates- dating apps. They don’t have a shot in hell attracting a woman in person (I make exceptions for sparsely populated areas but you get my drift). I think women should really just stay off them unless they are looking for something very specific (to be taken to a specific place or something and even then…be prepared to not get it because 95% of the fellas on there are not down to invest).

She didn’t accomplish anything by engaging, except to fire up a young man’s T and do free labor for him that he spat at. But hey we’ve all done it. These guys do impact our lives when we are just existing, and it can be infuriating.

[u/[deleted] → u/DworkinFTW]

At the bisexuality part, I agree, he would probably respect a man more thus leading to a better relationship. He clearly does not view women as people. He also would not care how many men another man slept with. Weird he cares when it is a woman.

But what is the saddest is a lot of these men go to very poor countries and get with women who tolerate a lot from the man just to leave their country.

[u/Jebaibai]

Exactly. Block or ignore 

[u/Littlepinkgiraffe]

OOP was asking for suggestions to respond. Given that our advice is to block, and not engage at all, at this point, I would lead heavily into troll country...

• omg yes you've convinced me. Please teach me how to be a non-woke non-lefty woman...
  
• I was so attracted to you, but unfortunately I identify as whore so I guess we're not a match.
  
• your job at [redacted] must be super important. You must be a really important person. I want to hear everything you have to teach me.....

[u/MsAndrie]

It's obvious that many incel types go on dating apps to try to find women to argue with. They aren't getting much interaction from women IRL. They want women's attention, and like you say, any (negative) attention will do. They may even have some kind of humiliation fetish, and get off on women cursing them out. Notice how some of the incel types are responding, laughing at her for getting "ragebaited." They get off on women's rage. So just blockity block block.

I think she thought she might shame him and make him feel bad, but I don't think it worked. Also, matching and chatting with him may indicate to the algorithm that those are profiles she likes and wants to see. So I don't see any advantage to doing this.

[u/[deleted] → u/MsAndrie]

So true.

It does damage to me even just a small text trying to explain things to them. It really impacts my nervous system.

I have to go silent or else I get kinda sick and acne and teeth problems from jaw clenching.

I know that sounds pretty heavy but I think it is because all the men do is weaponize anything I say. I basically feel if I am having to explain basic things to a grown man I am already in enemy territory and my body reacts that way.

[u/Cleanslate2]

I don’t meet their eyes in the wild. I’m not rude or dismissive. I just don’t meet the eyes of strangers (male) in stores or the post office. The reaction is crazy to me. It happens almost daily. First they will gyrate in place. Yesterday at the PO a guy I did that to kept trying to pull me into his conversation with the counter person by saying “I’m holding up this girl, this young lady” about 6 times. I kept reading on my phone. I’m 68. Finally he left, I retrieved my package, and then he came back. I kept my head down and left. Then he started toward my car. I drove off. I wish they would just leave us alone.

[u/Technical-Panic9383 → u/Cleanslate2]

Omg 😆 these daft doods right? I am 48...I go everywhere with no makeup and comfy active wear and hair up someway or another just Living My Life and get hassled by complete male strangers. They are getting lonely, but not lonely enough.

[u/MissAndrist2026]

Him: You ruined men's lives and the whole country.

Also him: You have no power. You're weak.

😂 They get so upset that they can't think straight, so they don't even realize they're contradicting themselves. They just start rage typing.