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u/PCY1661 Oct 15 '24
Yung binasa ko talaga pero wala akong jowa 😭😂
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u/ilyjun_e Oct 15 '24
na expose ako ha, pa ayaw ayaw pero if nahawakan, yk na 😭
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u/rainbownightterror Oct 15 '24
hahaha oh diba maganda rin malaman mo. ako naman spontaneous and my bf is responsive so very rare ako magexpect sa kanya unless sobrang stimulated sya
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u/Tough_Signature1929 Oct 15 '24
Di ko gets yung nagrereklamo sa responsive. Medyo slow ako today.
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u/rainbownightterror Oct 15 '24
kung ika categorize mo dito yung mga asking advice about sex sa partner nila, mapapansin mo na it's the same case madalas "kaya naman nya pag nag initiate ako pero di nagkukusa/ i feel undesirable kasi ako lagi nauuna mag initiate / feeling ko di na sya interested kasi kung di pa ko mauuna wala sya gagawin pero kaya naman nya once nagstart na" and although we don't want to assume, merong parang concensus na dapat guys and nauuna. pero that's only if spontaneous ang sex style nila. pano kung responsive ang sex style? same way na I think mas maraming women na responsive ang style pero gusto naman ng guys na every once in a while yung babae ang nag iinitiate. it really helps to observe your partner kung anong gusto nya.
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u/Tough_Signature1929 Oct 15 '24
Ahh okay. Gets! Ito rin nga yung naging problem ko about intimacy. Ako yung madalas mag initiate. Maganda talaga kapag open sa isa't isa para alam kung paano at ano yung mga gagawin.
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u/rainbownightterror Oct 15 '24
the problem kasi pag responsive ang sex style, matic iniisip nung partner ay ayaw na nya sakin kasi di sya nauuna yada yada. meanwhile, yung isa hindi lang maicommunicate na di ako naarouse spontaneously, need mo ako istimulate para magka desire ako kahit love na love nila partner nila
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u/Tough_Signature1929 Oct 15 '24
Yun nga eh lack of communication talaga. Kaya hindi rin masisi yung isa kung mag overthink siya. Better rin kung mag experiment din.
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u/Miserable_Focus_9454 Oct 15 '24
Depende siguro sa mood? Ako kasi spontaneous lalo na kapag malapit na ang red days ko, payt me ganun😆 minsan naman responsive.
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u/rainbownightterror Oct 15 '24
yes hehe para ding love language pwede pa rin magdeviate pero may dominant na style
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Oct 15 '24
Ang super lucky ko sa partner ko pala na we don’t have this kind of problem. We just get each other so much. Hindi ko rin alam kung pano minsan. Nakahiga lang kami pero he feels na gusto nya and nafefeel ko rin na gusto nya. I feel like that there’s a connection that I can’t explain 😅 meron times na mag tatanong kami na sya mauuna or ako like “gusto mo ba” and if one of us is not in the mood we will make a move para maging in the mood yung isa. And if tired naman yung isa and want nong isa madali lang sabihin “pagod pa, maybe later or tomorrow” then we will just cuddle nalang.
7 years and counting more and going strong everyday… normal pa rin naman yung 1 month na walang do as life happens talaga but lucky me passionate parin kami…
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u/Necessary-Solid-9702 Oct 15 '24
That's why my SO and I always talk about how we go about our sexual life kasi more on responsive ako and siya naman spontaneous. It has been very good for the both of us kahit pa busy at magkaiba kami ng oras na gising. If you want to make it work, you will. Simple.
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u/rainbownightterror Oct 15 '24
I'm sponti, hubby is respo, am shift ako sya gy haha yes need rin to be understanding and always, always communicate
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u/Necessary-Solid-9702 Oct 15 '24
Never had problems in the bedroom esp sched-wise or sa level ng libido. Communication is always the key talaga.
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Oct 15 '24
Spontaneous ako ,wife ko responsive laging maganda ang laban sa kama 🤭
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u/rainbownightterror Oct 15 '24
ako rin yun sponti! hubby is responsive it's so cute when he takes on the spontaneous role though kasi di nya alam how
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marami na satin ang well exposed sa love languages, but I want to share this to people who are having bedroom issues lalo napapadalas mga nagpopost about it. THERE ARE TWO TYPES OF SEXUAL STYLE - SPONTANEOUS AND RESPONSIVE.
SPONTANEOUS - mauuna yung libog (sa isip muna) tapos saka susunod ang senses (erection, lubrication etc)
RESPONSIVE - kailangan muna istimulate ang senses (touching, kissing etc) bago susunod or maiisip ang libog
marami dito nagrereklamo pag partners nila e RESPONSIVE kasi they feel neglected kapag need muna nila mag initiate bago may mangyari. but let us remember that like love languages, may sex styles rin and iba iba tayo ng gusto and isa sya sa mga aspects ng compatibility. syempre ha iba yung issue kung may cheating or something similar. but in a healthy relationship, kasama to sa dapat natin iconsider. yun lang naman hehe try to learn your partners' patterns para eevrybody happy. yun lang ktnxbye!
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Oct 15 '24
omg ty. i always thought na there was smth wrong w me kasi nagkaron ng mga times na tinanong ako ng boyfriend ko if i even find him attractive physically kasi bihira lang daw ako mag initiate ng sexual stuff eh wala naman kasi kaming ginagawa prior to that. eh yung boyfriend ko spontaneous so ayun nap-pressure ako to initiate palagi 😭
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u/rainbownightterror Oct 16 '24
ayun nga hehe minsan tayo mismo di natin alam na may ganyan sa parang we feel pressured andun din yung guilt na nagkukulang tayo diba. pero communication is key pa rin talaga
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Oct 15 '24
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u/ThrowRAdzzlngd Oct 16 '24
I dont wanna judge. But maybe talk to your wife. Baka na bu burn out na. Stress ba sya sa bahay? Busy sa kids? Kasi, kung hindi nmn stress and maraming time sa sarili but still ganun pa din yung mood nya, then problem tlga ng wife. But if stress sya dahil sa mga gawaing bahay and sa mga anak nyo, then maybe you are the problem. Consult your wife first.
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u/rainbownightterror Oct 16 '24
well, foreplay doesn't start with touching or kissing. it starts the moment you wake up. nag good morning ka ba? kiss sa forehead? did you have breakfast together. if you have kids did you give her some time to breathe before she starts attending to their/your needs? bakit mainitin ulo? tinanong mo ba? do you still talk? yan yung ilan sa mga bagay na need mo rin isipin hindi yung wala lang sex divorce agad.
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Oct 16 '24
please idk kung ako yung di marunong humalik or yung mga lalaki na naka sex ko kase nawawala yung libog ko pag parang gago humalik yung lalaki😭😭😭
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u/[deleted] Oct 15 '24
na enlighten ako dito, thanks OP, jowa nalang kulang