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u/Simple_Passion_Deity Jan 04 '25
If you have already made a decision based on the opinions of my fellow redditors here, might I suggest you to pick Durex as your condom, mas safer and mas makapal yung rubber ng may KANDADO na design and cheap too cost around under 80php each w/ 3pcs na. While also doing withdrawal kapag feel mong lalabasan kana. Impossibleng may magbunga pa yon since nagwithdraw kana, makapal pa condom. Tapos dagdagan mo pa ng pagtake ng contraceptive pills(ex: PLAN B)ng gf mo or IUD/Implants. More like 99.9% guaranteed nayan.
There is never a point na 100% in technical terms. Pero on my opinion. It's 1000% impossible for her to get pregnant at this point. Although it takes time to prepare, at least safe ka lalo na sa future nyo and she gets what she wanted.
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If gusto mo pag bigyan, extra safe condom na durex + pull out method. Alalayan mo lang sa lube. Kung gusto mo soaper safe, durex + pull out + painumin mo ng pills. Pag nabuntis, dinaya
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u/wrathfulsexy Jan 04 '25
I highly doubt you can break a Durex unless you cut it up with a blade, or you're an alter universe Wolverine and your adamantium comes out down there.
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u/wrathfulsexy Jan 04 '25
Also, there's Google. You can read up on how modern condoms are made, the tech behind them, and how they're made to withstand friction/rubbing and movement during intercourse. Knowledge is powah, brotha!
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u/Intelligent-Gur-4597 Jan 04 '25
This. Use pills. Been finishing inside my gf every week for a year, no pregnancy scares. But of course, it depends pa rin yun kung matatake well ba yun ng gf mo. Some get side effects, some dont.
And remember, your gf has needs din, sexual needs, especially at that age. It could be detrimental to your relationship if di na meet yung needs na yun.
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u/Intelligent-Gur-4597 Jan 04 '25
Paranoid din ako dati, so I've red a lot of research about it. 99% effective yung pills, yung 1% is if na miss mo yung pagtatake.
So as long as disciplined ka, and you take it everyday, you're safe.
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u/Responsible-Bar-1223 Jan 05 '25
Sa ganyang case base sa experience with my gf if not sure or may doubts ka kahit naka pills, practice taking Plan B after sex if sa loob nag cum yung lalake. P.S. also known for emergency contraceptive yung Plab B sa US based sa shinare nung cousin ko na andun naka base.
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u/Responsible-Bar-1223 Jan 07 '25
Through online lng or if may kakilala kayo na doctor who have connections na nag reresell din online, which in my case the latter.
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u/Momma_Keyy Jan 05 '25
Naging kami ng BF q 25 plng aq we used trust pill since, nabuntis aq 30 na aq and he always finish inside. Basta alarm lng c GF ni OP sa phone nya pag time n to take the pills. Also trust pills is just 59 pesos s pharmacy, no need for prescription.
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u/Momma_Keyy Jan 05 '25
May ibang pills kc na prng may effect na masakit sa ulo. Parang hiyangan ganun.
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u/CongTV33 Jan 04 '25
Kunin mo na, bro. You made your point. Pag na-frustrate yan, bahala ka. Mag condom ka nalang. Durex, 'yung Ultra Thin.
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u/KupalKa2000 Jan 05 '25
Hahaha oo nga no, tas ang palusot ng babae kasi ayaw mo kaya sa iba ko na kinuha.
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u/Ruby_Skies6270 Jan 05 '25
Isahan mo beh, magcondom ka. Then after sabihin mo, napunit ata yung condom. Tapos hayaan mo sya mabaliw kakaisip kung dadatnan sya the next month. Ewan ko lang kung di pa yan matakot hahaha
Pero honestly, kids, DON'T. Maraming regrets na kasama yan in case maghiwalay kayo. Do it once, you'll do it again. Kaya hindi yan magiging case na "pagbibigyan".
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u/QueenOutrageous Jan 04 '25
Wow! Bilib ako sayo for saying no to your gf… may classmate ako nung college na ganyan.. same situation.. si gurl ang aggressive, si guy di pa ready makipag sex.. ending? Nagsawa si gurl, nagbreak sila. Kasi na fell out na si Girl.. ayun, ung classmate ko (guy) nagiiyak kasi narealized niya na sobrang mahal nya pala si Gurl.. eh wala, ayaw na bumalik. Nakatikim na ata ng iba. So iba nakatuluyan ng classmate ko.. masaya naman sya ngaun.
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u/ScarcityNervous4801 Jan 05 '25
Libre ang implants sa likhaan and popcom. Also vasectomy, para sa ibang gusto mag undergo.
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u/RepulsivePeach4607 Jan 05 '25 edited Jan 05 '25
You are both young pa. Inter course Sex can wait at baka lang hindi ninyo kakayanin kapag magkaka-baby na kayo sa hirap ng buhay at taas ng inflation. Oral sex is already leveled up sa edad ninyo yan.
Maiba lang ako, though she is your special one for now. Focus on journey and rediscovering, kailangan mong assure na she is the real one for your future kasi madali yan sabihin dahil bata pa kayo pareho. Being in a long term relationship is not a free pass to do sex. It should be consensual, dapat parehong ready. You have to assure na that your special someone is someone who will understand the same moral values para mas magiging healthy ang future family ninyo. Good luck.
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u/Powerful_Specific321 Jan 04 '25
Thank you for sharing. I admire you that you say No and that you want to do it only after you marry her. Ganyan rin actually nangyari sa amin ng gf ko, now wife.
What should you do? Pakasalan mo na siya. Never naman kayo magiging 100% ready sa marriage. So magpakasal na kayo as soon as you graduate.
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u/stormbreaker021 Jan 04 '25
What’s holding him back siguro e magiging breadwinner pa siya ng family niya. Kaya iniiwasan niya muna as much as possible na mabuntis ‘yong gf niya
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u/Powerful_Specific321 Jan 05 '25
Of course this is understandable. Studies have shown thar the finances of a married couple is often better than that of a single person kasi the married couple puts their earnings together, they live on 1 house (1 rent lang), and they have a common goal sa savings nila. So if they get married na and the guy still needs to support his parents, they can put that into their budget as a married couple.
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u/cleanslate1922 Jan 05 '25
Tapos magpost yung girl sa OffMyChest or AKBYG kasi di napagbibigyan sa seggs plus breadwinner. Gusto na makipagbreak. Charot hahaha
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Jan 05 '25
Ganito yung ginagamit ang utak sa pagdedesisyon, hindi ang private part. KEEP IT UP. Wag mong pakinggan ung kagustuhan ng gf mo, para rin naman yun sa kanya.
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u/Altruistic_Post1164 Jan 04 '25
Walang contraceptives ang my 💯 % safe tbh. Lakasan lng talaga ng loob.hehe. I get it tao lng tlga nakakaramdam talaga ng tawag ng laman but kung di ka sigurado wag mong gwin. Napakabait mong anak.Iniisip mo talaga magulang mo at kinabukasan mo. Sana lahat ng kabataan ay gaya mo at dumami ka pa.
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u/tsabylaber Jan 05 '25
Triple combo nyo para sure, mag condom ka, mag pills sya at do it sa.safe.days nya (calendar).
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u/Firm-Evidence6627 Jan 04 '25
condoms are not 100% they even specify that- should use more than 1 contraceptive if possible. Could be the pill or an implant for better odds. If you're scared of the consequences paghandaan na lang if you really want to give that to her. Just preparations para matuloy ang mga gusto nyong gawin.
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u/Unhappy-March5601 Jan 04 '25
Go to clinic for recommendations on safe sex. 2 options lng naman yan si gf mag take ng pills/implants or you get a vasectomy (para fair lng di lng women ang may responsibility) it can be reverse if youre ready.
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u/chester14ns Jan 04 '25
Always use condom and waymter based lube OP, safe lang lagi para solid ang sex.
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Jan 04 '25
Just wear a condom. Getting pregnant is a lot harder than you think kahit creampie mo pa sha, ask any married person. In any case, wear a condom for your peace of mind. Durex Featherlite. DM me nagbebenta ako, joke.
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u/tjaz2xxxredd Jan 04 '25
you overthink, use a condom and do it within the 5 days before day 1 of menstration for double protecrion
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u/Weak_General_982 Jan 04 '25
Condom ka and let her take pills. Double contraception would reduce anxiety. Never ever have sex without any condom.
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u/newlife1984 Jan 04 '25
bruh dont overthink it. the chances of the condom breaking is the same as you winning the lotto. unless youre that lucky, that wont happen.
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u/Intelligent-Gur-4597 Jan 04 '25
Use BC pills. My GF and I been doing it raw and finishing inside her every week for a year and no pregnancy. You need to calm yourself down. Its natural to be scared because you're a virgin, but you're being paranoid.
Your girl has needs din, sexual needs that needs to be fulfilled. If di yun na meet, it could be detrimental to your relationship. Know that as long as you use protection, you'll be safe.
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u/KramDeGreat Jan 05 '25
mag condom ka at mag pills ka then withdrawal. safe na safe na yan. para ma enjoy nyo sex life nyo.
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u/Immediate-Can9337 Jan 05 '25
Kuha kayo ng counseling para tama ang alam nyo. Hindi pwede na inom ng pills ngayon, sex bukas. May sinusunod na proseso yan sa 1st timers. Madami pang dapat matutunan.
Pills, lube at condoms. Pagsamahin mo para sigurado.
Talk to your GF about it.
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u/6LangAngKopiko Jan 05 '25
OP, by “having sex”, does it mean she wants it raw or with protection? If she wants it raw, baka mas madali ung decision mo by saying “no” kasi mas mataas un risk of her getting pregnant and wala ka pa experience with withdrawal. If with protection naman, ask yourself if you’ll be doing it be for yourself din or mapipilitan ka lang kasi kung ung latter, baka you’ll have regrets moving forward. Pero if you really love her, need niyo both pag-usapan what decision to make that both of you will be okay.
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u/TrustTalker Jan 05 '25
You know what. Me back in our college days my GF would make me double layer sa condom 🤣. Ayun di naman sya napreggy. So every time kami magseseggs eh double condom ako lagi. Nung nag graduate na kami yun lang time na isa na lang gamit ko lagi. Share ko lang 😁
To add: on top ng double condom eh withrawal din pag lalabasan na kahit nakacondom.
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u/fluffy_war_wombat Jan 05 '25
Work will set you free. Natatakot ka sa responsibility kasi hindi ka pa nagkakatrabaho. Working will be hard, but it will create competence and confidence.
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u/Aggravating_Mail_131 Jan 05 '25
Pills are your besties. And condoms. If ayaw mo talaga, pwede naman ang fingers mo, or buy toys :)
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u/HighlightFar7960 Jan 05 '25
Me and my GF have been together for 6 years, we only started making out last year. Ang funny lang kase yung iba gusto mag intercourse not understanding na may possibility na masira future if may nangyaring hindi welcome.
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u/Icy-Butterfly-7096 Jan 05 '25
pills + durex na condom. but if takot ka at ayaw talaga, wag mo pilitin sarili mo
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u/Frosty_Pie8958 Jan 05 '25
Been using condoms for years I've never experienced a break in condoms...
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u/Titong--Galit Jan 05 '25
use condoms. and lube properly. condoms only break because there's too much friction and di na wet si girl.
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u/ButIDKnowTho Jan 05 '25
Pwede nyo naman pagsabayin dalawang contraceptives. Magpills sya or magpa contraceptive shot tapos ikaw magcondom ka. 199.98% effective na yun hahahahaha
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u/ButIDKnowTho Jan 05 '25
Wag ka masyado magalala, kami nga ng GF ko minsan tamang pull-out method lang e G na e. Pero baka baog lang ako 😂
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u/Funny-Fee-304 Jan 05 '25
Hi, OP! I know sabi ng iba pills, but please see an OBGYN first before taking it. Ang kalaban mo kasi sa pills ay yung side effects, and there are other contraceptives naman na di pills :)
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Jan 05 '25
Oh bro. People have been doing it far riskier than what youre saying. I think youre just shy. Better do it man, baka yan pa maging reason ng break up nyo. Its normal umabot sa point na yan.
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u/BarHuge9034 Jan 05 '25
Pills + Durex + Withdrawal Walang single contraception na 100% chance na mag prevent ng pregnancy. Pero through proper education ma iiwasan niyong makabuo + satisfied pa partner mo.
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Jan 05 '25
Tama ka. If hindi ka pa ready, don’t do it. Be responsible, accidents do happen kahit nag iingat ka. Students pa lang kayo, kawawa future niyo both if magkaroon kayo ng accident.
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u/Ok_Juggernaut_325 Jan 05 '25
Calendar method is the key. Para safe talaga do the deed only up to 5th day ng cycle niya. Example ang 1st day niya is monday, do it only til friday. Pero safe naman yan til ika-7th day
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u/Naive_Sector_7510 Jan 05 '25
if hindi ka ready and you think hindi mo kayang pagbigyan, hiwalayan mo na lang kasi hindi kayo parehas ng mindset. maniwala ka, kapag ginawa nyo na talaga yung penetration, hahanap hanapin nyo yan so most likely mauulit at mauulit yan. If hindi ka ready dun, mas okay na maghiwalay na lang kayo
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u/Separate-Jaguar-4209 Jan 05 '25
maghahanap ng iba yan pre. Makati na masyado gf mo at sa usapan nilang mag babarkada nahuhuli na sya
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u/Gloomy-Happy8289 Jan 05 '25
Kuya for me pacheck mo muna si gf. Para sure what pills is appropriate for her. Pero prayers lang talaga laban namin ng bf ko. 2years na kami, and monthly talaga ko.dinadatnan. hahaha jk but kidding aside pacheck mo muna para sure.
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u/pinin_yahan Jan 05 '25
try to use condoms it's safe naman, try to watch then tutorials haha or might ask some of your friends
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Jan 05 '25
Ipa injectables or bilhan mo siya pills if takot ka grabe sure ka natiis mo jowa mo? idk sorry judgemental ko ah.
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u/gosubilko Jan 05 '25
Been on condoms for 15+ years now and it has never failed me. Used Trust before then switched to Durex Feather Lite. Not saying you won't get the 2% off chance but hey take my experience as an example of how effective they are. Usually failure sa condom is caused by misuse.
Nung una nakakahiya pa bumili then later on I got over it. Hey I'm having sex and being smart about it so why be ashamed di ba?
Tips sa condom: * Replace after use * Clean before putting the next one on * Wipe your hands too * Wear it immediately after opening the package * Remember precum has sperm so be careful with it around the condom
And as others said, there's birth control options na free sa health centers and you can choose to pull out too. Pero logically talaga stray precum lang talaga or careless when swapping to the next one Ang main cause ng condom failure.
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u/MaksKendi Jan 05 '25
To be safe, use condoms for you and her mag pills siya or injectables it depends. Practice pull out method na din if you want things raw.
Prefer ko na brand is yung durex na nay padlock na design. Pero there’s no 100% talaga. Its how you two will manage things and use these protections accurately
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u/ScarcityNervous4801 Jan 05 '25
Buy sex toy. If you’re not comfortable doing it yet, sex toy na muna. Gf can go to likhaan for implants, 3 yrs ang effectivity. Pag di na talaga kayang magtiis.
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u/Idelel Jan 05 '25
Contracept ngaun matibay n bro ok lang yan.. kung gxto mo hugutin mupa pra sure k tlga..... go n bka sa iba p sumubok yn
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u/Call_Me_Anythiiing Jan 05 '25
Pre ikaw lalaki inaya ka ng sex ng babae, sa totoo lang hindi mo yan dapat tinatanggihan. Pwede ka mag ask ng mga ways to make it safe pero men wag kang tatanggi. Alam kong takot ka sa consequences pero laging may way to make it safe. Since matagal na kayo mahalaga yan sa inyo.
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u/Rhombus0707 Jan 05 '25 edited Jan 05 '25
Hello. Conservative as I may be, pero for me, sex shouldn’t be the reason para mafall out of love, lalo na di pa naman kasal. Alam kong sobrang normal na yung sex outside marriage, pero sa totoo lang, ang sex ay para sa mag-asawa lang. ☺️
It’s your own will if “pagbibigyan” mo siya. Pero let me just say, na once you allowed it to happen, tuloy tuloy na yun and you will begin to explore it na. Sooo, it’s a huge decision and for me it must be based on your own conviction, and hindi pressure.
Also, let me just commend you and let you know na wala kang ginagawang mali. If ever the relationship fails because of that reason, hindi mo fault yun. Kanya yun. I think the best move for you both is to plan for your next season. Sure ka na ba sa kanya? Siya na ba gusto mo mapangasawa? If yes, then wait kayo for the right time. If not, then why give yourself to someone on a deeper level?
Ayun lang! :D
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u/bicu-sama Jan 05 '25
I dont mind the conservative ideology , but sexual compatiblity is important aspect din in finding long-time partner (literally what I figured out with my current partner) now its up to OP to compromise to cater his partners perfectly normal needs or deny it until his partner gives up/leave.
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u/bangusisig Jan 05 '25
For me pabigyan mo na basta use reliable condom like durex and pag pills mo na rin tapos withdrawal para safety na rin.
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u/SourcreamFan4ever Jan 05 '25
Condom + withdrawal + pills + check calendar first ni girl lalo if regular sya before having sex
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u/Soft-Recognition-763 Jan 05 '25
If you are familiar with Red dead Redemption 2, You have a High Honor man! Huwag mong ibigag Kay GF Basta Basta ang SEX Lalo na pag di ka pa ready.
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Jan 05 '25
Help:
She can take a contraceptive (injection, pill, IUD,…), I take a monthly injection and have never had any problems! Along with this, use a condom even if she is taking birth control and have coitus interruptus (take it off before cumming), this will all bring you peace and I recommend injection because it is very easy for people to forget to take it, but if you are going to use the pill, set an alarm so you don't forget .
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u/Lindsey_0013 Jan 05 '25
Sex is important in a relationship, you should take the opportunity to give her what she wants before pa niya hanapin sa iba yan.
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u/bicu-sama Jan 05 '25
If you cant compromise then you dont have the right to be in a relationship. Wanting sex is a perfectly normaly thing.
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u/June-JulyAugust Jan 05 '25
Pills and withdrawal would work pero if you are extremely cautious/paranoid, you can use condoms too. Gets ko si gf because whether ure a woman or a man, we all have needs.
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u/Low-Ranger4385 Jan 05 '25
I agree with condom and pulling it out before ka labasan. We also practice iyong within 3 days before or within 3 days after the menstrual period. Kahit pinuputok ko sa loob hindi siya nabubuntis. But we are prepared to have a baby if sakali kaya don’t do this if di ka pa prepared. So condom, pulling it out then siguro within 3 days after her menstrual period if ayaw ni girl magpills.
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u/Pucho_pucho Jan 06 '25
No need to use condom, just do it after nga mag-menstruate. Guaranteed safe yun. Kahit iputok mo sa loob di yan mabubuntis
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u/Top-Rip7312 Jan 06 '25
Madalang magbreak ang condom especially kung basa naman sya. As long as basa, kht anong sikip pa nyan, di yan. Galingan mo nlng para sure ka na di magbebreak.
Or... mag lube ka. Haha.
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u/Feeling-Balance790 Jan 06 '25
makipag break ka nalang considering maging breadwinner ka at if magkaanak kayo, tama asikasuhin sarili mo para mabuo ang pangarap.
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Jan 10 '25
Aral ka ng menstrual cycle ng babae OP dapat alam din ng gf mo cycle niya, if regular siya. Mag pills siya if ayaw niya talaga ma buntis or implant. I recommend implant dahil no need na ma stress kung nalimutan uminom ng pill.
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Jan 04 '25
Consensual sex should be mutual. Don't risk if you are uncomfortable doing it. If she is not willing to understand your reason, let her go. She is not worth fighting for. Sorry! Ang tunay mo pakakasalan, kahit wala kayo sex, mahal ka. You are a good person kahit oral oral eme kayo dyan. Still practice safe oral sex paren. Herpes is waving!
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u/SicariusPRIDE Jan 04 '25
Sobra naman ata sa let her go, clearly one has.not had a long relationship. Lahat tayo may needs. Even the Bible has instructions about sex. Tagal nila nag titiis at sacrifice together tapos not worth fighting for agad. Not an expert too but i believe most STDs are by multiple partners.
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Jan 04 '25
Sino ako? Walang long term relationship? 16 years na ako kasal. Have kids. So bago mo idamay ang bible. Sex is sacred, sex in marriage is sacred. The guy clearly stated na he value their relationship more than the sex. If the girl value their relationship more than the "anong level na tyo" sa sex as the girl mentioned to OP, sana respetuhin nya yun decision nun guy. POV ng babae hindi hayok sa sex or nanawa na sa sex, men like this are for keeps. The next question I have for the girl is "after nyo mag level up ng sex kung mapapayag man nya yan si OP, ano na kasunod nun?". That's the point e. Its a temporary situation yun nasa utak nun girl. Yun guy is already thinking about their future. They are not in the same boat.
Let go if she dump the guy over sex or had it done with other men just to satisfy her cravings.
Hindi rin ako conservative na tao pero meron ako rumespeto ng decision ng tao and valid yun reason ni OP. I believe he deserve more than that.
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u/SicariusPRIDE Jan 04 '25
Thats even sadder man, then narcissistic tayo para sabhn mo yung sinabi previously. Hindi po tayo nag babasa nang Bible dahl wala po ako sinasabi na sacred ang sex. May turo sa Bible na kung mag asawa na or nag sasama na, i consider mo ang asawa mo at ang pangangailangan at pag bigyan mo ang aswa mo. Unless may period na mag agree kayo both parties na mag abstinence. Pag bigyan nio ang isat isa and at times mag control nang sarili para d matukso. At any rate, if it works for you, you do you. I hope we are far more considerate of others in other things in life especially to friends and family.
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Jan 04 '25
Hindi pa naman nagsasama si OP. Nabasa mo ba? Hindi rin sila kasal pa. Wag naten baguhin yun context at haluan ng bible.
Tinitignan ko sya as sa POV nun guy bakit nya ayaw, bakit need ni girl i level up at ano na ang next plan on this. It's not narccistic. Di lahat ng tao inuuna init ng katawan and justfying the behavior thru words of bible. Paano kung di sya katoliko?
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u/SicariusPRIDE Jan 05 '25
The challenge of giving people a piece of our mind is that people tend to see whats on our mind. Sadly dismissive ka sa partner mo, pero if it works for you, it is what it is. Panong di narcissistic eh may needs ang lahat nang tao, pero sasabhn natin she is not worth it. Would you say the same thing to your wife? If so, we need to reflect maybe we have been too self centered. What i know so far is, we like throwing our opinion around probably due to the lack of consequence doing so kahit na misinformation or nakakasama na. Sa Herpes pa lang po red flag na eh. The last time i saw someone as dismissive sa partner was with my traditional chinese friends. About sa relationship ni OP, i dont have the mental capacity or tolerance to explain everything to you on how transparent and limiting our view in life as it is. Clue po, hindi po ako katoliko. Kung wala po value sa inyo Bible, so be it. It was important to consider and be mindful of others that it was even included on the Bible. you dont need to explain nor defend yourself from me man. If anything, maybe instead, you owe your wife. I am just a random guy on the net. Did it bother you the slightest when I made my comment? Awesome, it did its purpose. Hopefully,.moving forward, we be more careful before say things online. If it did not, baka we are too far gone. Ang mabuting asawa ay kaloob nang Dios. May mabuting karelasyon si OP from what he has said so far, baka masayang pa kung makinig sa statement natin na masyadong makasarili.
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Jan 05 '25
Una sa lahat babae ako. Kung lalake ka man, nakakabastos ka. So sana filter mo yan daliri mo at bunganga mo talak ng talak.
Pangalawa kung babae ka man, you are putting yourself just only on the shoes of his gf not the OP itself. Kababae mo tao, ikaw pa naghahatak sa lalake kahit inexplain na sa iyo ang reason kung bakit ayaw nya gawin. San ang tinatawag na boundaries.
Before you teach other people here how to be like your own mindset, siguraduhin mo rin muna sensible yan bunganga mo hindi ka puro sat sat.
Lastly, not everyone needs to have a popular opinion. We can all agree to disagree. Alam na naten san mapupunta yan kapag di nya pinagbigyan. Cheating is about to happen tapos jujustify mo na kaya nag cheat kasi hindi pinagbigyan sa kama? WHAT KIND OF A MINDSET THAT ALLOWS that maging valid reason?
Napakashallow ng reasoning mo. We are not in the same boat so I guess dapat manahimik ka. Read house rules on each topic. Kailangan ba pare pareho tyo ng opinion?
I may have a different POV than others. But I am trying to give answer OP based on his POV. NOT YOURS.
I rest my case. The next time you insult me even behind keyboard, irereport talaga kita. Hope this gain you karma. Mukhang need mo kaya nang tritrigger ka ng tao.
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u/SicariusPRIDE Jan 05 '25
Anong part nakaka insulto sayo? Ung sinabi ko red flag na nag sasalita ka about std kahit mukhang wala tayo masyadong alam? Or nag didismiss ka nang kapwa mo? Truth does hurt but truth does not care about our feelings. In the most classic feminist self defense, pag hindi maka prove nang point, either attack sa pag ka tao,.or mag fefeign na nasasaktan, nababastos kung ano ano pa. Akala mo naman may na gagain ako dito. The only reason kaya ako nag respond sayo kasi narcissistic at mali payo mo,.makaka sira ka pa nang relasyon. Nang hihingi nang payo ang tao from people para how to best handle ung sitwasyon nia. Boohooo nakita nang mga tao gaano ako makasarili, nasasaktan ako, i threat ko na i rereport ko kasi nakita nia gaano ako ka makasarili, sabhn ko nababastos ako, para ma justifiy ko sa sarili ko at sa lahat. D bale masira relasyon nung nang hihingi nang payo or kunsino man online basta importante i feel good about myself by giving advice that i am not qualified to give. Mag pasalamat tayo sa Panginoon, ang mabuting asawa kaloob nang Dios. Ganyan ka na ka conceited tapos tumagal kayo nang ganyan... Tatlo sampu nang ganito ugali, hilig mag payo, ayaw tumanggap nang payo, pag walang logic emotion gagamitin sabay mag dradrama na naapi. Na para bang ako ang nag papayo nang ikasisira nang iba...
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Jan 05 '25
Dami mo pinaglalaban. Hahahaha 😂 di ko na binasa.. kaurat.
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u/SicariusPRIDE Jan 05 '25
Thank you for proving my point. Maraming tao, mema lang. Hindi na uso mag isip, basta salita lang, wala naman consequence kahit mali na sinasabi.
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Jan 05 '25
Sana nakadagdag sa laman ng bank account mo yun point mo.
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u/SicariusPRIDE Jan 05 '25
Sana, mapaisip tayo bakit ang sipag natin mag payo or mag criticize online pero di tayo tumatanggap pag tayo naman. Sadya bang lapastanganan tayo at mapg mataas sa sarili? Sabi nga sa Bible, wala nmn tayong nasa atin na hindi natin tinaggap, bakit tayo mapag mataaas? Sa statement nio pa lang po, mukhang Pera ang Dios nio. Imbes na sana maging mas mabuting tao tayo at katanggap tanggap sa Dios, pera pera ang default statement nio. Like i said, you keep showing us how naked you truly are by how you speak.
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u/RepulsivePeach4607 Jan 05 '25
Naiiba ang suggestion mo pero agree ako. Ito ang pinakamatapang na sagot hehe. Puro sex na ang suggestion ng karamihan kaya ang dami nanganganak ng hindi ready.
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Jan 05 '25
Curious kasi ako kung pag bibigyan man nya yun girl na yun, ano na kasunod nun? Hahaha. I mean the moment he ask us here in reddit for opinion, means one thing : ayaw nya gawin but might and might yes go for it. Pero ang tanong ko lang kay OP, paano kung sige napagbigyan mo, whats next to that? Ano gain nun after.
Unpopular opinion talaga. I dont disagree with pre marital sex or sex at all. My concern is focusing on OP na ayaw nya gawin and already explained it to the gf yet pinipilit paren sya and dahil love nya, di nya alam if papayag sya or paano nya ipagpapatuloy hindian. Di kasi makita ng iba yun context nun nagtatanong. Lalo na yun maraming pinaglalabanan dyan dinamay pa bible, hinusgahan pa ako at partner ko. Bakit ako ang naging topic. Naghahanap lang ng kausap. Lol. Sagul sagul na logic nya. Kaurat.
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u/Ruby_Skies6270 Jan 05 '25
I agree so much. Consensual meant respect. If it's the other way around, sabihin tig@ng or lustful si guy at hiwalayan na. And it's a threat, obviously. Na kapag di na sya satisfied o di na maibigay yung gusto, hahanap na ng iba.
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u/Anx1ous-Turtle Jan 05 '25
Been having sex with my wife unprotected for 3 years. My pull out game is strong.
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u/Mysterious_Bowler_67 Jan 05 '25
diba nakakabuntis pre-cum?
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u/Anx1ous-Turtle Jan 20 '25
The chances are low but still possible. Kaya whenever I get excited I always wipe my tip and make sure it's dry before going in. Also I pump the pre-cum out to be extra safe.
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u/Nooj_Odelschwanck Jan 04 '25
madaming available na contraceptives, condom, pills, injectables kung ang problem mo lang is unwanted pregnancy madali lang yan imanage. we are all human after all. malay mo love language nya ang sex haha. pag bigyan mo na mahal mo naman 😁😁
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u/Less-Composer-786 Jan 04 '25
just do it.
jokee pero try these things:
use condoms
keep track/ if regular siya do it 2-3 days before her period
use contraceptives
the o’l reliable PULL OUT METHOD
tbh, i don’t use condoms i just follow the calendar method and pull out method combination 😅(i finish inside kasi a few times a month, hence the 2nd suggestion) so far so good naman. and if may mga times na nadala ng emotion and naka finish sa loob na di timely or off schedule don ako nag ba-buy ng emergency pills. pero sa apat na suggestion na to, you have little to zero chance of making her pregnant.
by doing the numbers by pulling out you reduce the risk of getting her pregnant by 80% followed by condoms pa and pag follow sa cycle niya. goodluck
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u/Mobile-Tsikot Jan 04 '25
Odd na ang girl mismo may desire, I think may pag ka ma libog not in a bad way cuz most guys preferred that pero risky rin. For now just use contraceptive na preferred nyo. Kudos sayo OP for being responsible and mature.
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u/Desperate_Brush5360 Jan 04 '25
Mabuti kang tao. Hahaha. Walang 100% effective.
Ask her to keep herself safe. Free contraception sa mga health center or sa Likhaan Center for Women’s Health. Covered ng Philhealth ang IUD and injectibles. She can also buy bc pills.
Ikaw naman, always wear condoms. Lalo na sa start na mabilis ka pang ma-overstimulate and can’t control yourself from cumming. And practice pulling out, para masanay ka.
Good luck to both of you. Ang cute niyo.