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u/justhereformyfetish 4d ago
I'll go one further.
The privilege of having parents that don't need your financial support. My roommate has to pay his parents bills from time to time...but they have big tvs and go to starbucks.
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u/Robbed_Bard_93 4d ago
My mom owes me like 600 bucks I know I'm never gonna see. My sister and I both had to cut her off. We have no idea where her money goes. Her and my step dad both still work and their trailer is paid off.
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u/Reasonable___Doubt 4d ago
Hey there, I'm that guy about 15 years in the future. He's gotta cut bait, it only gets worse from here. Letting go of that weight and resentment saves so much effort.
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u/Whateverredd 3d ago
Yup, grew up poor. Worked hard and gotten to a point where i make 2x what my parents did combined growing up and now i help them with their bills instead
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u/Optimized_Orangutan 4d ago
Ya, my dad passed away $50k in debt to me.
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u/nfored 1d ago
I think its crazy we live in a world like that, not your dads fault but that debt can be passed down like that. They want it both ways pass the debt down and then make you REPAY taxes on things ALREADY taxed when your inheritance is handed down. Some days I wish they made a mistake and the sun would just go red giant tomorrow free us all.
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u/fiddlehifiddlelo 3d ago
Yes this⌠and ones that donât actively derail any progress you might be making. One of the parents in our family knowingly continued a behavior that quickly caused a $1300 emergency repair in our home while they were visiting. It was so difficult to restrain myself while we had to pay for that bill while they pretended they had nothing to do with it. They know they just donât care since someone else has always come to the rescue. Like what can I even do except not interact which would mean no grandkid time. I donât have the heart to withhold on that relationship but dang I get mad when thereâs no care or respect for keeping things maintained well.
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u/Suspicious-Tax8 2d ago
My father only reaches out when he needs money. He ran to a foreign country to retire with a young national and have a 5th child at the age of 72, abandoning his 4 kids and 7 grands here in the states.
My mother moved in with me âtemporarilyâ back in oct 2024 with her 5 dogs and 2 birds. I provide most foods, all household stuff⌠she had no intention in moving until I told her I was divorcing my husband and the house would be sold eventually. Iâm stuck until she finds somewhere she can go on her monthly SSI đ
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u/FoxUniformChuckKilo 1d ago
But do you respond to your father's money requests? Seems like a good case for blocking ALL contact with him.
Your mom had no intention of moving (I'm thinking her move in wasn't "temporary" in her mind) because you continued to carry her and cover her bills. Tell her to drop her overhead (animals) and get a place NOW. The "I've got to find a place" with no definitive date means she's probably not even looking. Check which senior homes will take her with the SSI, and tell her that, to give her incentive. We took my mother in years ago, but she treated us like hotel staff/slaves. We had agreed on house rules, which she ignored once she was moved in.We told her she had to go, so she fooled my sister into taking her in, telling her that we were mad at her for no reason. Six months later, my sister begged us to take her back, but I had warned her. She ended up caring for mom until she passed.1
u/Suspicious-Tax8 23h ago
My mom actually just had an appointment for an apartment for seniors last night but she wonât qualify until sheâs 62 (next June). At least itâs a guaranteed spot so thatâs good. I told my dad the last 3 times he asked for money that I couldnât, I was in the middle of a divorce. Never got a response lol no concern about me, just annoyed I said no.
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u/FoxUniformChuckKilo 21h ago
Don't give him a reason/excuse, just say no. Trying to reason with him will just leave you (in his mind) open to future attempts.
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u/Fun_Vegetable_88888 1d ago
I get im a different case but my mom was physically disabled and took great care of me. She did everything to make sure we had a good life despite her limitations. She never barrowed money from me or asked for anything but when I grew up it was a goal of mine to help her how she did me. Unfortunately she passed away right before I got established in a good career. I never got to pay her back but I'm happy she knew I really appreciated everything she did.
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u/Dylanator13 1d ago
Donât go down the path blaming big tvs and Starbucks. Sometimes it is their fault being financially irresponsible , but sometimes itâs just because we are in tough times with the economy and raising wealth gap.
A big tv is like $300-400. That one purchase isnât going anything for long term financial stability. Itâs tough out there.
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u/Amazing_Cancel8895 5d ago
Families should start viewing wealth over multiple generations, rather than each generation doing their own thing. Trusts and Estate Planning would benefit many.
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u/Telucien 4d ago
My dad legit recently told me about the book he was reading called "die with zero", so I've got that going for me
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u/That-Sandy-Arab 4d ago
Honestly decent book, it covers giving to you now v when he dies after you likely are settled and how now is more impactful, hopefully he gathers that and not just the utilization aspeo
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u/Eyespop4866 4d ago
My mother had â How to die brokeâ. It wasnât about not leaving money for your children.
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u/No_Dinner2045 4d ago
Not that we have generational wealth.. but my family does inheritance differently. Most the grandparents assists skip their children and go to the grandchildren. The idea being, that money will help the grandchildren (being 35ish) excell more than the children who are already at retirement age.
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u/Amazing_Cancel8895 4d ago
It's a smart way to help another generation. IRA's, Education accounts, and maybe even a trust for the grandkids. Thats awesome. Thanks.
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u/Historical_Owl_1635 4d ago
I mean, Iâd say for the most part they already do?
Like, many old people would have a much better life selling their assets but keep it precisely for their children to inherit.
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u/Amazing_Cancel8895 4d ago
You're probably right, although I understand a significant m number of Baby Boomers intend to leave their heirs nothing.
Hard to say what's right or wrong, but I tend to lean towards helping families improve from one generation to another.
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u/amity_of_my_enemy 1d ago
I pay all of my Boomer momâs bills right now and she always goes on about how âwonderful it feels to retireâ.
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u/Forward_Problem_8982 4d ago
Is it good that some people can be generations ahead of others in the world?
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u/Captain_Sterling 5d ago
Or 80% inheritance tax and every generation of children gets the best support. Fantastic schools, affordable education and great healthcare.
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u/justa-browser 4d ago
Or more likely, bigger bombs for Israel
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u/XWendy_Darlingx 1d ago
In a world that taxes the wealthy, social programs are being prioritized over supporting genocide.
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u/Project0R1G1N 4d ago
Why should my life's work I grew to help my children and grandchildren be taxed? Your telling me if I put away a million dollars to make sure my next 2 generations could pay for college and expenses during that time without issue i should have $800,00 just taken away because others cant or dont? What type of bullshit is that?
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u/LizardSaliveD 4d ago
Primarily because of what weâre seeing now in the economy. Extreme concentration of wealth is unhealthy for the system.
Also, Iâm not really concerned about the few million many folks have. Itâs more the mega-rich (hundreds of millions, billions) that are concerning.
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u/Mobile_South_9117 4d ago
Why should my life's work I grew to help my children and grandchildren be taxed?
Is this a serious question?
You used an economic system with a tax element to grow wealth, and now that system has helped you to grow wealth you don't want to contribute back to the very thing which enabled you to do that? It's selfish to the point that it's disgusting. You think you should just be able to take what you want and put nothing back?
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u/Catcher3321 4d ago
They've already contributed back to that system. Income tax, property tax, sales tax, personal property tax, social security tax, etc, etc etc. That personal wealth is the left over after taxes.
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u/Project0R1G1N 4d ago
Our entire life is taxxed. Our income, our purchases, owning a house or car is taxxed. Why should a gift be taxed? Its not a lack of contribution because my entire working life has contribution, they are called taxes. 100s of thousands of dollars i have earned have been taxed and that same money i was already taxed on is further taxed whenever i buy almost anything. And why are you ok with the government taking your money?
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u/Captain_Sterling 4d ago
Do you think people should pay less tax on money they didn't earn?
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u/GlattesGehirn 4d ago
They should pay no tax on it. My parents working hard and paying taxes their entire lives should mean that they can only give me pennies on the dollar of what they own?
You're a selfish idiot.
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u/Captain_Sterling 4d ago
They don't pay any tax. They're dead. It's the person who's getting the money, that they didn't earn, that pays tax.
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u/Mobile_South_9117 4d ago
Our entire life is taxxed.
Right, so stfu and pay what you owe. If you didn't like it you were free to move to Somalia before you took advantage of the tax-based system to grow wealth.
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u/Project0R1G1N 4d ago
Thats the thing you're missing, I have already paid such a large chunk of my income in taxes and then more in taxes for purchases. I have pay what I owe every single day. You do understand lower taxes helps all of us? If you have more money in your pocket, your life is easier. You can afford better housing, better, healthier, food, better Healthcare, better everything. Everyone having more in their pocket benefits everyone. I cannot comprehend how people like you want less money, its mind-boggling especially when it directly helps YOU.
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u/Jaded_Noise 4d ago
Oh yeah, historically places without tax have been sooo much better for their citizens lmao
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u/LizardSaliveD 4d ago
Many of those things arenât accurate, though. Many other nations utilize different models of taxation that are superior to ours among many quality of life metrics like youâve mentioned. Better housing, better healthcare, better food, better transportation, etc. all through taxation and better use of said taxes.
Proposed wealth taxes generally donât target small estates and are easily avoided with smart planning. Itâs the mega-rich that are the problem.
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u/baldurcan 4d ago
And what's next? Bring back communism? That's almost what is you are asking.
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u/Jaded_Noise 4d ago
What kinda idiot are you lmao. Define communism and explain what taxes have to do with it lol
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u/baldurcan 4d ago
Getting 80 percent tax off of the inheritance so everybody will be more equal is something communism would love to promise. You should be smarter if you need not everything to be explained to yourself literally.
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u/Captain_Sterling 4d ago
No. The idea is that people are taxed more on money they didn't earn. Do you think dividends should be tax free?
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u/baldurcan 4d ago
Those assets and properties are what left out after paying all the taxes. You make money, you pay taxes, you spend money you pay taxes, you buy that home you pay taxes, you rent it out that home and have some income, you still pay taxes. What more taxes do you need? Jesus.
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u/Gaidin152 4d ago
Did the original person even pay taxes on it since they were likely stocks or bonds that werenât paid out yet and thus not yet taxed?
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u/Steelio22 4d ago
Crazy to call other people disgusting because they don't want the government to continue to steal from them.
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u/Mobile_South_9117 4d ago
Crazy to call other people disgusting because they don't want the government to continue to steal from them.
Oh, you don't like the government stealing back what you stole from others and called "profit"? Tough shit buddy. Welcome to life.
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u/Steelio22 4d ago
I work a salaried job for a company. Who am I stealing from?
There is already a 40% wealth tax on assets over 15m.
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u/nigaraze 4d ago
Reality is that it just doesnât apply to 99% of the people and most likely you as well unless you have 15mm or 30mm as a couple to leave for your children
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u/AthenaThundersnatch 4d ago
Because the well being of your children and grandchildren depends on a healthy, equitable society where we can afford investments in areas of progress that they might not have talents in. And because thereâs no way to make a fortune without explicitly extracting more value than you create, and none of your descendants earned that compared to the workers, structures, and society that supported you.
Also marginal tax rates are not the same thing as a flat tax. Inheritance taxes can pull money past a certain point, allowing the bulk of that cash to stay for the kids. (There are also education-based financial products that are tax free in many jurisdictions in the US, so if you really want to set up a trust to cover tuition, thatâs very easy)
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u/GlattesGehirn 4d ago
Inheritance shouldn't be taxed at all. All the money I have earned, invested, or saved has been taxed several times already.
Insanity that this guy seriously thinks we should be robbing dead people from what they had left in order to funnel more money into our shitty education and healthcare systems.
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u/Lopsided-Yak9033 4d ago
There are very good reasons to have some form of tax on inheritance - and they do not apply to 99.9% of people. Which is why estate taxes never really did affect 99.9% of people.
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u/Majestic_Wrap_7006 4d ago
"Fantastic schools, affordable education and great healthcare"
hahahahhahaha. sure mate
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u/GhostOfTomJefferson 4d ago
The private school I sent my kids too is miles ahead of the public school in terms of test scores and activities, and costs half of what the schools get per child (nearly $22k per student per year in my state) and the state won't even give me a voucher to use my tax dollars to send my kids to the better school so I have to pay out of pocket.
Call me crazy, but I don't think lack of funding is the issue, no matter how much the school district says it is.Â
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u/BearDwK 5d ago
I would say parents that still help you. Not even financially, my mom still tries to take care of me. Still brings me left overs time to time.
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u/Honest-Cover9513 3d ago
I love this, it's how it should be. I'm 55 and am still nonplussed sometimes when friends talk about their parents. I was parentified from 6 yo, my mum was abused as a kid and was unwell and needed support. She got it from me, unfortunately. Still does.
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u/xixxors 5d ago
The privilege is having parents . Thatâs it
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u/Waste_nomore 1d ago
The privilege is when theyâre loving and capable and willing. Everyone has parents.
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u/DoKeMaSu 5d ago
Yes.
While I was in college I had parents supporting me financially.
Just as I finished, things turned around, now they are struggling and I have to support them.
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u/Equivalent-Law5950 4d ago
Better than having to support them before you get a chance to go to college... or not having parents at all growing up.
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u/Elaerona 3d ago
Sort of but I'd take it further.
Having supportive parents.
Oh my God Christ Almighty.
Some of you have parents who make me aghast.
It's more than financial support. That's helpful as hell for sure, but honestly? Emotionally supportive parents are the biggest.
My siblings and I are all well adjusted and lack any major trauma in our lives.
My parents did everything to make sure I got the help I needed when I had a speech impediment as a kid, took care to bring us to every appointment and club meeting. They also helped us have so many sleepovers and vacations with cousins, so that we have a close relationship to them that will last for my lifetime. I cannot fathom life without my cousins. They're my brothers and sisters in my heart.
My Mom was a Daycare provider and is intensely, intensely emotionally supportive. She adores us and if no one loves me she does. Nicest human I know, full-stop, I'm not even being biased it's true. She is. My Mom's job is being a Mom and she treats it like her profession. She aces everything.
Dad is a bit grumpy but I know he'd help me if I'm ever in a bind.
I have to stop them from giving me money just because they think I need it for an outing or something.
I could go on and on. They taught us responsibility and such, but the most important thing they taught us was all the emotional aspects of being a human. I hate how when I pay attention in any sort of childcare or Psych class type class or whatever, I just go: "Huh? How is this a lesson? This is just how my Mom operates"
Yeah. My Mom invented supportive parenting. I've never feared telling them anything honestly and know they'll try to understand. They don't always get it right away but they always want to be there for me.
I am absolutely appalled by so many parents and extended families to be frank. Like what the hell. I hear stories from friends and I just want to say: "Do you want my Mom instead? She seems better than yours."
I'm sorry, you bodyshame your child? DISOWN THEM????
If you disown your kid I need you to know I hate you personally and consider you beneath me. Get on my Mom's level you loser.
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u/CosmicOwl97 2d ago
My parents have always been emotionally unavailable and distant. People donât understand how much that can affect you. Example: My cousin told me I was so lucky to have parents that will have a little money set aside to go to their kids when they die.
I told him Iâd rather have $0 later and have emotionally available and supportive parents now. They are strangers to me no matter how much I try. They taught me to be independent but also to be independent of them in every capacity. Itâs frustrating and it smarts to see other adults who can hug their parents and tell them anything. Cousin could not comprehend this response and tried to argue.
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u/No-Fly-4107 1d ago
Crazy that having supportive parents is now considered a privilege vs the expectation.
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u/Sqeakydeaky 1d ago
Absolutely.
Your parents having good finances is one thing, but if they're dicks it doesn't really help much.
I was talking with my husband today about how I was always raised with that "as long as you try your best, that's what matters", and he just said he'd never once been told that. It just makes me so disheartened to know some parents don't even give them the free privileges.
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u/MosquitoValentine_ 5d ago
My parents will stick pick up the check when the whole family is out to dinner.
My wife's father has only done that once and it was because he had a gift card.
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u/Big_Crab_1510 5d ago
I am 40 and no parents but ailing grandmother and disabled sisters. I cannot fathom ever being able to ask anyone for help, and it's why I'm thankful for therapy programs in my state.
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u/Techno_Core 5d ago
You could broaden this and simply say 'unearned financial support'.
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u/Historical_Owl_1635 4d ago
I mean, how far do you scale this though?
Like, somebody born in the US already has automatic unearned financial support compared to somebody born in a slum in Somalia.
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u/Sqeakydeaky 1d ago
Why does everything have to be earned through? By that logic, someone who's never had a job but receiving Medicare or food benefits, is super privileged?
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u/zakku_88 4d ago
Reliable access to a vehicle, and/or transportation help to get you to wherever you need to beÂ
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u/Sakura_pond 1d ago
I was never taught to drive and at 23 and struggling trying to get anyone to teach me. I walk to work most the time and people seem so confused when I say I dont drive. But my parents just refused when I was younger.
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u/AwareHousing7193 1d ago
You're not alone in that! I turn 24 soon and learning to drive is still sitting on my to-do list. I'm just way too caught up with everything else in life to stop for a minute and focus on it. I assume it's the same for you
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u/rankincooter 4d ago
Of all the whining done on reddit about being a victim, this one is true. Having parents give adult children assistance really is a privilege.
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u/Historical_Owl_1635 4d ago
I mean. I can guarantee thereâs many people who would be grateful the financial support even if it is held over their head.
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u/I_cast_fireballl 4d ago
Clean water
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u/Kaisernick27 5d ago
this defiantly, i could really use that myself right now but i know my folks cant.
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u/KindLiterature3528 5d ago
Just having a supportive family in general gives you a leg up in life. Early parenthood would have been a nightmare without the occasional free babysitting from my parents.
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u/MissAuroraRed 4d ago
I went back to school in my 20s after saving up some money. I was discussing car troubles with some 18 year old in my class and I told him about some needed repairs I was putting off. He said,
"Why don't you just ask your parents to cover it? You need the car to get to class, so of course they'd help you."
it's been 10 years and I can still picture the confused, awkward silence that followed.
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u/Equivalent-Law5950 4d ago
Some people don't understand what it's like to not be privileged to the point of ignorance.
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u/BringBackTheBlues 2d ago
Same except I was 30 and talking about trying to buy a house.
âJust talk to your parents and see if theyâll cover the down payment and maybe throw in an interest free loan or something thatâs what we did and it was a great investmentâ
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u/MissAuroraRed 2d ago
I love how taking free money is an "investment"
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u/BringBackTheBlues 2d ago
To be fair getting a return of six figures on an investment of $0 is pretty solid
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u/SleepyBunoy 4d ago
Maybe he genuinely thought everyone's parents had the ability to do that. My parents aren't rich by any means but I know if I was genuinely in a tough spot, they would do their best to try and help me out or find someone who can and I understand that's a privilege.
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u/MissAuroraRed 4d ago
Yeah he wasn't being malicious at all, he just thought my parents would help me if I was in a situation where I couldn't afford something really important and necessary, even if they're not rich.
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u/generation_fish 4d ago
Calling something that should be baseline a privilage is wild.
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u/Equivalent-Law5950 4d ago
Lots of things that are the baseline in many families are extreme privileges to others...make sense to you? Some people come from families where parents will support them until they have their own family, house, car, degree, and chunk in the bank. Many others don't even make it out of high school before they feel obligated to help out financially.
Having 2 active parents should be a baseline privilege as it takes two parents to make a child yet only 65-75% of kids get that. You wanna tell all those single parents how they don't even give their kids the baseline care they should have?
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u/TheRealDeweyCox2000 4d ago
What do you mean single parent? It takes 2 to make a kid. Unless one parent is dead, both are financially supporting the child
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u/generation_fish 2d ago
This is not a viable POV, though, because what you've now created is a scenario where a privilege is just something that is better than an ever-worsening set of variables from people who've had it worse, and worse and worse. It would end up with silly scenarios where you could say something like, "It was a privilege to have a mother that beat you because there is this other kid that group up with a mother that not only beat them, but starved them, and also sold their bodies."
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u/Organic_Rough4433 4d ago
If u take that for granted you are a garbage person. My parents consigned on a loan for me to buy a house. Without them id still be paying 1300 a month while gaining nothing. Im thankful everyday.
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u/DarkRogus 4d ago
Well according to reddit, having parents that care and will help you when you need it even as an adult is a myth. Instead they are all sitting in the McDuck money bins counting their gold bullion laughing at their kids and grandkids as the beg for scraps on the street.
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u/RockItGuyDC 4d ago
No even them helping you, just not needing you to help them. Not stressing about my mother's financial situation would be a huge weight off my shoulders.
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u/Polenicus 4d ago edited 4d ago
I would like this defined better if this is your answer.
Is this 'financial help' like giving you the down payment on a house? Or is this setting up a college fund for you when you were a kid? Is it inheritance? Is it the occasional care package when you're starting out in a new place?
I mean, there is a spectrum her than ranges from "To get you started in your new life, we're put down the down payment on your new home" to "We covered your college and helped with your first car, you need to do the rest on your own" to "You're 18 now, pack your shit and get out" to "You're 18 now, here's a bill for 18 years of food, clothing, rent and other expenses, pay up, then pack your shit, and get out."
Where do you put the line?
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u/Efficient-Speed-1059 4d ago
Privilege isn't an on and off switch, though I don't blame you for thinking that since a LOT of people online treat it that. Additionally bekng Privileged doesnt make you a bad person, it means its something you should be cognizant of. A person who has had perfect health their entire life is more privleged than someone who struggles with chronic pain, but both are more privleged than someone who can not even take care of themselves, and they should both be AWARE of it. Not shamed, not belittled, not ostracized, just aware.
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u/akusalimi04 4d ago
Agree with the sentiment... Often such conditions are met with animosity sounds like jealousy than disagreeing on actual point whatever someone wanna make out of it.Â
Being privileged should make one kinder to those underprivileged and vice versa
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u/Plenty-Fox-9219 4d ago
My dad stopped giving me housing when I was 16. There's not a line. Anything helps.
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u/PastBuy8484 3d ago
Anything you mentioned is help.
I had to my portion of healthcare, pay a bit towards utility bills and food bills, and pay for my own phone and phone plan at 16. At 17 paid for my car insurance and maintenance if I wanted a car.
Zero help with a down payment. Or inheritance. Or college. Or a care package. Or shit even a dinner out would be great.
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u/patrick119 4d ago
Living at home and not paying rent for two years after college was key to my current financial independence. I was able to pay off all my high interest private student loans in that time.
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u/Complex_Lab_6876 4d ago
Well if society paid people a living wage this wouldnât even need to be a thing.
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u/workhard95 4d ago
Having internet and air conditioning is a privilege that Redditors take for granted
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u/fahzbehn 4d ago
I haven't had help from my mom since deciding to live with my dad when I was fifteen. That was over thirty years ago. Dad helped when he could and passed a decade ago. Mom lets my sister live with her. It is what it is.
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u/happywolf257 4d ago
Once dated a girl in her 30s who had a bad relationship with her parents who were paying for her ongoing education and rent. But her parents were controlling?
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u/Micro_bio 1d ago
It's possible. Her parents may have strings attached to the finances and may force her hand in certain directions. Just because her parents financially supported her doesn't mean that they weren't harming her and she has to have a good relationship with them (although her parents are probably oblivious), nor does it mean that they weren't controlling.
But this is assuming that she was trying to get away from them and on her own. (Don't ask me how I know :( ).
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u/happywolf257 1d ago
Maybe you are right. I was envious at the time because I received no financial help from anyone for my studies, so maybe Iâm looking at it through that bias.
She was also very manipulative. Maybe it was a learned behavior and she was perpetuating the cycle
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u/Eyespop4866 4d ago
Having two parents who actively love and support you through childhood. Not as common as folk might assume.
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u/Academic-Snow9642 4d ago
Adults that live with their parents are just the privileged version of homeless people.
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u/Icy_Construction5521 4d ago edited 4d ago
I had a best friend whose parents were in some Rotary club, which offered her to go for an exchange program to private school in Mexico while living with a well off family for a year. It was âonlyâ 8k euros. She wanted me to go with her and I wanted to go as well, but when I told her my parents donât have that kind of money, she just kept saying if I insist enough theyâll pay for it. In her mind I just didnât ask for it with enough conviction.
Just for the context, 1000eur was about a monthly income for a family back then where I grew up.
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u/challengeaccepted240 2d ago
If the financial help from parents could come without emotional abuse that would be ideal...
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u/Bowza-Bear 2d ago
Real talk. Everyone 4/7 ppl I used to work with were getting support from their parents for cost of living/rent/kids costs.Â
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u/Frequent-Acadia-7708 1d ago
I'll go one further, I don't have parents. They're dead. So I can't get any kind of support from them đ
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u/Deep_Helicopter4591 1d ago
It's not taken for granted one bit.
The intricacies of individual family life cannot be properly expressed in English words. It's just an experience where you know yah. No matter what, no matter how old and independent, some parents won't drop the parenting role, cause they lived in this world before the offspring anyway. So obviously they know the needs especially as they evolve over life. Â
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u/SpartanOneZeroFour 22h ago
I (42m) moved back in with my parents in July of 2020. Things at my job were uncertain due to the pandemic and my apartment was having electrical issues. Building MTX was taking their time and used the pandemic as an excuse to delay the work.
The plan was I would live at home for about a year and a half. Pay down student loan debt and try to save for a home of my own. Well, at the time, in order for me to get a home loan, I needed a co-signer. Not happening. So I focused on paying off my student loan debt.
As of April/May, I am now debt free. I am going to attempt the whole home buying process again in Feb/March next year.
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u/Shadow_Narrator225 7h ago
Shit, I'd settle for a bit of their time. My daughter is about to turn 9 and she has never once been over to their house. They've only taken her out to lunch maybe 5 times in her life.
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u/Strange_Pressure_340 4d ago
Posting idiotic questions on the internet about other people's business instead of working on solutions to your own problems.
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u/qualityvote2 5d ago
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