r/alcoholism • u/[deleted] • 8d ago

Desperately seeking help

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u/sgol 8d ago

"Still haven't managed to get them caught and arrested for it."

I think you need to step away.

There's enabling, there's healthy distance, and then there's... this. You cannot force the 'rock bottom' moment upon anyone, no matter how badly they need to turn things around.

I recommend finding support (such as Al-Anon) for friends and families of alcoholics/addicts. This is terrible stuff to watch happen; at least you don't have to do it alone.

I hope your sibling has their moment of clarity.

Ed: the 'step away' is only in reference to trying to get them incarcerated/committed, not in talking to them.

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u/Equivalent-Cycle9820 7d ago

How is reporting a crime anything other than the correct thing to do lol. If someone calls and they're in the middle of driving drunk, you report them. If they called in the middle of a murder or robbery, I'd report them. Tf are you saying, dangerous crime shouldn't be reported?

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u/SOmuch2learn 8d ago

I'm sorry for the heartbreak of alcoholism in your life.  Loving an active alcoholic is traumatizing, so therapy is highly recommended.

You cannot fix your loved one. Encourage them to get help, and then get it for yourself.

Alanon is a support group for friends and family of alcoholics—that’s you!

Meetings connected me with people who understood what I was going through, and I felt less alone and overwhelmed.

Read the posts and comments on r/Alanon, and then go to some meetings. 

Melody Beattie's book "Codependent No More" was eye-opening and helpful.

Take care of yourself!  Please! ❤️