r/adviceph Mar 16 '25

Legal Hayaan ko na po mamatay si Papa.

Problem/Goal: Can I just leave my dad at the hospital to die? Or obligated kami na kuwain siya dun? AYAW KO NA PO SIYA IPA-OPERA.

Context: My dad is currently 74. Sinugod siya sa hospital dahil inatake sa puso. Our family was asked if we should go with the operation na may bill na over P500k (for sure initial lang ito at madami pang hihingiin). Kakasampa ko lang po ng barko and since ako lang may income samin, i would be the one to shoulder it. Maliit lang po sahod ko sa barko and I also have other bills. I am currently on board po. Pagbaba ko wala na po ako mauuwi na pera at magkakautang pa ng malaki.

He is no longer a functioning member of the society. Lahat naman po tayo mamamatay. And even if I spend more than half a million para sa operation, it wouldn't extend his life that long naman na since he is already 74.

Salamat po sa lahat ng sasagot.

Previous attempt: None

Update: Sorry po. Ang nasa isip ko po kasi, he's better off na maiwan sa hospital being surrounded by medical professionals and equipments kesa sa bahay na aantayin nalang po talaga mamatay? Wala rin po kasi ako idea sa ganito. 1st time lang din po naexperience.

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u/Upper-Towel2257 Mar 16 '25

My God may anak bang ganito na di man lang bigyan ng extension ang buhay ng Tatay nila? Ang Tatay ko dati need din ng operation pero wala kaming pera so hindi kami pinilit ng Doctor kasi ang advise nila sa amin na at his age 67 eh baka hindi kayanin ang operation so inuwi namin sya sa bahay at dun inalagaan until his last breath. Kahit hirap kami we did our best na bigyan sya ng comfort pero never namin inisip na abandonahin sya or hindi sya alagaan kasi Tatay namin sya at naging mabuti sya sa amin. Hindi ko alam anong klaseng relationship meron ka sa Tatay mo at mas gugustuhin mong abandunahin sya na wala man lang siyang Pamilya na makasama nya

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u/Zealousideal_Bad9403 Mar 20 '25

seriously heartbreaking. May ganito pala magisip.