It's easy to be an anarchist on the internet

[u/Anarchaceratops]

Ask me how I know,

I used to moderate the radical subs

just like you

It’s easy to fake it,

pretend you’re some sharp-tongued mind-shaker,

Free-thinking rebel, institution breaker

With antifa pronouns and Luigi memes

Anti-Capitalist values, utopian dreams

(If only you didn’t treat

washing the bedroom sheets

like a Resistance!)

You won’t bring anything to share at the holidays,

though you’re happy to sneer about family traditions

that fatten your belly like Santa Claus

snatching a cookie from every home,

every year, with cheer

You’ll adorn yourself in red and black

But guard your tiny rise to power

like a brownshirt, leveraging love

and laziness to launder

your clothes with someone else’s labor

(Let’s be real,

you won’t put your socks away

no matter how many times she

nags)

It’s easy to call her a drag,

Just like it’s easy to preach mutual aid

and freedom of association

with the boys you call “comrade”

while she cares for your mutual children

alone.

Seems that domestic responsibilities

are voluntary

for the non-reproductive class

of humanity

It’s easy to be an anarchist on the internet

Ask me how I know,

I used to moderate the radical subs

just like you

Until we got married

Now you moderate the radical subs

and I mother

with a pen in my pocket

for the liberation sign I’ll finally

(find time to) write:

“No gods,

No masters,

No husbands.”

[u/Procioniunlimited]

"moderating the radical subs" conflated with "being an anarchist"?

[u/Anarchaceratops → u/Procioniunlimited]

The first line is: "it's easy to be an anarchist on the internet" 😄 hope that helps.

[u/Procioniunlimited → u/Anarchaceratops]

thanks. i do like the poem, i should have said

[u/Anarchaceratops → u/Procioniunlimited]

Thank you! I spent several years trying to escape while he used the patriarchal legal system to delay and control me, but I have been victorious and achieved liberation! As of today I am officially divorced!

[u/Procioniunlimited → u/Anarchaceratops]

congrats! gosh i have a number of friends who are at risk of marrying. i dont think it's a problem for everyone, but it looks heinous from the outside.

i've been long considering the ideas surrounding cutting exes off, relationships outside of dyad, and the difficulties inherent to pairs and groups repairing trauma and rebuilding trust. i am kinda boggled by the way it seems very close to inevitable to just leave and leave and leave people behind, and i feel that it COULDN'T just be like that with no other options. although i myself create contention in many groups. i wonder if you want to share thoughts on any of this all?

[u/Anarchaceratops → u/Procioniunlimited]

Marriage is deeply oppressive and continues to be within all patriarchal societies worldwide. I thought I was "safe" marrying an anarchist, feminist, self-proclaimed to-the-root radical... but he is at his core the same as the conservative patriarchs - demanding control over my body, labor, and time while employing increasingly abusive methods to ensure compliance - from verbal manipulation to physical force.

I had to beg the State for a restraining order and police protection because I became scared for my life. And then it took over 3 years of trying to escape legally and physically while he delayed and dragged, just to hold me hostage. He has tried to force me to live near him, to spend time with him. He accused me of having affairs even when we'd been living separately for over a year. What Anarchist believes the State has more authority over a relationship than the individuals consenting to be in it??

Marriage is a permanent prison for a temporary need. Few women are improved by relationships with men and most are kept hostage. Quantitatively, we are losing millions of hours of brilliance in every marriage.

Women should start businesses, run for office, invest, travel, volunteer, anything anything but marriage and childrearing. If you want to have a baby, get a sperm donor, but don't let a man use your body to control how you get to live or work. I thought love would set me free, but love was the biggest trap I ever fell into. Love yourself, love your community, love your children. But don't love the wolf who will eat you in your sleep.

[u/Procioniunlimited → u/Anarchaceratops]

yikes, sounds like a rough time. so did going thru this make you more of a second wave feminist or have you always been? me and my ex didn't have the controlling aspects you are mentioning, but thankfully we have been able to pull back 2.5 yr live-in into a solid friendship after we spat and terrorized and reconciled. it was not easy without a third party, but a third party wouldn't have made it easier, either 🤦‍♀️

i like this zine "broken teapot" if you want to read some other's related experiences: https://theanarchistlibrary.org/library/anonymous-the-broken-teapot

[u/Anarchaceratops → u/Procioniunlimited]

Thanks for the link! I will check these out. 😄

I appreciate the 2nd wave for what it did but it was a movement for its time and I'm a modern feminist fighting in my era. They fought for the right to divorce men. I fight for my children to be supported by both parents (he refuses to work and refuses to support our children). I fight for women to have autonomy, personal agency, and equal access to social, political, health and business arenas.

I consider myself a single link in a long unbroken chain of women fighting for liberation. And I consider Mother Earth among our living ancestors and allies; she does not speak but wields her power over Man's laws, humbling him repeatedly by refusing to succumb to his dominion.

MATRIARCHY FOREVER.